I am a 20-year-old young woman in the Dartmouth area. Just a couple weeks ago, I was reading an edition of the coast that touched base on promoting men not to rape instead of women preventing it. I just have to say, I do not think it will work… but I can always hope to hell it will. It seems like every day I take the bus I find myself in a situation that has me completely uncomfortable and scared. I am afraid to go meet my friends at night because I live out of the way from everyone and it isn’t safe for me to travel alone. I find myself missing out on things all the time because I am too scared to go out. I have had too many men look at me, or put parts of their bodies (normally hands, and feet nudging) on me, or tell me that I’m a “beautiful lady, and your boyfriend is lucky,” (of course I mention that I have a boyfriend). The other day someone hugged me and it made me very uncomfortable but I said nothing and there were a lot of people around so it didn’t go farther than that. The next day I rode the bus all the way out to the next terminal to grab a connection because there was less people that go there and I felt safer. Today a friend of my sister’s was in a store and a man touched her lower back asking her to drive him somewhere for $500. After she said no, he got pushy and she had to go to a sales clerk for him to leave. I have heard plenty more stories like this, and have had plenty of my own.
I am getting sick of the older men in this city thinking that it is OK to impose yourself on a young woman. It is very rare that a good-looking 20-year-old woman wants to shack up with a 60-year-old pervert like yourself. Why do you think it is OK to put your hands on our bodies without our permission? I am all for a lonely person trying to make a friend or some conversation during the painful wait for a bus, but after about five seconds it is easy to see your motivations are not so kind. I am tired of being scared to go out with my friends, and needing to ask for rides. I am not OK with this happening even in daylight hours. I have lived all over Canada as I am a child of a military family, and I have never seen or heard of this happening as much as I have here.
To the men of HRM: Find someone your own age, and respect the hell out of them for giving your creepy ass a shot. I know for a fact I do not look older than 16 as I have been told by every normal person I meet, so don’t try to use the “legal” card… gross. Grow up. —I Want to Go to Rocking For $ Monday Night, Not Rock You For $
This article appears in Sep 13-19, 2012.
Do you make any kind of eye contact with these perverts? I can’t for the life of me understand why women get this kind of treatment from perfect strangers. When I was younger (very attractive and still am) I worked in a bar and at that time it wasn’t even open to women, just men. I never in my life had any kind of bad advances from a tavern full of men. I think you need to put on a stern face and don’t make eye contact with the assholes in the first place. I think they can read it in you if you are shy, nervous, or anything else. Maybe a good self defense course would help as well. It is very sad when young women are afraid to walk or go anywhere alone, day or night. What in the name of Sam Hill is happening to our men? They’ve gone sex crazy!
Stick up for yourself and don’t be afraid to cause a scene when someone makes you uncomfortable like that.
Too many women let them get away with it.
A random, creepy stranger hugged you and you did nothing? I bet you even patted their back out of courtesy.
Get some courage and self respect and don’t let them take advantage of you again.
If I didn’t have a voice and was an uber coward, I’d be afraid to go out at night too.
You have to protect yourself.. there are far too many creeps looking to take advantage of a weak and voiceless woman such as yourself.
This bitch makes me sad. That a young woman has to go through all this trouble because of sexual harassment. That she feels this scared. Do you have any friends you can travel with? Give them money for gas? Carry mace? I don’t know.
You old perverts out there, she could be your granddaughter!
duh, and you just had to come here to spoil all the pervs days. honey chile, i think you shold be on a podium, adressing the city and world at large, instead of a select few denizens on this site. don’t get me wrong here, i am all for having a rapist strung up by their nuts, and whipped the fuck out of them. anyone ever did that to my girls would never see a courtroom if i found them. swift acurate justice, frontier style baby. stay away from places that put you at risk o.p.
and by the way o.p., i still say that marshall arts training for women, should be manatory from age 5 up. let the fuckheads try something then, right? would love to watch some douche get his nuts wrapped up around his tiny brain.
And because of a few creeps ALL men in the HRM are painted with the same brush. Well OP, I’m sorry to let you down but I’m happily married to a beautiful, loving and caring woman. So you can cross me off your list. Thanks in advance.
So you think an older man is ONLY looking to bang you?
You’re a *delight*, OB! And no doubt, a World Class Beauty, that every man you give “a shot” to is helpless to your charms.
People from the Maritimes can be friends, gregarious people. I will talk to anyone, any time. When I was in Cairo a few years ago I had conversations with people, and we couldn’t understand each other.
You need to get over yourself.
From your writing, there is NOTHING this 43 year old would want to experience with a self centered princess like you.
Even if you are attractive, your inner you makes the outer a very ugly person. You’ll learn this as you get better- I mean, older.
Wp
There is a difference between being streetsmart and being afraid of your own shadow, or even worse, creating a sweeping stereotype in your mind and cramming everybody that you encounter into it.
When my wife was robbed a couple of years ago I was pissed off, and ,afterward, never got a good night’s sleep whenever she was working the prestigious midnight shift. But I didn’t rush out to join my local Klan Klavern.
Perhaps maturity is the realization that a friendly smile can be appreciated on it’s own terms and not always an invitation to the mattress rodeo. I’d suggest that you not waste your growing-up years worrying about what’s in the minds of others. Most people have their hands full processing what’s in their own.
I’m in agreement with the Col. & Wheelie.
Perhaps you need to do something I actually disagree with, & get yourself a music device with headphones. THen turn up your favorite music & tune out the creepy men who are constantly following & groping you !
Another idea is to stay away from the buses & travel by bike ….its pretty damn hard to get a quickie feel &/or get a good grab of your ass when its going by at 35 kph ! WHen the weather turns wintery you can then climb into your down filled clothing & no one will have any idea if you’ve got a tight ass, a perky set of tits… or if you are actually pear shaped & or closer to a 4.5 kg pile of mashed potato’s stuffed into a 2.25 kg bag !
PS forgot to mention, get back on the buses once you got into your winter outfit !
Sounds like you need some mace, a whistle, and the ovaries to use ’em.
If those particular men (and not EVERY MAN IN HRM) want to be touchy/feely assholes, spray em long and spray em hard.
You’re,
Too sexy for the bus
Too sexy for the bus
So sexy it cuuuuuuuts
You’re a model
You know what I mean?
As you do your little turn on the 80
On the 80
On the 80, yeah
As you do your little turn on the 80
this chick sounds like she is afraid of her own shadow, while still being full of herself.
if you act like a scared helpless child then there will be people looking to take advantage of that. if you look confident and self assured then they will move on.
time to put on the big girl pants and act like your age.
“do your little turn on the 80” !!!!
Anybody out there know how to get embedded coffee out of a monitor screen?
It’s so nice to be a man in today’s world, we’re all just rapists and perverts, blah, blah, blah, it’s gotten to the point that I wouldn’t even dare look/talk to a woman anymore out of fear that I be labeled one of the above, I’d really like to find someone to spend time with but unfortunately this attitude is absolutely everywhere right now. Signed 30 something, active, healthy, happily employed normal single man.
Halifax isn’t Toronto, public transit in this city especially at non-rush hours is for those that are a little more desperate. It’s also less common to see attractive women here, coupled with our “friendly” (i.e. occasional lack of appropriate personal/public barriers) nature makes it uncomfortable for attractive women to take public transit. You’d be ok walking around Dal/SMU but that’s about it. On the upside you’re much more likely to get a better job/ more opportunities / more successful husband strictly because of your appearance. Take comfort in that and buy a car.
I definitely see both sides to this issue. It’s a shame that a lot of women feel afraid to go anywhere alone, and I can’t say I really blame them because most of them, particularly ones that would be considered attractive, cannot defend themselves.
….But.. I definitely don’t think someone calling you a “beautiful lady” and saying that “your boyfriend is lucky” is anything to get your panties in a bunch over. It might make you uncomfortable, and that’s your right, but they’re not doing anything wrong.
There are many women (and men) who would call a guy a pussy for NOT trying to engage a woman that he finds attractive. So it’s kind of a double edged sword. I’m either a loser who can’t nut up and say hi or a creepy perv rapist. I don’t want to be either of those things. I agree a hundred percent that these guys in their 60s should fuck off though, that’s just gross and there’s no excuse for it.
The other thing is, believe it or not, many girls only respond to aggressive approaches. I’m sure every guy on here has tried to approach a woman all sincere and nice and shit and been rudely shut down, belittled, insulted etc.
It’s a shame that guys like LIFE IS GREAT feel the way they do. He’s far from alone. You ladies might just get what you wish for one of these days, men will just stop talking to you altogether for fear of being labelled a creep. Is that what you want?
If you want to shut yourself off from people for fear of something bad happening, be my guest, just don’t come back here bitching about how it’s so hard to meet a good guy. Don’t let these creeps shape your views of HRM men or men as a whole. And yeah, guys, a lot of you need to smarten the fuck up. There are ways to compliment a lady without making her feel like a piece of meat. Try a sincere smile and a hi.
Hello OB,
Sorry to hear about the harassment you’ve been coping with. You’re right, the unwanted touching is a Big Deal. You shouldn’t have to feel like you’re besieged whenever you leave the house alone. You deserve to be safe, and feel safe, whenever you take transit.
We want to end street harassment. We’re starting by tracking how often it happens in HRM and where. If you (or anyone reading this) wants to add their experiences to our map, you can do so here:
http://halifax.ihollaback.org/share-your-s…
We also have tips for responding to harassers. Sometimes you won’t feel safe confronting them, and you should trust your instincts. For those times when you do need to speak up, you can find our suggestions here:
http://halifax.ihollaback.org/resources/re…
It sucks to feel like you can’t trust the people around you (your community!) to back you up. But there are people in Halifax who are learning how to be better bystanders. Please don’t be afraid to ask for help. We’ve got your back.
Take care.
OB, I feel for you. This is not your fault. Know there are allies here for you. I wrote the “Don’t rape” feature, and I’m writing a follow-up article for Halifax Magazine about street harassment. If you want to share your story, please contact me at editorhilary at gmail dot com. I can keep your name out of it. -HB
OB: Nobody (male or female) should have to put up with this bullshit, and anyone who tells you otherwise is part of the problem.
To the asshats putting blame on OB, or the onus on women to go to ridiculous lengths to protect themselves from mens ‘uncontrollable sexuality’: stuff it. Compliments are one thing but a gal can tell when something else is afoot. We don’t ask for your opinions – positive or negative – on how we look, and we shouldn’t be expected to smile sweetly and take a ‘compliment’ when in reality it’s anything but.
There are lots of great/supportive/ally men out there, for sure. But there’s many to be wary of as well and instead of trashing the victim in these situations you might consider putting the blame where it lies – with the offender.
Dear OB,
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s unfortunate that Haligonians are blaming you for the actions of others. Victims/Survivors are never the ones to blame!
If you want to discuss your street harassment with one of our professional counsellors, we are here for you. Call 422-4240 or email counseling@avaloncentre.ca to make an appointment.
In Solidarity,
Avalon Centre.
Well, when she lists the offender as ‘all men of HRM’, that’s pretty tough to do.
As far as hollaback is concerned… exactly how are your stories audited?
Do you have some way of verifying or validating people’s claims?
Or can anyone, male or female, just present any situation that comes to mind to try and vilify what or whomever they wish?
These claims are serious… and the availability of putting people’s pictures described as harassers (and ENCOURAGED so as you complete your entry, though optional) and making up lewd stories could easily get someone lynched.
I hope you have some decent strategy in mind… or at the very least, a top notch legal team.
Headphones are a great way to filter out gropes. Boy you menfolks are so smart.
It’s good to see people like Purplefire and Wheelie posting on this article.
I was afraid their side of the story wouldn’t get talked about, and then we wouldn’t be able to identify who is a completely shit-headed victim-blaming jagoff.
Jesus. There is a vile amount of victim blaming going on here.
I am, and always have been, very suspicious of anyone who feels the need to put down someone who complains about unwanted touching. Men who feel that this bitch is unfair should be offended by the perpetrators, not the victims. I always thought if I was a man I would be even more outraged than a woman for giving my gender a bad name. It certainly is unfair to paint all men this way, but I believe she was addressing certain men in particular, not all old men.
I have to raise issue with the word ‘pervert,’ however. Being an older man who is attracted to younger women is not wrong in and of itself and in fact if adults all dated people their own age how boring would that be? No, the real issue here is CONSENT and unfortunately there are far too many people, on both sides of the argument, who have yet to learn what that means. Salt n Pepa said it best back in the 90s; it’s none of your business! Consenting adults have the right to do as they please, what we really need to worry about is protecting the safety of all members of our society.
I am in no way trying to blame a victim. I guess I just don’t really see the OB as a victim. Maybe that makes me the real bitch here, I don’t know. But, my own personal opinion, and this comes from someone who has been the victim of rape, is that she doesn’t really seem like a victim at all. She kind of just seems like someone who thinks every man who says something nice to her is trying to get something out of her…
Maybe I am an evil bitch, maybe I was in a bad mood when I read it, I don’t know, but I am in no way someone who “blames the victim” like you all seem to be making me out to be. I’d never say a woman deserved to be raped based on her appearance, or that lewd comments were appropriate. I just don’t see a need to be afraid of most older men in this city, which is what it seems like this poster is implying. But, I do realize that just because I feel a certain way, that doesn’t give me the right to push my feelings on someone else. So, I can admit when I’m wrong… I should be willing to let the OB feel however she wants to feel, that’s her right.
I am also wondering the same things as ZZZ as far as Hollaback is concerned…
Gotta love social media. News of Anti-Wimminist ThoughtCrime spreads faster than rumours of a shoe sale and with the same level of rational response. Refusal to abase one’s self as a “potential perpetrator” is not even remotely the same as blaming the victim.
Tell me this, how many of you supportive, empowered wimmin have argued either A) In favor of the long gun registry or B) Against the Harper Government’s omnibus crime bill by pointing out that recent statistics show that crime across the country is actually falling.
That is very cold comfort for someone who is actually the victim of any kind of crime, I know, but it seems to be what us knuckle dragging old white males are supposed to console ourselves with rather than pounding the bartop between beers and braying about the need to get tough on crime. Then again, I’ve heard some feminist academics try to argue that the majority of male on male violence is “victim initiated” Probably because of the way we were dressed. >: )
OB,
I found your post because women in the HRM have your back. My friend posted your Bitch on facebook, and the outpouring of understanding has been huge.
It is not your job to not make eye contact; to make yourself friendlier/more unfriendly; to not take the bus; to feel flattered; to walk taller; etc etc.
Many of the comments here only further prove the reality of street harassment for women. The assumption that we need to “man up.” People saying they want to “smack you across the face.”
There is a culture ready to come up with 1000 reasons why you are delusional, self-centered, too attractive/unattractive, full of shit, lying, etc. Why are there not 1000 people immediately coming up with reasons why this is not ok? Who know that experiences like these happen EVERY DAY to all sorts of women?
You stated your feelings about several incidences that I too would feel uncomfortable with because they invade your personal space and made you feel unsafe, especially due to the risk of escalation (because you never know what could happen).
Hollaback. Women here have your back. And from a friend who loves Rockin’ For Dollars, please come! Monday nights are for rockin’, and women there have your back! You are not alone.
Fuck all of you who just joined in.
I am completely on the side of not treating people like shit/meat. I have been treating like shit for periods of my life, bordering on abuse.
I was reacting to the singling out of “old guys”. I’m 43, and there is NOTHING someone under 30 has for me that I want, except friendship if we’re peers through music or photography etc.
The idea that merely talking to a younger woman while being happy equates to assrape offends me.
I have OBs back for legit shit. Complaining about old guys hitting on you is stupid, and someone saying hello to you on the street should not merit a write up on some web site.
Some people are entirely too fucking sensitive, then when someone REAL and HORRIBLE happens, they are spun.
Be. Real.
Arno? Go fuck yourself. I live for equal right for everyone, and I don’t owe some random internet person my CV.
WP
Tell me something people, when you go out that door, who’s responsible for your personal safety? Real question, I want some answers.
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I didn’t see any victim blaming here, “don’t blame the victim”, what’s that the new race/homophobe card? If you can’t make a point, you just cry “victim blaming”?
I have been assaulted, bullied, harassed, swarmed, sexualy harassed, sexualy assaulted, and by the definitions that I’ve read, I’ve been raped too.
Do I have a victim mentality? No.
Do I think that every woman who talks to me wants to fuck me? No.
Does it bother me that somebody calls me “dear” or “love”? No.
Does it bother me when I get a compliment? No.
Am I a “victim blamer”? No.
Take charge of yourself, take charge of your life, refuse to be a victim.
It’s been my experience, that other women have your back just long enough to shove a fucking knife in it….. FUCK…
too many ambulance chasers round here of late, wheelie
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHXpnZi9Hzs
Apt? Apt.
P.s it sucks to feel unsafe.
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There are lots of great/supportive/ally men out there, for sure. But there’s many to be wary of as well and instead of trashing the victim in these situations you might consider putting the blame where it lies – with the offender.
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Or, as OB puts it: “The men of HRM”.
What the OB is saying is what is getting trashed- rightfully. She is painting The Men of HRM as rapists and assaulters.
Guilty until proven innocent before a Tribunal? Maybe Re-educated?
Whatevs.
Wp
Wheelies —–
There are lots of great/supportive/ally men out there, for sure. But there’s many to be wary of as well and instead of trashing the victim in these situations you might consider putting the blame where it lies – with the offender
**Looking up down and side to side?**
Where the fuck are those men at?
In my time on this godforsaken planet I haven’t met many of those great/supportive/ally men you mentioned.
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In my time on this godforsaken planet I haven’t met many of those great/supportive/ally men you mentioned.
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I have no way of knowing your past. I know women in your situation, and they make bad choices time and time again, and can’t understand why they end up with assholes.
I know way too many good guys and good girls to believe that “they’re all bitches/assholes” bullshit I hear people say.
Men don’t *owe* you proof of their awesomeness, just as women don’t owe me proof of theirs. Wen one doesn’t work out, move on to the next, or take a break/give up. Just because you choose assholes/unsuccessful mates doesn’t mean all men are like this.
Dunno what to say. I have a great gf and she thinks the world to me.
She doesn’t think all men are whatevers. She knows some aren’t meant for her, and that’s that.
Have fun or whatever.
Wp
And describing this as “this godforsaken planet” may be the first problem. If I was songle, I would want nothing to do with someone so negative and jaded. You attract what you put out.
Change your attitude and stop expecting shit.
Wp
I know I know…Law of Attraction and all that.I think positively but when I do start to feel I may be getting somewhere, outside of myself, someone boots me in the cunt and reminds me of my station on this fucking godforsaken earth……I try to tell the Universe what I want and that I do deserve to have it, then like I said, “boot to the fucking cunt”…It’s the Universe bringing me back down to earth.
“**Looking up down and side to side?**
Where the fuck are those men at?”
You met a table full of them a couple of weeks ago, buddy. Small victories still count as victories. >: )
Hey Boru-
This is Paul, not Wheelie. I’m not going to be snarky or try to score Internet Points with sarcasm.
The Law Of Attraction is bullshit. Karma is bullshit. Otherwise I did something that made me deserve 2 years in the hospital and 40 surgeries, and all the scars and destruction that are my body.
Shit. Happens.
The Universe isn’t kicking you in the Hoo Haa to show you “what your place is”. It’s just thngs happening. Sometimes good things happen, sometimes bad.
My attraction to my gf was because she was pretty, but more importantly, she has love for her family, music and art, and has a good outlook on life. She made me attracted to her, and I made her attracted to me. Not that I’m the taste of every woman in HRM, but I am her taste, and that’s enough. It only takes one.
You know the you that is smart and funny, and beautiful? Just Be that You, and the rest will happen whenever it happens. Or not.
But if you’re always “The Universe hates me/I suck”, it will NEVER happen.
Karma and all that other bullshit is a way of saying “I was a bad person and now I’m getting what I deserve”. Fuck that. You deserve love and happiness(more importantly to LOVE YOURSELF and BE HAPPY) because you are you and you exist. Nothing cosmic or spiritual.
It’s just a fact, Boru!
And Ivan is right. There were good guys at the Summit. You see them every day. Let yourself START TO SEE THEM, and cut yourself some slack. Everything will take care of itself in its own time.
Paul
Cboyce … you obviously don’t get it.
My suggestion to put music into the head of the OB was quite simple, it would help drive the negative thoughts she’s having In her paranoid delusional mind ,because IF all the men in the HRM that rode the bus each day were groping the young females that get on the bus. We would be reading about it on the front page of the local papers !
We would be hearing about the … more assertive females , like my daughter who rides the bus & has martial arts training, knocking some of the thousands of creepy men who ride the bus each day the fuck out !
YEt only in little miss delusionals mind IMO are where these 1000’s of ‘creepy men’ reside.
This doesn’t mean there aren’t some assholes aka creeps out there, but the OB needs help of the mental kind IMO. Because if things were as she describes there’d be finger fucking on the crowded buses going on every god damned day !
Happiness is overrated.
fuck that… I expect morose, callous demeanor. Everyone with sunglasses, earbuds, smartphones, and people ignoring the world and everyone in it as much as possible. The majority of the time, I’m right… and since it’s expected, I’m not really all that sullen in general (though I do have my moments). To me, it makes those that actually have a warm positive substance that much more refreshing. Still… living in sorrow with the dregs of the earth makes time fly by much more quickly and is a nice precursor to the soft caress of death that provides a sweet segue to eternal hell.
Hollaback map of H.R.M.:
http://new.assets.thequietus.com/images/ar…
“Here be monsters”
I would like to go on record as saying that I am legitimately sorry if I’ve ever made anyone (of any gender or non-gender) feel uncomfortable as that has never been my intention. I’m just horribly shy and awkward, which I realize can come off as being kind of creepy.
Aw, B-Man – you couldn’t be creepy if you tried.
(Please don’t tell me that John Fowles’ “The Collector” is your favorite book>: 0
And for someone so shy, you were one of the first to reach out and make First Contact and you’ve been there for every summit. Pretty gotdang gutsy, if you ask this armchair warrior.
zZz Happiness is overrated
I certainly hope it’s not
The hunt for happiness is whats kept me alive.Happiness is achievable,it has to be or my life has been a waste….I feel that there is a someone for everyone(over generalizing again)…I’m trying to stay positive. 🙂
Ivan
Capt.
Thank you both for the kind words.
I feel better today.
I. Am. Chopped. Liver.
Wp
“I would like to go on record as saying that I am legitimately sorry if I’ve ever made anyone (of any gender or non-gender) feel uncomfortable as that has never been my intention. I’m just horribly shy and awkward, which I realize can come off as being kind of creepy.”
Apologizing for being yourself? You’re letting people make you feel guilty for being yourself. I’d man the fuck up if I were you or else people will treat you like a weakling for the rest of your life. blah blah blah “quit being mean hfx_godzilla”….I’m not. Consider it advice from someone who felt the same way for years, but then realized that being a bitch helps no one.
Treat everyone how you would like to be treated and you’ll never have a problem with people finding you creepy.
Oh my god nooo.
I have an awful memory.I’d say I’m almost brain dead but that pol.incorrect.
I feel special that you “broke cover” by using your real name.
Seriously,I thank you Paul for going out of your way to make a stranger(strange woman,lol ) feel better.
I’m glad Boru. I know for myself that in the middle of a dark and lonely night, it can sometimes be hard to remember that the world is always turning toward the morning. >: )
My pleasure, Boru!
(back into my coverstory)
EVERYTHINGSUCKSFUCKYOUGRAMPIEGARYANDSOFORTH
Wp
(winky)
wheelie- i. am. pumpernickel
MMMM – coarse liverwurst on toasted ciabatta. My perfect late night snack.
THIS. IS. SPARTA!
http://2gags.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/0…
The scaly one is rather wise…
Compassionate, too.
http://fabfunny.com/wp-content/uploads/201…
Gasmo, he’s only telling you something you would have learned eventually on your own.
It is a different time for everyone but eventually you come to a point where you really just don’t give a fuck what the common, random people around you think anymore.
Interesting side experiment about general public:
Try walking around a mall with your fly down…
I bet you’ll notice more people actually look at you and yet you’ll go quite a while before someone will have the decency to tell you… if at all.
People inherently suck… so why let em bug ya.
“Interesting side experiment about general public:
Try walking around a mall with your fly down…
I bet you’ll notice more people actually look at you and yet you’ll go quite a while before someone will have the decency to tell you… if at all.”
That actually has little to do with outward decency of strangers. Most people are hard wired to avoid potentially embarrassing situations for themselves or others. The fear that if they mention your fly being down could upset or embarrass you is enough for them to awkwardly ignore it.
It’s similar to people ignoring when a person they are talking to accidentally spits (spittle…just a bit) on them. Most people will ignore it entirely so they do not embarrass anyone.
that’s why it was a side experiment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FETSZEuCUao
zZz Interesting side experiment about general public:
Try walking around a mall with your fly down…
I bet you’ll notice more people actually look at you and yet you’ll go quite a while before someone will have the decency to tell you… if at all.
Your bangon again.
When you have a booger showing ,the friend that tells you it’s there is the friend that cares for you the most.
i tend to notice the most obscure things, and always say something. just don’t yell it from a distance
Learn to defend yourself, and you won’t feel so weak and helpless. I ride the bus all the time, I’ve been in some of the same situations, and I also know that I can handle myself if Mr. Grabby Hands or Mr. Pushy decides to take it to the next level. Take some responsibility for your own fucking safety and stop being Ms. Victim.
OP I’m not calling you a liar but I am suggesting your exaggerating a tad.You say you and your friends have been sexually assaulted by old men in public.I’m a bit older than 20 years of age,having said that, I’m not gorgous but I don’t think I look like a monster either.I go out everyday and yes I have been appraoched a few times in all my years but, if it happened to me as many times as you are bitching about shit…You and your friends should pool your money’s and rent your own transportation. If you expect us to believe you and your girlfriends are that beautiful you can’t go out in public because your shear beauty is too much for the lot of men of HRM, move.
I dunno what buses all these women are taking, but just as a tip…..
http://imageshack.us/a/img189/4592/zvuhe.j…
is not a legit metro transit bus.
I would really like to know why my first comment got removed… because if it has to do with the fact that I said I’d like to smack the OB or something along those lines, that is very mild compared to what is said on these comment boards. Take a look at the bitch about the slide on the playground and people are saying they’d like to punch the OB in the cunt (a word I never use). So, why exactly is my comment removed? Is it because this bitch in particular generated views and comments from people outside the regular commenters? As I said in my second comment (which now doesn’t really make sense), maybe I was a little quick to judge, but I don’t think I said anythig to warrant it being removed. Blow Me says way more offensive things on a daily basis, as do numerous other people.
But, I do stand by the fact that the OB was painting all older men of HRM with the same brush, which isn’t fair and some people were very quick to jump on that bandwagon.
that makes no sense pf, you didn’t say anything wrong. whassup mod?
Mod bird doesn’t read everything, & if someone complains about a specific post…she’ll remove it.
Thanks for explaining Hugo. What you’re saying makes sense. Although I’m still not sure why what I said warranted being taken down.
I agree Painey… but, clearly I offended someone enough that my comment alone needed to be removed.
Nothing wrong with your comment at all, PF. It was no different than any of the comments before the Hollaback Flashmob kicked in. No reason at all to delete it while leaving the rest of ours up, IMHO.
The Coast does have a rather liberal deletion policy, I attribute it to the libel/slander incident.
i think there are groups infiltrating the bitch world, that have their own agenda and i am not paranoid. sod off the lot of you, leave us in peas
Met at a bus stop:
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/nation…
True Story
Someone being nice to you is what you call sexual harassment?
Honey trust me, it gets MUCH worse. You sort of sound like a princess. Your sister’s friend was harassed. Not you.