I was entering a store in Cole Harbour, and as far as I could tell, no one else was coming into the store. I saw no one in my periphery, and heard no footsteps behind me. When I was in the store a lady starting calling “Oh my God. RUDE RUDE.” I turned and realized that was directed at me. Why? Because I didn’t hold the door for the person I didn’t know was there. I said “I didn’t know anyone was behind me.” And the reply was “You could have turned around. RUDE RUDE.” OK, honest mistake. It happens. But realize this, lady: calling out “RUDE RUDE” after me doesn’t make you polite, and it doesn’t make me want to apologize to you. I didn’t follow you around calling “obnoxious, obnoxious” which is what you deserved. By not making a scene and not in turn calling you out is more polite and couteous than your behaviour toward me. Sometimes, believe it or not, people don’t hold doors open for me, and I don’t go forming opinions about them or resort to name-calling. I just figure, like you should have, that they didn’t see me, are preoccupied on their task(s) or have headphones on and also didn’t hear me. So, if god forbid, another individual fails to hold a door for you, you entitled snob, keep your mouth shut. If you don’t, expect to get back what you dish out. Merry Christmas, by the way. —See? I am Polite
This article appears in Dec 6-12, 2012.
Just tell the SET that you believe in equal rights and she can open her own damn door. BTW this is directed at obnoxious people.
This is where I like to pull out the ole GO FUCK YOURSELF, can be used on numerous occasions.
Yeah, just kick ’em in the cunt and tell ’em to fuck off. God, some women…
sometimes o.p., you just don’t wanna get up in the morning, then there are days like you just had. FUCK THEM PEOPLE.
Should have wrestled her to the ground and farted in her mouth.
A lady said that?
Or was it a decrepit, old hag?
She sounds like someone’s annoying grandma.
assaulting and farting in her mouth gets 5 likes…
but don’t call her old?
crazies are among us.
It’s a fact, it’s all the older, “Men are supposed to be chivalrous and hold doors and lay down their jackets in puddles” bs… It just is.
No, she was not decrepid….in her 30’s, maybe 40’s
I hold the door open for man,woman blue,red,black,wheelchair,cane,young,old, I even hold the door for people I think may be “crazy’s”. I try hard to treat people how I want to be treated.I’m not saying I never fuck up,but I try not too….Having said that, I do get upset when people are rude to me. I’m in my 40’s….I have never expected any man to do something as stupid as removing his coat then laying it over a puddle,just so I could walk on it.I’d smack his Fn head,for doing something that stupid.
Yeah chivalry is dead sad to say. Most men are just plain assholes. Except you Blow. You’re sweet. I still like you. A LOT 🙂
Chivalry isn’t dead. Most men are just far more discerning about who they are going to waste it on, if at all.
Eh, mistakes happen, OB. If some random stranger wants to call you rude, pay no mind to it. There’s probably a snowball’s chance in hell that you two will ever meet again, so don’t worry about it. You know the truth that it was an honest mistake. Just shrug that shit off and keep on keepin’ on. 🙂
A fine line between being polite and being someone’s door mat. If you see/hear some one and can do something for them at the time, such as holding a door open – great. That is being polite. If they demand and expect to be treated in a special way then they are being ‘entitled’ and rude themselves.
Anyone expecting a person to do something for them better be prepared to give out a salary or a tip, because they have then made the person their servant.
She could have been in the middle of the parking lot, or a ways off to the side, when you were at the door. A person can not look everywhere for people expecting doors to be held etc. and should not be expected to do so.
I agree with those who are in the “go fuck yourself OB” mindset. As for physically assaulting them or other somewhat obnoxious actions. Not really in agreement with that …but a fuck off lady! Yeah, I’d have probably said that .
I like holding the door for people that are about 30 to 50 yards away so they feel compelled to run. Chivalry isn’t dead, it’s just turned a bit edgy.
It’s Christmas season. You don’t expect people to be nice this time of year.
You’re just embarrassed someone spoke up at your flagrant rudeness – always look behind you bitch, RUDE RUDE!!
You suck, OB. I bet you hurry into elevators and feverishly punch the door close button so you don’t have to share, don’t you OB?
While I have never been so bold as to chase someone and say Rude, Rude, I have on occasion said “Thank You” when an elevator door closes on me and the person obviously saw me coming. Perhaps accompanied with a saucy wave?
I had a 20-something do this this morning… she was MAYBE 5 feet tall, headphones on.
Walked up to the door, me a pace or two back, and she opened the door all of a crack to slip through… I damn near walked through the plate glass….
Ya know what happened next?
Since I’ve commit to memory the information necessary…
I somehow opened the door all by myself!!!!
such a novel idea.
Oh the holding of doors… what a stressful gesture. Do I hold, do I not? Are they too far back, will they have to run if I hold it open? Can we all just forget about holding doors and open them ourselves? It’ll make days much easier for us socially awkward penguins.
i think we’ve all recently seen just how well escalation works. just forget about it.
and no ‘pre-emptive strikes’ either.
I try to keep an eye out for people behind me, but too many times I forget. Sorry!
This is what I’m talking about. I give this bitch’s validity a 10 out of awesome chocolate cupcakes.
I’d say its more rude to shout at someone in public than to hold a frickin door. Cheeze whizz..
agree, the shouter was far ruder than the op, and to what effect? she just ticked off the person she was shouting at. if she actually hoped to draw their attention to the door lapse, then she could have said it quietly. ‘i was right behind you, you know’ . so what was she trying to accomplish? she just wanted to shout at someone, and get away with it in the guise of public censure. she wanted ‘right’ on her side. she wanted to nail someone. embarass someone. make someone feel badly. i doubt she would have tried that with someone who looked the type to whirl around and smack her. it’s cowardly-aggressive behaviour.
i think there’s a need for public censure of unacceptable behaviour. i think people are by and large afraid to speak up anymore. and they expect some ‘authority’ to step in. some rowdy group on the bus banging into people, swearing loudly and targeting one or two people. 30 other bus riders pretend they don’t hear. couple write a bitch about it next day.
i don’t think someone not noticing someone coming up behind them at a doorway qualifies. ‘if’ she had seen you turn, look her in the eye and deliberately draw the door shut behind you, that’s a different story. but then, she wouldn’t have shouted at such a person.
Hey HARPER! Seek a laywer! I’m pantenting that whole fart in the mouth thing. (chuckle)