I am in a very difficult situation and am beyond apologetic to have had to abruptly cut you out of my life. There was a lot of potential between you and I. I think (and hope) you may have felt the same. I will always regret the loss of what could have been. I am left only with the memory of how you made me feel; excited, scared, hopeful, nervous and eager. I still think of you. —Green Eyes
This article appears in Nov 1-7, 2012.
Some day, reach out and say Hello or just let them know you are ok. I bet that they would appreciate that as much as this nice post.
Depending on the way you cut them out… I doubt it.
Fahgetabaddit.
Good point zZz, and I am not sure if they actually would ever want contact again. For either of them.
Sounds like it is a done deal.
Trust me, even in just a few moments of face-to-face again will bring back the feelings of rage and resentment.
Best to save yourself the trouble and save them the rise in blood pressure.
A guess a factor would be if there has any contact on either side. I think not!
Cape Splitsville? Still think about you to 🙁
Think about you to what?
(to != too)
if your way of dealing with “a difficult situation” is to “cut [someone] out” rather than communicate a need for change: its not that difficult, you’re just a coward.
If you talk to people or read these bitches and loves, you start to realize that people tend to take the easy way out and either cut people off without discussion or use non-face to face ways to say f’ off. Dear John/Jane by text is popular.
Ultimately fewer adults actually act mature about relationships and revert to junior/ high school ways.
Cowardice when it comes to base (and sometimes difficult) discussions are becoming the norm.
The question is, can a person change that behaviour and step up? Most cannot. It is then enabled by making it too easy and justify their shitty ways.
Wow… Sounds like sour grapes!!! Not really, I just wish that people who say they are ready for relationships and are adults actually act that way in good and bad times.
If you learned to truely trust the person and she/he totally turns their back on you,yes it hurts like hell.
So moral of the story… never truly trust others.
Ask for help, but never depend on it.
Hope for the best but always plan for the worst.
Huh, this exact thing happened to me about a month ago. And if the person who cut me off were to contact me? I’d give him another shot.
Burned once like this and you always have a contingency plan. Sucks for the folks who come after, cause you never are really “open and trusting” anymore.
What amount of time is too long before reconnecting stops being an option?
Not really knowing how far you were into this relationship ??, i believe the prudent thing to do is to see/call/meet this person. Explain to he/she about how your situation had made you make that decision. See if this person can forgive and understand those reasons.
Even if nothing transpires, your conscience will be clear and maybe end up having a friend, or more.
It’s your call.
Zed I agree with your last comment.It hurts when a person learns to have faith in someone then, they reconfirm your belief that people aren’t to be trusted.Which is when it truely traumatizes you.
Klyde I don’t think it’s ever too late for validation.
For frig sake, send them an email, text or something to let them know why you did what you did. An anonymous post is just a coward’s way out.
I am with Sunshine on this… Step up and open the dialog. Obviously it bothers you enough to post on it.