To all you idiots who can’t seem to stop spawning: DON’T EXPECT ME TO GIVE A SHIT. Don’t expect me to care when you dumb kid runs into my bike wheel, when you can’t figure out how to point your strollers in the right direction, when you can’t control little Tommy/Nicki/Freaky/Heaven/Lola in the supermarket and so everyone gives you stinkeye and you are all like, what? I’m supposed to be responsible???
You choose to create your little vanity project, don’t you expect me to care. Control your children or leave them at home. Better yet, if you can’t control your damn spawn, there’s a very convenient harbor over there you can use to get rid of them. Or buy a mussle and a f-ing leash. Figure it out.
—Licence Parenting to the Competent
This article appears in Jul 16-22, 2009.
Apathy is what makes it such a beautiful day in the neighbourhood. yup. That’s it.
Can’t you see it works wonders for kay? However ignorance doesn’t make her correct like she thinks it does.
And right on, OP. I’d tell parents the same frigging thing. Your spawn is not my concern.
ignorance? what are you going on about now, Fat?
What’s worse, ignorance or apathy? I don’t know, and I don’t care.
ignorance? what are you going on about now, Miles?
I don’t know, something about being gay.
Oh my, a laugh to start the day and a laugh to end it.
I don’t get why people have to be so hatey when it comes to reproduction, the gist of this bitch reads to me as more “I hate breeders and their breediness” than “control your kids.”
I can’t believe how much hostility some people have towards children. It makes me ill. This is hate lit, pure and simple.
Fuck off, it is not.
Go mop a church floor, woman.
I think the whole issue is, wifey, is that people don’t control their kids. It’s not so much about the kids (it’s not THEIR fault), it’s the parents’ fault for being inept. That’s IT.
I don’t think anyone on here hates kids. Parents who don’t do their jobs and believe everyone has to accommodate their decision to procreate are the ones who are loathed around here. Plain and simple.
Well I wasn’t there to see the ineptness but I’ll bet the OB has not raised a child and therefor is not experienced enough to make judgment. It sounded as though there was more than one child involved which moves my point even further along the scale.
The sign-off says a great deal too, for anyone that has raised a child comes to realize, equally no-one is competent to raise a child………..just as everyone is entitled to raise a child.
Wow! Nasty comments! Remember it takes a community to raise a child! This is the problem with todays society. Nobody wants to support one another, your problem you deal with it attitude. Seriously, no wonder our newer generation tends to be selfish, and self centered. Look at the role models, always out for yourself, and always blaming people for stuff. Stand up and say something, dont add to the ignorance by turning your head and gossiping about what you saw!
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You see a child throwing rocks…say dont throw rocks! Simple! And most parents dont mind that sort of thing when done in good taste.
Justarose74 – first of all its ” it takes a VILLAGE”
and secondly, the rest of the villagers are busy with their own lives! raise your own damn kids. I am tired if being involuntaryly commissioned in the effort to raise other peoples broken condoms or missed pills.
The reason this generation is so self centred is because their hippy new age parents teach them that they are the centre of the universe from day one. They no longer give failing grades to them in school and kids these days are so shielded from criticism and rejection that real life hits them like a ton of bricks when they get out of the nest.
We need to bring back doge ball!
Yup that’s where I get my advice from – Hillery Clinton. LOL. We see how well she’s done with Bill.
It’s so not the kids fault! It’s the parents who need to jump off the bridge… Nothing worse than parents who can’t be bothered enough to teach their kids right from wrong and how to behave in public…
It will never end. Ignorant parents not only as someone else said here teach their kids that they are the center of the earth, but they as well believe that they can walk between the raindrops. It’s a huge, terrible problem and you will never convince that section of society that what they are doing is wrong, and there is a huge force in society that perpetuates it because it is not PC to criticize parents. Prepare to be ripped up by self-righteous PC crybabies for daring to question their decisions in life seeing as how parenthood is absolutely sacred and cherished around here.
i only have one cmment abot this issue. i’m glad my parents didnt feel that way about children or i wouldnt be here, neither would any of you, saying people dont properly manage their kids is different from suggesting they get rid of them in the harbour. i often think of todays society as the era of selfishness, it take alot of work to raise a child properly, and no one seems interested in the investment
I agree. I’m sick of screaming, snotty nosed brats acting up in restaurants, grocery stores, busses, shops, etc… while their uninterested parents either ignore them or smile indulgently. What happened to teaching children manners and how to respect others? If parents want to let their offspring run wild at home where they won’t bother anyone, good for them but if they’re going to take them out into public they should ensure their kids behave in a civilized fashion. Just because parents think their spawn are life’s most beautiful miracle doesn’t mean I do….so shut them up and keep them under control.
Most of you sound like idiots, of course kids are going to act up. It takes time to teach kids how to behave, it’s not something that happens overnight. Most of the comments being made in here sound like they are coming from grown up versions of the kids your complaining about.You sound like spoiled selfish little brats yourselves. My two little girls are great in public very well behaved, but bad days happen kids can be very moody. Ever heard “kids will be kids”. We are the adults people act like it.
“Kids will be kids” is an excuse lazy parents use to explain their lack of iniative in dealing with bad behaviour. Tell me Kirbul, when your two little princesses are having a “bad day” do you do anything to minimize the impact your children’s mood swings have on the people around you? Do you try to quiet them down, correct their bad behaviour, take them outside if they’re screaming or having a tantrum or do you shrug your shoulders and let them scream?
Here’s a thought – I don’t give a shit about you either. If you’re too fucking stupid to realize that someone is coming at you with a stroller that is obviously headed in the wrong direction – GET OUT OF THE WAY!!! I care that I’m trying to teach my kids to be good people. You are not helping that situation. Kids are sponges and learn from everything and everyone around them. Thanks a lot for teaching kids to be assholes.
Ít sounds like you’re doing a great job of teaching your kids to be assholes all on your own sj. Of course everyone should part like the red sea in front of your stroller even if you’re going the wrong way, you’re entitled right?
My mother and father were born in the late 50s and I was born in the very early 80s. They were able to teach me how to say: thank you, please, excuse me, sir/ma’am, mr. and ms., i’m sorry and hello. And I’m an only child.
By the time I learned how to speak I knew what these words meant and my parents never had an issue with me in public.
Kids nowadays think they can run around, run into people, cut in line, push their way through crowds or figure they don’t have to listen if someone politely says, “excuse me.”
And its a damn shame. Parents – be a parent first.
If you want to be your child’s friend, wait until they’re old enough to drive and you can share medium double double’s together at THs.
Personally I don’t have any qualms telling a little brat to behave if they’re acting like a little shit. And if their parents have a problem, I’ll tell them the exact same thing.
People need to realize that the rest of the world doesn’t think their offspring is the new Messiah.
My parents are exactly the same as NGF’s parents — it’s like they’re the SAME people (except my dad was born in the 40s). Anyway, I was ALWAYS taught to be polite and treat others with respect. I was also born in the early early 80s and I find a big disconnect between those born before 84 and those after. It’s like the value systems are different or something.
I’m also an only child. Perhaps this is why I was such a well behaved kid (a lot easier getting in trouble with someone else :P), but my parents would get comments from relatives and family friends who would ask if they had to threaten me before they took me anywhere because I was so well behaved. My parents could and did take me everywhere and I usually just sat there minding my own business.
My parents are far from perfect people, and I’m far from perfect, but at least they took the time to teach me right from wrong and how to be respectful towards others. One of the most important things, I think, my mom used to tell me is that as much as she loves me, the world does not revolve around me. I think too many parents are teaching their kids that they ARE the centre of the universe these days.
The WORST thing I could ever do as a kid (I’d get in MAJOR trouble for this) was be saucy. I knew I’d get in serious shit if I was saucy to others so I just learned that value wise it’s not acceptable to treat others like shit (unless you want to be treated like shit back in return).
Anyway, the older I get the more I realise my parents were actually decent at the job and it’s too bad more parents aren’t like this today. My parents were tough when they needed to be and today my mom and I are best friends (despite the fact that she wasn’t a pushover-mom when I was little).
Children do not learn what we teach them they learn what we show them. Given the many extremely poor examples of so called parents which I have seen in this day and age it is no mystery to me why there is an over abundance of rude, digusting, greedy, ignorant screaming evil devil children who will only mature physically…
Jai, actually I am lucky enough to say my kids don’t throw tantrums. They know not to act like that, be it in public or home. My point is when I say Kids Will be Kids” is we are the adults(sometimes yet to be determined) not them, we can’t expect them to act like an adult would in some situations. Since we are the adults(with comments I hear in here i am sceptical at best)we should be able suck it up, understand that becoming a mature adult takes time. This doesn’t mean I don’t partially agree with you. Some people dont deserve to have kids. Maybe some day they will make people who want to have babies take some kind of test. Its funny all the hoops you have to go through to adopt but any jackass can just have their own.Doesn’t make any sense to me.
Of course, if you are an only child you were well behaved!
I feel for people with 5 kids, trying to control 5 kids is a big job, and unless you’ve done it, I think you should shut up about it! If you are offering valid advice, great, if not, go jump in the harbour yourself!
-Void this comment if the 5 kids have 5 different baby daddies.-
I agree….parents need to learn to control their spawn. I’m tired of having to wipe them off my shoe after stepping on them.
taco girl – i’ve seen parents with 6 kids before where the children were quiet, well behaved and exhibited manners.
i’ve also seen more incidents where it was usually just one brat causing havoc in pubic.
ka-boom.
Look OB, all I’m saying is that sometimes when parents are out with the kids, all we are trying to do is keep our kids safe and sound (especially when they go off the handle, which kids tend to do sometimes, like it or not). Perhaps I came off as somewhat of an asshole, but when people bitch about things like this, it gets my back up. My children will always apologise if they are in someone’s way, as will I if I accidentally get the stroller in someone’s way. Things happen and sometimes (not all the time) it’s no one’s fault. This is not to say that there aren’t parents out there that are not teaching their kids basic manners and kindness, but that is not always the case. I hope you take this into consideration the next time something like this happens.
I am in the same boat as PK and NGF, except that I have 2 siblings, all born by 1985, and my parents always had people telling them how good we all were. There’s just something with parents these days, they have very little leverage, very little time, money and probably on the whole education/experience when dealing with children.
I do have an older (half) brother, however, we weren’t raised together. Actually didn’t become aware of each other until I was 13 and he was 15.
Today we’re tighter than most full-blood siblings.
Nice post also, PAS. I’ll add that my mother had a grade 11 education when I was born and same with my father. Education isn’t a major factor. I think it was to do with how my mother was raised by her parents (fair, used explanation instead of yelling, taught independence and boundaries). Now she has 3 degrees. Oh, and we were mega poor too.
And I’m talking poorer than Spryfield or Uniacke poor.