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Someone near to me recently passed away. It’s sad, difficult and hard to believe, really. What really irks me is the amount of fucking condolences received over Facebook. How is this even remotely appropriate? Pick up the damn phone!
Pathetic. —Sad
This article appears in Aug 8-14, 2013.
18 Comments
facebook or nothing your choice facebook is a viable communication platform
Things change, like the way we socialize.
I imagine a happy birthday message via Facebook would be okay for you. Ergo, it stands to reason that a Facebook condolence would be apropos as well.
If you don’t like Facebook, shut down your account.
But what’s really worse in this whole situation is your poor attitude about HOW you receive a condolence message. Be it by phone, email. in person or fucking skywriting, the person thought enough of you to reach out in your time of grief.
Owning to this time of grief, I won’t tell you to fuck off today; but in 3 months… FUCK OFF!
“I can’t believe ‘Smell you Later’ replaced ‘Rest in Peace’
as an appropriate expression of bereavement?”
– Bart to the Future.
If they posted it on Facebook then they obviously want responses on Facebook. That’s kind of obvious.
stuff like this pisses me off too, especially how LAZY everyone has gotten with typing a WHOLE word!!
For example:
The word Congratulations has been so bastardized. It went from Congratulations to Congrats to Congrads to CG/cg
what the hell?? I really hate it when people type that shit on my FB posts….
And now Facebook has become FB
wait… doesn’t that make you a fool?
see how stupid it is, that was my point…..We really need a sarcasm font.
Well damn…
now I’m a fool
looks like you have your first advocate for your sarcasm button, frenchie
And I thought I had you on that one
Facebook is stupid!!!! So are all other forms of social media, including this website. They are meant for entertainment, and leave a lot to be desired when it comes to matters that require a more personal touch. I view condolences as something that demand a more personal approach, and posting them on someones FB page is cheaping out on your responsibilities as a friend.
You’re condemning people for using social media to offer their condolences? Hate to be the one to break the news to you but that’s been the norm for several years now. What the fuck are you expecting? A tear-drenched rag from each and every person who is sorry for your loss? Get a fucking grip here. Sounds like you’re channelling some big feelings thru this silly, petty bitch about Fartbook.
do they have your number? And furthermore, have you given them any indication that you considered them so close to you? Reaching out is something that is done over time, not something you just suddenly come to expect because your life is going badly.
For what it’s worth, social media or not, i’m sorry for whatever loss you’re experiencing at the moment. I don’t have your number. Otherwise, I’d call.
I dunno, instead of my phone ringing every two minutes, I’d probably much prefer FB condolences. But to each their own. *shrug*
High five to SHITD on that one. Completely agree. Also, I think sometimes people only ever post on Facebook if they think it’s something that will get them some form of attention (c’mon you know the type; cryptic posts about emotions, passive-aggressive i-told-you-so’s, frequent relationship updates).
If someone truly wants to offer you condolences on your grief, then maybe a phone-call or a card or a visit in person. Honestly, none of these interactions will really provide much relief from the pain of a lost love one but at least they are legit ways to show you really care. If you don’t really care, which is quite possible on Facebook, then I think consoling your distant acquaintance on a post that they’ve already made on the subject is OK.
Also, Frenchie, I get you were being sarcastic but I do agree with your original point about people taking too many short-cuts when texting and facebooking, etc. I fear the impending idiocracy that will come as the result of an apathetic civilization with a premature abundance in technology and knowledge.
I apologize in advance for the extreme opinions.
Exit FB. Problem solved.
Social media has evolved people to become socially inept.
Depends on whether the news of the person’s passing was posted on Facebook by the bereaved. If it was, a Facebook condolence is acceptable if not warranted but, if not, the phone would be more appropriate.
I hear ya Steve.
100 years ago, people were probably angry that condolences were phoned in. Things change. Catch up or fall behind. Your choice.