already 3rd apartment i moved to has a guy upstairs and downstairs always abusive with his girlfriend or wife. screaming all day and night. so what is it with women that stay with assholes? is it that she needs to be abused and he loves it? if not, why are there so many of these idiots. are they so desperate not to be single?
—unlucky tenant
This article appears in Mar 12-18, 2009.
I don’t think calling these women idiots is really necessary. Some women are unable to leave for whatever reason. Most are extremely scared by the threat of violence against them if they attempt to leave and for some women who do attempt to leave the abuse gets much more severe.
Think before calling someone an idiot.
I wish you could post an address – I have a baseball bat that needs breaking in. My post menopausal hormones would need no urging to beat the crap out of this goddamn creep.
Men who abuse women and/or children are the lowest life forms on earth.
And what of the women staying in abusive relationships this day and age? How can we further empower them to take responsibility for their own safety and happiness?
As supreme bitches we also have to consider maybe they both stay in the relationship because they’re both dysfunctional. Eventually the abused become abusers so it’s not so obvious anymore who has all the power.
Ask most cops how many times they go to domestics at the same place week after week. They hear from her “I love him, have him leave for the night but don’t arrest/charge him” or any variation of this. Then when you arrest the a$$hole, the dumb bitch attacks you. It got so that you say “Yup, it’s Friday, we should be getting a call from Jane Doe about John” No wonder cops get sick of it.
There are so many places/organizations out there to help abused people and supposedly so much education/advertising to help it’s ridiculous.
And further how many out there know of someone who has moved in with someone after knowing them less than a few months, a few weeks, or even a few days?
Hey just to ask….are you sure he is screaming at someone, I yell at my video games all the time, yes I know it’s lame but sometimes you really get into those damn things…
The very sad fact is that many women believe they deserve the abuse. Take the Rihanna/Chris Brown case – surveys of young people suggest that kids think she “deserved” it – “why did she make him angry”?
And get this; my friend’s fiancee beat the crap out of her, and their mutual employer (the Armed Forces) had the gall to ask HER how they could help HIM! Their suggestion is that he needs sympathy, but she should suck it up!
Did you know that calling people names is a form of abuse? Who’s the “idiot”?
Maybe your neighbor is watching movies on the womens network about abusive relationships with the volume turned up full blast.
Hey M’goo,there is no way the armed forces would have dealt with that situation like that, provided she reported it to the correct person. I dont think you have the full story or at least a correct one. They might be talking about sympathy for a substance abuse problem possibly, for your friend to suggest that someone told her that he needs sympathy because he is abusive towards his spouse is ridiculous.
Im sick and tired of people(not in the military) making the military look bad, get your story strait because your friend souns like a bull shitter to me who is trying to get sympathy from you, ive been apart of this organization for 11 years and it employes the most proffesional people in Canada, we even employ people on every base that deal with spousal abuse like this, as well as learning workshops avialable to every member dealing with family violence.
You could knock on their door and explain that his yelling and screaming is causing a disturbance for you and yours in your apartment. Or even ask if everything is okay with them. There is nothing stopping you from speaking up about it so writing a Bitch isn’t going to save the wife/gf from an ass kicking.
calling a woman an idiot for being in abusive relationships is one thing. a completely other thing is to be a bigger man than the abuser and confront him about it. or at least notify the authorities to investigate.
seriously, bud. do something more than just writing on this message board.
I have no sympathy for women that choose to stay with abusive partners. I agree with TTFN, men that have no respect for women and children earn a one way ticket to hell in my book.
I’ll guarantee when an MP goes to a domestic, someone is going to be arrested and jailed. In fact arrests are mandatory when evidence of abuse is observed. The problem is when it goes to court, the victim conveniently can’t recall anything.
M’goo, at least the Armed Forces have a program. Does your employer?
Women are also drama queens.
I’d like to see Balls here “dramatize” a broken nose