I don’t want to be your friend anymore. All you do is complain. Every time I see you, you say you’re worried we are drifting apart. Perhaps we are, but by saying that you are putting the burden on me to save the friendship, and quite frankly I don’t have the time. If you want to be friends, be fun, don’t add another burden. But quite frankly I’m done with it anyway, we are just different people who like different food, people, places, music and ways of living. Why don’t you see that? —How Do You Break Up with a Friend?
This article appears in Mar 4-10, 2010.
uh, don’t you just un-friend them on facebook?
isn’t that the mecca these days?
I’d flat out just deny any requests to do anything anymore….
a few of those and they’d get the hint.
ask the person involved, if they ever saw the first terminater movie. if they say they did, ask them if they also remeember what he said when he killed a bunch of people. if they do, say well, that’s what i’m saying to you now, hasta lavista baby.
Ever watch ‘Friends’? Phase them out.
it’s actually “cut them out”… episode with ross’s tan.
I’d rather not disclose why I know that.
Hahaha… i love that episode. Ross can act so gay sometimes…. yet he got the hottest girl on the show… 3 TIMES!
“he got the hottest girl on the show… 3 TIMES!”
that’s like being the skinniest kid admitted to fat camp.
Good decision. I’ve had to do the same thing to someone I had known for over 20- years – it was never a visit, it was always a whine and borefest that jumped on my last nerve one too many times. The drone made me want to rip my nosehairs out with a pair of plyers. What was worse were the whimpers of ‘no one ever comes to visit’, ‘I could be dead for all anybody cares’, ‘I’m so bored’, ad naseum. So I wrote this person a tactful e-mail, basically saying: ‘get a life’ – haven’t heard a peep since.
Some people are just poisonnous. Recognize them, and then remind yourself that everyone is responsible for their own happiness, that includes them and includes you. Deciding whether you can actually salvage a friendship requires brutal honesty, and not every friendship can be saved. I’m sorry to get all pseudo-therapist on you OP, but there are so many people with bitches they can’t do anything to change, while you can. Don’t let anyone make you miserable, my friend.