To all the above average looking fish out there on that certain dating site, maybe put a headline in your profile stating “I’m a shallow bitch and will only reply to messages from guys that resemble Brad Pitt”. News flash! You’re on a god damn dating site, a free one at that. Obviously you’re not so god damn perfect yourself since you can’t find love in the real world. Maybe try giving us average looking guys a chance. —Ugly and Desperate
This article appears in Jul 14-20, 2011.
Put a picture of Brad Pitt on your profile. Just kidding. Don’t sell yourself short OP, those women probably aren’t worth the time of day. Your lady will find you.
Once again, maybe there’s a problem with you, OP.
It’s not always about “looking like Brad Pitt”. Sometimes you’re just not attracted to someone, which is no fault of either party. If you don’t get a response, just move on to the next person. Internet dating is brutal.
OLD is brutal.
Unfortunately with online dating it comes down to your photo and what you put in your profile. Its all very superficial, and its really not all that much fun, though I hear it should be.
Newsflash! They aren’t looking for love.
Sometimes I like average……(but only in the looks department).
I think you could say the same about the “men” on that site, actually. People have unrealistic expectations when it comes to finding people on dating sites.
Maybe if so many of you guys on that website didn’t just send identical messages to every girl on that site that looked passable, we wouldn’t be so overwhelmed with messages. Seriously, a person cannot seriously strike up a decent conversation with more than 3 potential dates in a night.
No sympathy. I don’t think that’s fair to say/ I’m a female on this site, and I receive a lot of messages that I don’t reply to. I read all the messages, look at their profiles, if they seem interesting, intelligent, my type etc. then I will write back. Looks are not at all the only determining factor. Maybe you just have a lousy profile, or wrote a terrible first message.
You just don’t get it. You’re not my type! We don’t have similar interests! Is the only reason you’re messaging me is because I’m “above average” in the looks departement? That would make you the shallow one.
I even try to write back friendly “no thanks, but all the best” kind of messages, only to receive messages like this in return. Fuck off.
OP, not all chicks date gorgeous guys. I’ve noticed some women who are with barely average looking guys. Maybe it’s because she thinks he’s not attractive enough to wander so he’s a safe bet.
Looks are not a priority for me at all. I find myself messaging more 6’s than 9’s or 10’s. Maybe it’s my profile pic, I was never good with the whole myspace pose.
for once you’re right Seb…
the Fuglies with $$ get their fare share of 8-9’s
Just go on a date with two 5s at once 😀 = 10! Or two 4s and a 2. Or one 6 and four 1s!
I am on the site in question.
I rewrote my profile about 6 months back.
I heard from female friends that many guy profiles were boring and poorly written. Then the guys message the women wirh “hey sup” and the like, or treat them like meat.
I reasoned that if I am a cool guy on the site, sincerely looking for love, there could be a woman there to do the same. So I act like that. My “luck” has been pretty good.
And I’m in a fucking wheelchair.
Proves that quality women usually look for a quality guy and can be “forgiving of an imperfection”.
I get around 5-10 messages a week from women. A few are well written and interest me. It goes both ways. I don’t answer “hey sup” from women either.
OP, write a great profile and when you message, write as if you read their profile. Make some effort.
And for corn’s sake, don’t talk about head on the first date!
w-p
what the size of your head? teehee
I imagine it also would help to be hung like an ox.
his head can fill this sucker.
http://assets.sbnation.com/assets/33770/fu…
haha, he does have a big tete. my head is like this and birds fly into it http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2169/219515…
lol “”to all above average looking fish out there”
That line makes the rest of your bitch a bunch of hypocrisy.
You want potential lovers to look past your looks, but you won’t. You’re only interested in above average looking girls, nothing wrong with that. Just know that many of them are looking for above average looking guys.
You get what you give. Maybe you need to set your expectations a little lower or just get out more.
My advice is stop chasing, focus on making yourself more attractive, fun, and desirable. Act like you could care LESS about if a girl likes you or not. Women can smell desperation, even over the internet.
And word to the wise, a lotta girls on plenty of fish have fucked half of HRM. That includes the pretty ones.
I have been on that website for a while… I am a woman. I can’t tell you how many horribly written ‘first messages’ that I have received. You had mays well write “Nice Tits – wanna fuck?” I have meet some men from there, only one worth keeping around, and he and I have become amazing friends, and he is now married with a child.
POF is a place to get ass. If you’re looking for a long term lasting loving relationship, let it come to you. Stop chasing it. If you want to get herpes, keep on fishing.
My cousin met her partner on POF. He moved from Ontario to be with her and they bought a house together a couple years ago and our family really likes him. They’re both in their late 30s.
So, it’s not ALL bad, I guess.
Its a fun site. Good and bad are everywhere. The problem is, people frm all walks of life are on there. In the “real” world, chances are that I won’t be socializing with someone who works at A&W, has children but no car, and who uses drugs 3+x a week. So I sure as hell won’t answer a message from them, no matter what they look like.
ugly is one thing; it can be ‘spruced up’ to project a more attractive image.
if you keep looking while you’re desperate and you do find a fish, I hope you’re prepared for a really toxic experience.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
it’s unfortunate you can’t tell what they smell like through the computer screen
You can if you have a trained eye, PG.
Also, OP, if you consider yourself ugly and desperate, other people also will, and even more. Being ugly is one thing, being ugly and having low self esteem or a chip on your shoulder, that’s pretty much impossible to work with.
I see ugly dudes with gorgeous girls ALL THE TIME.
Maybe you’re just not interesting. I know I dabbled with online dating, never actually met anyone, it wasn’t for me. You gotta understand you’re competing with a lot of other guys, so put a little effort into your messages. Treat it like you’re approaching someone in the real world, you want to try and make them laugh right away. Put something unexpected instead of..
“Hi there, I read your profile and you see like a very ____, ____ and ____ person
I also enjoy ____ and _____
I am a
She’s snoozing by then dude, and she’s on to the next one. She probably gets that same message several times a day. Ugly beats boring any day.
http://supralimen.files.wordpress.com/2010…
I re-entered the dating world last fall and that website is brutal. Any guy I messaged on there that was intelligent and even remotely attractive either never got back to me or we talked for a bit and he wouldn’t get off his ass and go on a real date. I gave up on that. I’d rather just focus on myself right now instead of dealing with that bullshit.
I was recently on this site, too, and decided being single was far better. I am sure there are nice men on there, but they are outnumbered by the bad ones, and I haven’t figured out how to find them.
Plenty of syphilfish
clever girl
I’m guessing it’s not your lack of looks OP but your crass and obvious attitude of entitlement that keeps the ladies away. Maybe try to stop being such a douchebag. Ha ha! Like that will ever happen.
OB, maybe you should start giving those average looking girls a chance 😉 You’re ugly and desperate and they’re average and desperate.. sounds like you’d still be winning and hey.. you might even have a chance 😉
I’d party with VOT.