You are constantly bitching about being single and that there are no good guys around here. Yet in the past year, you have rejected about nine different good guys our girl friends and I tried to set you up with! It turns out that you didn’t think any of them were good enough for you. You turned half of them down right from the get-go, and made some of the others fuck buddies. But when a couple of those said fuck buddies tried to be more, you told them it would never work. They were all wonderful guys but I guess they were only good enough to fuck.
When I asked you why you wouldn’t seriously date any of these men, your reason went like this: “I have a university education and a good job and a promising future, plus I’m attractive. If any of those guys you introduced me to had those qualities as well, I would have considered them.”
You superficial fuck! Have you ever considered picking your boyfriends based on personality?! I don’t think you have, and maybe that’s why you’re still alone at age 30. You could meet the nicest, most caring guy in the world, but if he doesn’t have a university education, a good job and isn’t attractive, you won’t even give him a chance.
OK, you are educated and attractive. But I don’t know where you get this idea that you have a good job. You’re a bookkeeper/admin and it doesn’t even pay all that well. You might be making $5,000-10,000 a year more than most of these men who didn’t “add up.” I also know some people with only their high school education who are currently making more than you. Who the fuck do you think you are?! You seriously need to take a long hard look in the mirror, and maybe reality will set in and you’ll can the narcissistic, egotistical, arrogant attitude you exude all the time. This is your wake-up call: YOU’RE REALLY NOT ALL THAT! —Face Reality and You Won’t Be Single Anymore
This article appears in Jul 12-18, 2012.
Why don’t you just give up and let her be single the rest of her life?
“If any of those guys you introduced me to had those qualities as well, I would have considered them.” Next time she bitches about the men you find her, tell her that you have found better, it’s just that none of them are interesteed in meeting her.
BTW – Just curious, what is her income anyway?
those 12 cats aren’t going to take care of themselves….
http://themetapicture.com/media/funny-rela…
I have a couple girlfriends like this too. Its painful. They equate re-arranging some priorities or non-negotiables as settling. THe comments like “oh he would be hot if he didnt have that 10lbs on him” hurt my brain!
She sounds like one of those bitches that always have their options open, so, if someone “better” (richer) comes along they aren’t tied down. I say “who cares, us blue collar slobs don’t want some superficial bitch thats judges men by their wallets anyhoo”, thats what you call a “catch and release” chick.
So fucking what? Suggest she try millionaire match or some shit. I don’t see why you care about her relationship status. Tell her you think it’s great she’s holding out for mister perfect but that if she’s going to be that critical she should at least be realistic- it’s not going to happen overnight and stop complaining about it. Perhaps you are bitter because you settled for mister good enough and wish you had held out for a better mate? Good things come to those who wait if she deserves a good man she will get one, if she doesn’t she’ll get one anyway but he will trade her in for a younger model a few years later and you and her other “friends” can cackle about it in between complaining about your own oaf husbands. Again, why do you even care?
tom cruise is available but i think his sights are set on john travolta
I’d be weirded out if my girl friends were always coming up with men for me to date. Like… why? Why do you do that? Nine in a single year? Not everyone OMG NEEEEEEEEEEDS a boyfriend to have a life. Get a new friend, you obviously don’t like this one.
Hmmm, maybe it’s possible that the guys you’re introducing her to are losers and maybe she IS too good for them? Who are these men anyway? Are they all guys with no ambition or future? People have standards, you know. I suppose you think her standards are too high but did it ever occur to you that good-looking, educated career-driven people tend to flock to mates of a similar ilk? It is slim pickens around here. Trust me, I know what I’m talking about. I personally know about four single guys, and lemme tell ya…there’s a reason why they’re single…
1) The girl clearly has something else going on that she doesn’t let herself get involved. Or hey, you’re lobbing men at her like…something that gets lobbed…and she actually just doesn’t like them that much. If it’s option a, then you’re a fan-fucking-tastic friend.
2) Being single at 30 is bad? Eff. I’m 32. When do I start to grow scales under my clothes?
3) If she sucks that much, dump her. Sounds like all those involved might be better off.
Maybe it’s because all the good looking, career minded, educated guys don’t like dating stuck up, judgemental bitches. Everyone does have standards, and so you should. But, if your unrealistic standards stand in the way of your happiness…? There is also something to be said about age, when you’re young it’s easy to find “qualified” guys to date, because all the good ones weren’t already taken. If you wait till you’re 40 to find that “special someone”, all the good ones ARE taken, and the leftovers are likely divorced, with baggage and kids. Also, guys aren’t stupid, they get the good women when they’re young and leave the losers for the losers.
I prefer the word ‘compromise’ over the word ‘settling’.
Milk n Juice-They’re single because they haven’t met me. Lol
Bitch got daddy issues probably. I will say, however, that people with similar backgrounds tend to gravitate towards one another. For example, professionals will be with other professionals, Daniel Abraham with Danielle Ibrahim, Ivan and some sneaky fucking Russian chick, and Paul McCartney with Michael Jackson.
That’s why you don’t see welfare moms dating surgeons or lawyers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fb6wo_XTuw0…
Welfare mum. U gonna disscrimiate cuz she dont got college? U superfishull.
Just because she wants a boyfriend with some of the same things going on as she does (educated, attractive, good job + ambition) does not make her a superficial bitch. And it doesn’t make her a stuck-up, judgmental bitch either, SHITD.
It’s not like she said, “Those guys suck, I can’t imagine why anyone would want a serious relationship with them” – she said that she didn’t want a serious relationship with them.
Of course personality is important, and you could introduce her to the sweetest guy in the world…..but if he can’t support himself or lacks ambition, it’s not going to work because they don’t share the same values. She obviously wants someone like-minded, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I’ve known a few really sweet, pretty intelligent guys over the years but they also happen to have zero ambition. What I mean by that is: working in the same place almost right out of high school, in a job that has minimal responsibility, minimal security, and making minimal $ but unwilling to do anything to change their situation because they’re perfectly happy with it.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that – to each his own. I know some girls would be more than ok with that, but I also know that many would not. And I wouldn’t fault them for it just because their values are incompatible.
And OB? Maybe she wants a guy with a good job because admin/bookkeeper really doesn’t pay all that well and she wants to be able to afford to buy a house before she retires.
We’ve had this type of bitch a few times. Single woman with financial and physical assets holding out for a man of means while turning down people her friends or relatives think are perfectly okay. The reason these people get cheesed off and bitch on here is because these guys are THEIR ilk and if the princess doesn’t think they are good enough, well connect the dots.
This woman has a high opinion of herself and she wants a man that she feels is better than you and most of your friends OP. That’s just the way it is. She may be insulted by the men you’re setting her up with. However, that said, she shouldn’t be bitching about being single
There’s nothing wrong with being single.
meh ..why do you care so much
Perhaps she does have issue’s.Maybe she thinks she isn’t good enough for those men her friends introduce her to.Christ knows there’s a lot of women from fucked up families and/or have been through some type of trauma(‘s).A woman can live a mere ‘existance’ thinking she’s worthless and doesn’t deserve happiness. I feel bad for her.
She’s probably just a nympho who’d feel bad cheating on these nice guys; but hey, if they keep coming she tells herself.
Maybe she knows exactly what she wants, OP, and it’s not settling for some schmuck without coin. Give her points for honesty if nothing else. And why is singledom so bad? Do you really want to cook, clean and pick up after a man that badly?
It’s not always about money .
uh, yes it is… clearly.
money and looks.
so if an attractive guy is raking in coin at a complex job he’s great at but hates and would be happier doing something that realistically only pays about half his current salary…
is he datable because of the money and security or a loser for not wanting to be poor?
Being able to support one’s self or their family is an attractive quality.
Laziness and lack of ambition tends to NOT be so attractive.
I got an education because my mom, who works in family law, kept telling me: you need to be able to be self sufficient because you can’t rely on a man to take care of you.
And to this day I don’t have any inclination to find a man who can support me. Combine marital finances? Sure, but I always intend to keep my own bank account (my mom’s number one advise to my friends/family getting married — cynical? yes, but it’s also smart).
I think the issue is, that while personality and compatibility is paramount, part of that is sharing some of the same interests. Thing is, those of us who have been educated realize that there’s a culture to it — it’s something you’ve been through, and those who haven’t been educated just don’t understand. Your interests, personality and opinions on life can all be affected by pursuing an education, and sometimes it’s just nice to be with someone who’s been through what you’ve been through and had evolved as a person as you have.
What I even find is, my friends around my age who have been educated and I have vastly different conversations and do vastly different things than my friends around my age who haven’t been educated do/talk about. Our interests don’t always line up as well. I’m not saying this is the case in this situation (maybe this chick is just a snotty cunt), but for some people they’re just happier with people who have the same interests as they do and those interests involve things they discovered whilst being educated.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with blue collar workers. Nothing at all! I just think that everyone has preferences, and it doesn’t make them superficial.
I mean, I don’t know about anyone else, but I have to be attracted to the person I’m fucking. You can fake it when you’re not naked, but when it comes right down to it, you can’t when the clothes come off.
And perceived attractiveness is SUBJECTIVE! And sometimes attractiveness is vastly affected by personality. I know a few personal situations where someone on first glance I thought wasn’t attractive became hot as hell to me when I’ve gotten to know them.
PS: I also strongly believe that just because someone has a university degree doesn’t mean they’re actually smart. There are many people out there with undergrad AND grad degrees who are dumb as fuck.
If you’ve set her up with 9 different guys thus far and not one has rejected her, I’d say she must be doing something right! And so what if she’s turned them all down; is there a rule that states that a woman has to commit by the 9th man she meets?
Maybe she currently has some commitment issues; a saner problem to have (especially when considering the dating prospects in Halifax) than the opposite, I’d say! After all, who wants to be one of those psycho commitment freaks obsessed with making the first man she meets her future husband!? I know too many people who were willing to settle just so they could finally settle, if you know what I mean. And just because a woman is choosy doesn’t mean she’s a shallow, money- grubbing, image- obsessed princess who thinks she’s better than all the guys she meets. Maybe she just likes herself enough to want to wait until she genuinely finds THAT feeling again. I know I was pretty picky in my single days, and I’m so happy I was, because not only did I enjoy the ride in waiting for my true love, I also would never have met him had I not been picky!
ME AND MY FUCK BUDDIES
“You turned half of them down right from the get-go, and made some of the others fuck buddies.”
The issue is not compatibility based upon personality, education, looks or career prospects. The issue is compatibility based upon – wait for it – common decency. It’s called “morality”.
Anyone who has a cast of “fuckbuddies” can go… Well, no, there are plenty of others to do that.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
zZz – I quit a desk job (started at $50k), because I hated it, I was considerably happier working outside for minimum wage. I wonder what the “focused, world beaters” would think of that?
If a man treats me like shit I don’t care how much money he makes,I’m gone.
A few years ago I met a girl that was going to St.FX,she wondered what they did with the test tube baby when the test tube got too big.
Kelifax, in my opinion you are wrong. “Values”, have nothing to do with how much education you have, how attractive you are, nor have anything to do with how much money you make. Values are things like honesty, compassion, empathy, devotion, ability to love and make a commitment. A relationship is about two people, not just one, and the ability to compromise is an essential quality in a partner. People who think of nothing but themselves, and look to a partner to further their social status are narcissistic, and personally, I wouldn’t give them the time of day.
you speak the truth stephen
Steve-I agree.
Fuck that. Kelifax is right on the button.
2 the original poster person, this is why men don’t say hi or introduce themselves to ladies in halifax because of behavior that ur friend displays
I feel like values are just that- qualities the person in question values be it compassion or ambition. I know compromise is important in relationships but I have to respect those who won’t settle for less than they feel they deserve. It’s brave and honest. Far too many women feel they need to be in a relationship and they do settle. I think if something is a deal breaker for you then it’s a deal breaker end of story, that doesnt make you a bad person. If you change your standards because you’re tired of being single, what does that say for your self respect? It’s the value you give yourself that influences the way others see and think of you. I have a friend like that and when I compare values sometimes I feel a little bit inferior to her but I love and respect the hell out of her because she doesn’t settle for second rate *that* is what makes her first rate.
Hugo, I wonder indeed.
I also see people purposely skirting the question which basically tells me what I thought all along.
he’s datable because of the money but will be dumped for hating his job…
which at least gets him one date since, were he happily poor, he wouldn’t even get that far.
Why would you want to date a person who was poor or hated their job? That person would probably be unhappy. Who wants to date an unhappy person? Why do we date anyway? To find a mate, procreate and live happily ever after. Who wants to share the responsibility of children with someone who is unstable financially or who hates their good paying job and is headed for a midlife crisis where they will divorce you sell the house and ditch your 3 kids to backpack around Europe with his new 19 year old girlfriend. Who cares who or what someone else is or isn’t dating? I don’t.
Beleive me if you can live a good life without love your a stronger person than me.I’ve lived my almost 46 years without love from family,friends and spouse or ex spouse I should say.I’ve been hurt more times, in more ways than I care to admit, by people who claimed to love me.
“Once biten,1000 shy”.
As far as dating or not dating someone with money,I have my own, thank you. Money isn’t important to everybody.My ex dumped me after 20plus years of shit and abuse,for another woman,which even after the shit his leaving for anyother woman still hurt.
Sure a lot of people can live without love but some just manage to live just survive.