This goes out to all my feminist friends. I’ve read my share of feminist literature- Steinem, Klein, even Camille Paglia (controversial and sadistic-you go Grrrrl!) I’ve even taken a Women’s Studies course or two.
My question is this: Why do you think that because I’ve chosen to live my life fairly traditionally (husband, kid, shaved armpits, etc.) that I don’t believe in fairness and equality? Maybe I just know myself, and enjoy being the Domestic Goddess that I am.
When you visit my home, I don’t care about your feminist principles- help me with the GD dishes if I cook for you. Do you think that because I work at home that I’m your doormat?
I’ve had this experience with 3 different women in the past couple of years: You’re a feminist, fair enough. The problem is that you refuse to do anything domestic whatsoever. But I think that it’s just being a polite houseguest to help around the kitchen a little, regardless of personal politics- ESPECIALLY when you have special dietary requests like vegetarian/fair trade/lactose & gluten-free gourmet meals!
When you visit me, I will be a gracious host, but I find it exasperating to tell a grown woman “ummm…maybe you could watch the baby while I cook/clean/entertain you?” You are not the Queen of Sheeba!
This article appears in Aug 7-13, 2008.
Feminism – been there, done that – the whole movement has become a colossal joke and I really do detest those feminists who believe their choices are the only valid choices. I had friends like yours and their negative assessments of my oppressed married life really wore me down – eventually I had the sense to dump those narrow-minded cows – no regrets there. Never feel guilty about who you are and tell those lazy little bitches to get off their clams and help out.
In many ‘third world’ cultures it is considered appropriate to help the host clean after they take you in and provide hospatility. Of course that’s after a good burp.You should have said that the soap is equal oppertunist and it is payment for services rendered and you would ask the same if it were male or female. And if they are all about ‘female empowerment’ then they respect the majesty of YOUR household then they band togeather and ensure the tyranny of the dishes do not last a second longer.Then you pimp slap them if they give you lip.I don’t know, sometimes I think the ‘developed world’ needs a bit of ‘third world’ hospatility.
Gimpy dude i’m a fan! seriously you hammered it, truly you have that way about you for thinking. i felt that way a long time, that this so called civilized culture needs to be cultured by perhaps the third world, Gimpy i wish i could shake your hand dude!
mmm third world hospitality.did you know, that under the dreaded taliban, the punishment for listening to music was a fine, and if you didnt pay the fine, a couple of fighters would show up at your door, and as a good host you would have to provide for them (shelter, food whatnot). BUT only for three days. after that the mandatory hospitality ends, and they dont have to be fed anymore. thats dreaded taliban for ya.at least thats what i heard from a co-worker who is originally from Afghanistan.
For the most part, feminists are doing good work. But then you do get the women (and men) who are really just hurting their own cause by being overly fanatical. You see it with every type of belief system (especially religion). But you can’t let the few ruin the good message that the rest are spreading. We NEED equality of the sexes and right now that is far from being a reality.
People can say they’re whatever they want, but if they can’t back it up, they’re full of shit. Organic, fairly traded, female-friendly, gluten-free shit. I’d make one last alfalfa sprout pita for these hypocrites and serve it up with a nice long dialogue about actions speaking louder than words, then I’d drop Paglia quotes on them until they left of their own accord.
I once met a really cool, earthy chick through a friend who asked me to move into her house with her 3 roomates. they were all feminist lesbians. i was cool with this, my cousin is a slightly well-known drag performer and has been flamboyantly gay and my best friend since we were kids. i never thought i would have a problem with a ‘group’ of people. but soon after i moved in, they started pretending to be bothered by the smell of my DEODORANT and shampoo, telling me that i can’t play my hip hop music because it has “negative messages about women” and that i cant cook meat in the house because the smell made them ill and they didnt want the dishes to touch meat. i couldnt clean the house because they hated the “industrial” smell of cleaners.the smell of cat piss was more their style. then they started going postal when my boyfriend visited, called us “breeders” under their breath, slammed doors and would walk around going “oh good lord, the fornicators are trying to breed again” when we werent even having sex, and constantly bitched when i took too long in the shower and said “y’know, shaving your legs isn’t VITAL to your survival.” i know it isnt BITCH, but just like i don’t judge you for your lifestyle, i expect that you not judge me for mine. call me ignorant all you like, but ive never met a personable feminist lesbian.
Here we go with the feminism….Like ANYTHING….to each his own. Oh, pardon me, to each HER own. But do NOT sit there and shove all your bull shit down my throat. You can think and feel however you want, its a free country, but if YOU decide to be a GUEST in someone else’s house, fuck off and use some manners and be a good little guest or don’t fucking go there to begin with. Who made you God to decide what you think or feel is right?? It’s a fucking lame ass excuse to be a lazy fuck is all it is in this case. If your going to shove it down someone else’s throat, here it is down yours. And shave, for fuck sake. Never seen any evidence that a woman is supposed to look like a fucking monkey. My suggestion OP…..they aren’t your friends. They are lazy freeloaders. Unload them and get friends that will help you out because they have COURTESY and are GRATEFUL for your hospitality instead of their stupid “beliefs”. And yes, I’m a woman!
I’m with Uncle Jesse.
You ask your guests to clean your house?!