It’s horrible how you use our children against me for your own profit. The other day you tell me you need more money for for “daycare.” Daycare? WTF. You’re a stay-at-home mom. Why do you need daycare? So you can fuck off and screw around with your new stoner boyfriend? You say it’s so you can go out and find a job. You haven’t worked a day in your life and now you’re 36. Who would hire you? No education, no skills, no employment experience. Where would you apply? The local street corner? When our kids come and stay with me on the weekends, my gf and I take them out, play with them, and they love being with us. One of them even says he’d rather live with us, and the other would too if he could speak. Hearing from them that “Mommy and J fight” or “Mommy smokes too much” is not what I want to hear from my children who have to spend 5 days of the week with you. I think it’s time to contact my lawyer and fight to get them removed from you. You are not providing a positive living environment. When I come and pick them up Saturday mornings, there is J and yourself and a smell of pot in the house. Our kids deserve far better than you as a parent. I can’t believe you won’t straighten out your life at least for our children. —Daddy Cares, Mommy Doesn’t
This article appears in Oct 20-26, 2011.
You are paying the amount of child support determined by the courts, right?Then ‘Day-Care’ is covered.
You’ll need evidence that they’re doing drugs around the children, perhaps you could hire a PI.
It really sounds like you need a good Custody Lawyer.
Good call OP, go get em’!
Get a lawyer and get those poor kids out of there – this ex of yours is a useless, sloven cunt who wants to suck your financial tit dry – pop out a few kids and hook on to Mr. Meal Ticket. Your children deserve so much more than this lazy, stupid cow for a role model.
You made two children with the woman. Upon the dissolution of the marriage, you agreed to let the children live with her despite the fact that you were aware that she lacked the education and experience to support herself. More than likely you also knew that she smoked cigarettes and dope. Now, apparently, she wants to go find herself a job and for that your criticize and mock her? Asshole!
OP, I hope you realized that legally, months of argueing and posturing with your ex doesn’t mean squat. You know what matters? it is what is said in court that matters. Thats right, you’ll get your day in court, and the judge rules based on the evidance presented.
So my advice is simple. don’t let the day to day stuff rip your children into peices. don’t prime them for information, don’t criticize their mom, don’t make threats. it is brutal for a child to go through this kind of stuff.
And, for your sanity, don’t waste your time arguing with your ex.
like i said, your day in court is what causes change here, not the arguing.
am i making any sense here?
doesn’t work, hasn’t worked, and SHE got the kids? hmmm….
how was she expecting to make rent/mortgage payments upon breaking up?
food? smokes, apparently? clothes n supplies for the kids?
This sounds like quite the ex lover spat.
OB, here’s hoping you get those kids away from that useless twat of a woman. If the house smells like pot, maybe make a call to the cops on a weekend when you have the kids and report the silly bitch. I’d love to hear that her and J (I assume that’s a name) end up in jail, or best yet loses custody of the kids for good. Sounds like the one kids hates her guts.
I’m never having kids and shit like this is the reason why. I never want to be in your situation OP. Good luck. I won’t offer you any advice.
Oh.. and I also nominate your children’s mother for SET of the year. Any nominations are welcome. We could have a ceremony for the award at the end of the year.
there is o.p., a thing called custodial parent. is she doing all this shit for real? if so, then you slam her ass back in family court, and you go for these rights, with no visitation.
oh yes indeed, it can be done. i helped a female friend a few years ago, get sole custody of her son, under half the grounds you stated here.
you just need to get the right dirt, and the right judge, not all of them favor the mom.the killiam librery at dal. is a wonderful place to do your research in. most days quite, but the refference section is great. when i did first year law there, i was impressed, and that takes a lot for me. there are new mandates and edicts coming out all the time,so you might want to get a real case lawyer here.
yes, it will be a dirty fight, but unfit parents, have no right, to ruin some child’s life, further on.if grandparents want custody, they have to be actively involved in child’s life, for at least 1/3 of it, before they can be granted a standing in a court of family law. been there on this one too. and research on the net, it is a very powerful tool to use, if searching it the right way.then there is the free lawyer refferal service of nova scotia slso. there are always ways, to fight for the kids, find one today, don’t wait til tomorrow.
Document EVERYTHING! And yes, send the police over on the weekend you have the kids and get the police report. Fight! And NEVER give up. Be ruthless. These are your children and this is why you are doing this. NEVER EVER GIVE UP. Far too many men are given the shaft by these gold diggers, or should I say, baby machines. More babies, more CTC, more child support, more GST, more welfare, what a system! Canada, what a beautiful country.
Not sure that letting 2 children, one not even old enough to talk, see mum get cuffed and stuffed is the right thing to do here.
Mother’s like this piss me off. I could never imagine my child being in the same room as someone even smoking a cig.
Before my child I didn’t care for much. Now I do everything I can that is in the best interest of my child.
OB is pissed because she asked for more money, evidenced by the fact that he hasn’t been motivated to do diddly squat until now. My bet is that he will continue to do shit all about it and the kids will continue to suffer either way.
OP you got my vote. Your kids are the most precious lil people in your life.
Yup time to call the lawyer. Daycare for children when they have a stay at home mom – yeah I don’t think so.
The kids are the ones suffering!
I’m with Xeno, and Lou does raise a good point …
Something about this bitch is not rubbing me the right way.
Unfortunately the OB is right. There are women who use the kids for money.
Xeno, I think if more parents were jailed for either not paying support or refusing visits with the kids, more of this shit would stop happening.
Sending a douchebag who refuses to visit his kids doesn’t solve anything and why the fuck would I force my kid to spend time with someone who made it clear they wanted nothing to do with them. In any case, that seems rather irrelevant in this here. What does seem relevant is that the fact that the OB didn’t care enough to contemplate fighting for the welfare of his children until their mother him up for more money. There’s all kinds of examples of shitty parents out there; should we jail all of them?
and if we’re going to jail the ones who smoke dope, can we also jail the ones that drink?
“… can we also jail the ones that drink?” Oooooh pour salt in that wound!
I think it’s this bit I’m not into “You haven’t worked a day in your life and now you’re 36. Who would hire you? No education, no skills, no employment experience. Where would you apply?” So, OP you’d be content with her being their babysitter until they’re 18, to house them and feed them so you can take them and play on the weekend? Mmm ok.
I do understand some mothers will try to take you for all you’re worth, and if you truly feel wronged, take it to court. Don’t bitch about it here. Handle your business … and for heavens sake re-work your mindset to not include “…use our children against me for your own profit”. Instead think of taking your children out of a bad situation.
Lou that’s for mothers who refuse to let the father visit the kids, not fathers who don’t want to see them. BTW mother/father can be used interchangably.
Thanks for correcting me, Bro. I obviously read that the wrong way.
Bro Tim–Am I agreeing with you? Colour me surprised! I’m a teacher, and I am beginning to think people should have to apply and pass a test before they can breed!
“Unfortunately the OB is right. There are women who use the kids for money.”
as opposed to what? women that don’t? how does that make anything better?
I second the test to breed. girls should be made sterile and only gain the PRIVILEGE to procreate once they are of age and have proven they and their partner are both mentally and financially capable of raising kids. How many problems would that solve? Yes I know its not possible or realistic but just imagine a world with no welfare moms crowding the bus with their suv strollers and fighting over their babydaddys…
WHy sterilize the girls only ?
I’m all for equality…sterilize E V E R Y O N E ~;p
You do realize that sterilization is often not reversible, right?
I guess some people take the term “tubes tied” literally and figure they can just untie them like a fucking pair of shoe laces.
IIRC, in a lot of cases, the tubes are actually cut and not “tied” and cauterized, making it very VERY difficult to re construct.
Just gonna throw this one out there – the mom is 36, you have 2 children with her and since one of them cannot talk, presumably you had at least one child with this woman fairly recently.
Lesson? Be choosy who you sleep with and make sure you wear a fucking condom. If everything you say is true, why the hell did you have not one but TWO children with this failure of a mother???? And you’re an adult, right? In your 30s? (just a guess)
Clearly you were aware of her character before having kids so you know what? Take some goddamn responsibility for your situation already.
YOU chose to have children with this woman. No one else did. Did you think the Good Mother fairy was gonna come by and magically transform this woman into a better one after she got pregnant?
Now you’re left with a crappy situation and 2 children who are suffering for it.
Good luck with the courts, I wish your kids all the best.
About the sterilizing…my comment was a joke !
I would also like to point out , we’re only hearing one side of the story.
Its been my experience that most people color it to their side being the hard done by. The other parent is always the loser
Somewhere in the middle lies the truth.
Unless , we’re talking about Beelzabub’s sister aka my ex wife !