Hey people, so my boyfriend and I have a 20 year age gap between us. I’m 27, he’s 47. Yeah, maybe not something you see every day, but you know what? We’re both just two human beings who get along great.

So this lady decides to stand directly outside the restaurant window we’re sitting beside with her family or whatever while we try and eat our meal and keeps giving me the stink-eye while she yaps on the phone, even after I double check to make sure I wasn’t seeing things. Most people don’t pay us any mind but there’s always some idiot who can’t wrap their heads around it.

Oh, I know what’s usually going through these peoples’ minds: “She just wants him for his money; he’s having a mid-life crisis, etc.” Actually, we’re great friends, love one another, have fantastic conversations together and he’s a sexy man. Age doesn’t preclude attractiveness in men or women but jealousy sure does. —Haters Gonna Hate

This article appears in Jul 28 – Aug 3, 2011.

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  2. Age should never, ever be used as a marker for how well a relationship will go (as long as it’s legal of course). Without going into detail, I can say I am living proof that age is a number in relationships. I am also friends with a married couple of similar age makeup and they are quite perfect for each other. Keep on keeping on OP!

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  4. What the fuck do you care what anyone else thinks about your relationship? My father was in a relationship with a woman 26 years his junior, I don’t think he gave a second thought what anyone else thought. People like to judge, it’s not their fault they are ignorant.

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  5. The first woman I ever dated had a few decades on me. She was 73 and I was 17. What a summer! Talk about experience! The things she knew!

    Damn the consequences. In affairs of the heart, full speed ahead!

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  6. Bahawhawhaw – I went through the same insecurity when I was married to Ex-Unit who was 21 years older than me. Stop giving a shit what other people think.

    By the way, good luck with the age thing – it didn’t work for me – THANK FUCK!!!!! The old bastard would have been 78 years old and there I’d be with a fucking spatula trying to separate his balls from the floor.

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  7. i agree with the responses, but you do sound as if you might have some big chips on your shoulders

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  8. I have to admit that a person does alot of growing up between 20 and 30, so a 10 year age gap can make a big difference, but I don’t agree that the gap exists between 47 and 27. best of wishes to you and yours

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  11. I know this isn’t a HUGE difference, but I’ll throw it in there — my dad’s 10 years older than my mom! And they’ll be celebrating their 30 year wedding anniversary in January (and 32 years together as a couple).

    And hay, there are some HOT older men out there who actually have their shit together.

    But just remember, OP, if the relationship lasts, your SO will be in their senior years while you’re still in your prime and you might want to consider what that may entail.

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  15. A woman staring at you through a window doesn’t mean she’s judging your ages, or did I miss something? Were you making out and groping each other between each bite? Just like the janitor VS suit-wearer bitch, a lot of this ‘incident’ is in your head.

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  17. Next time just french kiss him in front of her and then look at her and lick your lips. If shes disgusted may as well go all the way and make her straight out puke. She deserves it for staring at you.

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  19. It’s no one’s business but yours. Look at them and say, oh well, at least i’m happy, how about you? Most people think nothing of younger men, with older women, but look the hell out, the other way round.

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  20. look, all jokes aside.. maybe she was freaked out because you were staring at her.

    i have the hots for a guy who is 30 years older than i am. It’s no big deal.. lol it’s not like you’re 18 and he’s 50. You probably don’t even look that far apart in age at this point. So i wouldn’t worry about it.

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  22. Make sure he has a sweet life insurance policy because you only need to wait 20 more years to rake it all in 🙂

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  23. TTFN, you crack me up with some of the things you come out with. There are a few here, that should be on the stage as comics.

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  24. It’s always been my dream to do stand up – my friends have been trying for years to get me to do an open mike thing. I don’t fear an audience – it’s just the post-menopausal brain farts that worry me. Sixty second pauses looking like a deer in the headlights won’t work among discriminating audiences.

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  26. A Bitch Board Comedy Troupe – we have so many talents on this board – PK, Ivan, Hugo Lifey, Paingirl, Orgasmatron, Wheelie, Bro Tim, zZz to name but a few – and let’s not forget Montrealman, our wonderful nemisis.

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  27. You’re close to 30 and old enough to make your own decisions. The only thing off limit is teenagers or barely out of teens (20, 21..etc)

    Power to you!

    They’re just jealous so don’t mind them.

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  28. Bitch Board Comedy Troupe – check out our improv version of “Sunrise at Campobello” at Neptune, in September. WheelieP as FDR, Sebastian as Eleanor…
    It’s gonna be tight y’all.

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  29. I wasn’t going to reply to this post, but then I re-read it and noticed that you are dating. Let us know when he marries you, OK? I’ll take you seriously then.

    Also, do the math: 20 goes into 60 a lot more than 60 goes into 20, if you know what I mean.

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  30. i was going to try and not bother coming on here, anymore. but i read a few things here, that i must comment on.number 1 being that the bitchers have a comedy troupe, yeah, i can see it. ttfn is a hoot, as well as ivan and wheelie. not so much that zzz, he is just an idiot, and mouthing of to that lady, well what can i say.
    she i guess is new here, and i feel sorry for her. i took off from here, because of stupid comments and assholes, but will continue to read here, from time to time. at present, i’m in liverpool n.s., and intend to be here for another week.
    peg, don’t let some of these fools get to you, just write what you want, and the way you want. fuck those that think they are the spelling nazis, and word police. to all the rest of you, enjoy the storms, it’s raining like a motherfucker here right now, with thunder and shit, really fucking wow.tata, catch you later, maybe. and zzz, no, i did not make another acct., as much as you would like to think so, shows how small minded you are,asshole.

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  32. AND NO, I’M NOT GOING TO BOTHER TO REPLY TO ANY BULLSHIT STUPID COMEBACK COMMENTS FROM THOSE I CARE NOT TO ACKNOLWEDGE EXISTANCE FROM.SEE YAS.

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  35. I just happened to open this page, and saw that this person LIFE SUCKS was here. Bravo to you sir, if you are a male. some people think they are God’s gift to humanity, but are sadly lacking in the brain section.
    Yes, I can see what you mean by some here being an asshole, words like that, I do not like, but a spade is a spade, I guess. I will take your advice, and think of what I write, how I write. If they have a problem with that, too bad for them.
    But again thanks, and you say you are not coming back here,I can well understand why not.

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  38. I can understand as well…you both write identically.
    You both have erratic sentence structure,
    refer to everyone as males and females,
    comma the fuck outta everything,
    and have the IQ of a fermented apricot.

    There is no doubt in my mind that sux just wanted to start a female avatar….

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  39. “Bitch Board Comedy Troupe”
    I get a “stunt double” for the sex scenes with Seb, right?

    Hey Ivan, I finished the Bader book. Really good read, and thanks again for the gift!
    W/P

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  44. bahnaha – freudian slip, Ivan? Biebs and the faggot sign going to come to your rescue! ha ha ha ha…

    Sigh. Thanks for that Colonel.

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