Thanks to all for their comments and advice. I posted my Bitch so that said ex would shit her drawers thinking that there might actually be some ramifications for her actions. My husband did send her on her way, telling her he was happily married ( a follow up email from her gave me this) but I’m pissed that she is still trying to keep in touch with him through chatty emails for which he replies with one liners and statements like “good luck” so you would think she would get the hint. He has admitted that he loves the fact that after totally sucking him dry financially and emotionally, it DOES feel good to tell her how great things turned out for him. I have no worries of him cheating with her or anyone, for that matter. What I was pissed about was the fact that this person is supposed to be getting married soon and here they are tapping on my door, seeing if there is any chance of reconcilation with their now married ex-boyfriend. And its been years, too! I mean, if he had contacted her before we were to be married, I can guarantee you the wedding wouldn’t have taken place so even tbough my husband has put the run on her, shouldn’t she sweat it out a bit, wondering if that post if about her? Wouldn’t it be cool to send him (fiancee) her emails the morning of? So, SHE’S the cheat. My husband is only guilty of wanting to let her know he won the lottery before he said bye, bye. Would everyone on here want to know that their fiancee was trying to get back with their ex, even though the attempt failed? Up until early July, this chick thought she didn’t have anything to lose by just trying…and I just wanted to let her know she does.
That’s right bitch, one more email, even one of those cutsey forwarded ones that you send to everyone in your contacts list, is going to land you in the dog house with your fiancee cause if he knew the things you said, he would freak. Your just a pathetic joke to us but your fiancee won’t be laughing.
—The Last One Standing
This article appears in Jul 16-22, 2009.
So I think this is supposed to be under Love the way we Hitch. I could be wrong though, I’m kinda confused after reading it.
Who gives a shit
Your husband *could* put the other woman on block/ignore and he wouldn’t receive any more of her messages or “come ons”.
Also, if your husband is so loyal to you – what the hell is he doing even bothering to reply to the other woman? Not-replying would send a much stronger message other than “good luck”. Everytime he types a letter to her, she thinks she’s one-step closer to him (or whatever).
The problem is not 100% the other woman, its partly hers, yours and your husband’s fault. Key word is husband’s.
I agree with NGF, he is absolutely correct.
And also…I think if all this was happening while she was engaged…her fiance has a right to know about it now, not if she contacts your hubby again, NOW before the poor guy (who is the only one involved that doesn’t know and also has no fault or blame in this) gets saddled with Little Miss Succubus.
Here you are all wrapped up in your concern for yourself and all the while there is an innocent party blindly walking into wretched marital hell and you are just going to let it happen, and in fact use the threat of revealing it to your own personal gain…wow I so feel for poor you and your predicament.
Congratulations, you have just won the DOUCHEBAG of the week award!!!
I’ll comment on DER?’s post – the fiance does have a right to know before he throws his life away to a potentially unfaithful partner.
However – is it the OP’s job/business/right/duty to tell him? It could make the situation 100000000000000x even worse.
Plus, the fiance is not involved and “teling” him (whether for his own good, for retaliation, as a deterrent, etc) just ruins the poor guy’s life almost.
Its a very sticky situation. Surely he should know before he makes the plunge; just don’t think its OPs business to do it. its out of spite then.
yea if i where you, i would simply ask my husband to stop replying at all. Leave it dead in the water and end it. Unless he enjoys this , or unless you both enjoy this drama. Just stop emailing her!!!!!
OP sounds like she thrives on the drama.
Could you be anymore “me me me” OP??
You post a bitch and everyone tells you that your hubbys fucking the bitch. Then you post another bitch defending him, trying to make you guys look good?
Your pathetic. Grow the fuck up and open your eyes. He’s still fucking the bitch.
Oh and BTW … Tell the fiance, he has a right to know.
Has he ever written an email to her actually saying “stop emailing me”?
I mean, if he REALLY didn’t want her to contact him then he would either say “fuck off” or stop replying.
Either he likes the attention, or he’s still fucking her. And if it’s the former then he’s just stringing her along and making the situation worse.
Besides, if you were so confident that he wasn’t cheating on you, you wouldn’t feel the need to post two bitches on the internet. Fuck sakes. There’s usually a reason why people try to justify things.
Oh no doubt NGF you are right it is a sticky situation…but he should know, even if it’s anonymously sent.
Fucken love it. my boyfriend used to date this old cunt and the bitch cant stop calling him. he broke it off with her, he has no interest in her yadda yadda yadda…. but the dumb cunt wont stop trying to be his “friend” on the phone. she calls him for advice about her new man troubles. anyway, i hope everything works out and i just wanted to tell you that i totally understand the situation. the bit at the end about the cutesy forwards made me laugh too. haha.
bottom line though, tell your boyfriend it makes you uncomfortable (obv he knows, but re-state it) and tell him to plainly tell her that his new wife is uncomfortable with the basis of their communication. they dont have children together and there is no reason why they need to be communicating on such friendly lines. you and him are newly married and are building a foundation, this type of disturbance is not conducive to building even greater trust etc. bottom line – tell your man, rationally TO TELL HER that they cannot communicate as much anymore as it UNDERSTANDABLY makes his WIFE uncomfortable. He needs to tell her that he understands why you don’t like it, because if you were to do the same thing, it would piss him the fuck off too.
See, this is why I don’t bother trying to be friends with my exes, onetime. I’ve attempted this in the past, but honestly, it doesn’t matter if I have no interest in them anymore or not, the new gf always figures the old one just wants to still fuck them.
I mean my exes are exes for a reason, and in pretty much every case I was the one to end things…but, as soon as another girl comes on the scene the ex always looks like a piece of shit who just wants her ex back.
So why bother, ladies? Just move on and find someone else to be friends with.
I dunno. I’ve managed to stay friends with several exes, but those were all long term relationships that we both outgrew…it’s easy to maintain platonic friendships when you aren’t just fuck friends to begin with. Heck, I was even invited to those ex’s weddings….maybe the new BF”s can tell I’m no threat once they meet me 🙁
I love that she starts this one thanking us all for our advice, even though all we did was berate her and call her an idiot for not realizing her husband’s cheating on her. You’re welcome?
Definitely agree that the OP’s a drama queen. She thrives on it and if there was no drama in this relationship, she wouldn’t be in it.
And the male of the relationship is the “fiance”. The female is the “fiancee” OP.
The OP Needs to get a fiucking LIFE!! Hubby is fucking his ex. Can I make it any sinmpler?!? Yet you continue to drag out this fucking drama. He gets off on the attention and you get off on the drama and the thought that your hubby is so hot that no one can keep their hands off him!! Get a grip lady! He is fucking her on the side. Plain an dsimple. Why cant you get your big head around that?
I would tell the bitch off your self , and tell your husband to cut all tys with her. Then i would let the other guy know what this loser cunt is doing. I can’t stand chicks that can’t let go. I am married now to a good man and had to get my husband to change all email address’s and his 2 cell phone numbers so all of his past little sluts wouldn’t be able to keep trying to contact him. There is this whore that kept trying to keep in contact with him and she is married and told my husband after they had slept together so he stopped talking to her and then we met and she started to call him again and email him … so he told her he was happy now and in love with someone else (ME) 🙂 and then he changed all emails ext…. I to hate the ex bitch’s that wont… FUCK OFF … Maybe you should put your foot down and say , enough is enough ,and get him to just stopped emailing her ext..ext.. and also ask him to just tell her to stop emailing him , and tell her that he is happy and in love and let her know that you deserve more respect then that. People like her just need to be told so they can let the past go and move on. You are waisting to much time on this when you and your husband shoud really put an end to it and just move on with your happy marriage with out her in it at all… And if he has some stupid excuss to why he wont just change email address and switch everything over on it so she can’t contact him or he has an xcuss to why he doesn’t want to be mean or rude to her in anyway so she stops all this bull shit then i would be asking …WHAT IS GOING ON… and why is he puttingher feling b4 yours. She has now business in your relationship and should be respecting you as his wife…. wish you luck … christine
^ groan.