You continue to allow your ex to control your life. You have children together and yes, to an extent, you need contact. I have zero issues with that! This person constantly texts and calls you for frivolous things that can obviously wait (and some things that do not even concern you). They are trying to ruin our relationship but you don’t see it. Never mind the fact that they moved on years ago and have had someone else in their life the entire time (before you split). You were hurt very deeply. Hey, we are all hurt at one time or another—some even more devastating than this. Get over it! I don’t understand why you continue to cater to such behaviour. You are better than this. You deserve better. Your ex does not want you back at all; they just want to control you and any future chance at happiness you might find with someone else. I only hope you realize this before it is too late. I have been more than patient for over a year now but am at the end of my “hope.” Hope for you, not for me. For the life of me, I don’t understand how a human being can be so mean and degrading to another, yet the victim continues to allow it to happen. So much for saving the world! It sure feels like the same-sized project! —Sleepless in see asshole?
This article appears in Sep 11-17, 2014.
A CLASSIC MASOCHISTIC-SADISTIC RELATIONSHIP
“For the life of me, I don’t understand how a human being can be so mean and degrading to another, yet the victim continues to allow it to happen.” Sleepless in see asshole?
Clearly, the relationship between these two is a classic masochistic-sadistic one. Freud of course had a great deal to say about this maintaining, as he did with all other psychological disorders, that the roots were to be found in sex.
Ordinarily, given the anatomical differences between the sexes, it would be the passive, receptive female who would assume the masochistic role and the active, aggressive male that of the sadist. But here we see a role-reversal in which the female is the sadist and the male the masochist. Does this work to undermine Freud’s theory of sexual sublimation or his his theory sufficiently elastic so as to accommodate anomalies? I would argue that it is but of course, the question is open for further analysis and discussion.
A further question is the role of the bitcher “Sleepless in see asshole?” in this matter. Is she Mexican or, perhaps more likely, is that where she, the Ex, has marked the spot? Did she use Magic Marker?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Stockholm syndrome, OB?
I dunno, did you mention all this to this person? You can’t change a person and if they won’t help themselves… well, maybe it’s time to move on?
YOU choose this person. Just because you waltzed into his life doesn’t mean his ex and children are off the radar. They will ALWAYS have a connection so you’d better get used to it for the long haul. It will not change. I’d bet an American $50 on it.
Typical lesbian relationship drama…
what does a lesbian bring with her on second date?
a u-haul
So Molly brings a u-haul on second dates. Next!
Freud was a perv although he was onto something with his madonna whore theories. This bitcher is making herself too available to an emotionally unavailable throwrug. He’s still loves his ex and will probably always love the mother of his children. Why don’t you find someone without kids and all that baggage to date. Someone who is able to put you first. I don’t think Freud will help this bitcher, “Sleepless in see asshole?” Is this a Rickyism?… like “knock knock”,
“who’s there?”…
“mr. stupity head who thinks he’s captain of the shitliner and by the way your fish sticks suck so fuck off!”