I know I’m a heartless bitch so no need to comment if you just want to tell me that but here’s my issue of the day:
Stop putting stupid fucking crosses on the sides of the road near an accident site! I don’t give a shit that someone died there. It’s not a fucking graveyard and they aren’t buried there.
Put a cross in your home, in the cemetery, hang it from your fucking rear-view mirror if you want but stop lining the highway with crosses.
Most of the time they didn’t even die there, they died at hospital so why not litter the hospitals with crosses? Oh, that would be annoying, would it? Well they’re annoying on the side of the road, too.
My dad died at work but I didn’t go there and put a cross up outside because that would be a stupid. The people that miss him don’t need a cross to remind them that he is gone and the people that don’t know him don’t need an annoying reminder that someone died there every time they pass by.
The crosses are nothing but a distraction and annoyance for myself and I suspect I’m not the only one.
My final note…for the moron who thought a metal cross would be good little monument for his dead child…you are a fucking idiot. The sun hit that cross as I was doing over 100km on the highway and just about blinded me. I reported it to the dept of Highways and suggested they ask you to remove it. If they don’t act fast enough I’ll give it a couple of weeks then kick it down myself.—This is the cross I bear
This article appears in Sep 30 – Oct 6, 2010.
Yeah, you’re kind of a fucking monster.
So, when a camera flashes, do you pretty much fall on your ass?
Someone’s insensitive.
Wow.
you’re a total asshole.
the crosses are there to remind us to slow down, to point out how dangerous certain highways are and, most importantly, to mark the loss of a loved one
i bet you don’t have very many people in your life that like you.
of all the shiny pieces or trash, and lost treasures from loosely secured loads that line our highways…. you choose to pick on the cross?
your a bit fucked in the head
Get off of the cross you’re on sunshine, someone needs the fucking wood.
You’ve got the brain and sensitivity of a fucking cinder block. Those crosses are an everpresent reminder to me and others not to drive like a fucking lead-footed idiot. It’s pretty disgusting that the people you’re picking on are either dead or grieving. You’re a fucking sociopath, you dumb cunt.
Raises glass of early morning “motivational” booze to TTFN. No one could have said it better.
I don’t know where you get off telling someone else on how to deal with things. You are such a donkey. I just shake my head at people like you.
jdp21 your hilarious – love it
OP you’re what’s wrong with North America, if I was to see you in person you would eat my fist.
Very insensitive! Tsk tsk.
A friend of mine died in a car crash this yewar, and we put a cross on the crash site.
just to reiterate what a waste of skin you are OP.
To be honest I bet most people when driving don’t even notice them, let alone stop and read them. Not being insensitive, just realistic.
Bro TIm…while i never have stopped to read them…i do notice them, especially when there are more than 1. I think, have these people died together, or has there been 3 or even 4 deaths here at different times ( like that spot on the left side of the highway on the way to Mount Uniak….there’s 4 there in one place)
I remember when I lived in Montreal 20 + years ago. THey had “displays” where they took badly wrecked cars & motorcycles & placed them up on the sides of the busy highways for shock value. I can still remember a motorcycle that wasn’t recognizable with a front end, the back 2 ft was there & recognizable ,the rest was a 2ft crumpled ball of metal.
Maybe the OP would perfer reminders of that type as opposed to memorial crosses !
Have you ever lost a child?….do you have any idea of the pain that person may be feeling? They are not thinking straight….they need to find some kind of peace….and maybe they go to that place because they feel like that’s the last place that persons spirit was….maybe they go there trying to hold onto something that is gone. People do lots of things when they are morning a loved one and trying to come to grips with such a huge loss. So until you walked a day in their shoes…..Give them a break.
I have mixed feelings about the crosses. OP is a real asshole and the tone is so offensive I want to disagree on principal. In one way, it’s a good reminder to motorists to slow down, there have been fatalities, etc. On the other – it kind of goes against my beliefs to dwell on the site of a tragedy. But everyone is different, and why should OP’s opinion have more weight than those who need those tributes to be able to find closure in their loss.
Wow. Just, wow.
You’re not the only one cosmolily…I agree with the OP, too. I’ll take a gentler tone on this one, though.
There are actually places that have banned crosses on the sides of the road because of the distraction they cause and if the metal cross is the one on the way to C.B., you are absolutely correct. It is a hazard and should be removed.
If you haven’t seen it it’s about 6 feet tall, a flat sheet of shiny metal and sits just off the shoulder of the road about 4 feet from the pavement.
When the sun hits it just right you are greeted with a six foot blinding sunbean directly in your car as you turn a corner. Granted it is a gentle corner but I could easily see this causing an accident.
As for the other issues I have with roadside memorials, they are often not just crosses they are flowers, teddy bears, clothes, photos, anything you can think of and if you remove the sentimental value, they are debris.
I became aware of this when my Mom stopped because she thought she hit an animal and we found it to be a teddy bear that rolled away from the shrine on the road side. She was more forgiving than I was but that caused me to look at these as a hazard and a nuisance instead of a memorial.
I can’t imagine what would have happened if it was the 4 foot sqaure placard at the site that had blown loose and ended up on the windshield of her car.
I realize that the argument is that if you see the cross you will realize someone died there and slow down but I doubt that happens with most drivers since you can see them every few feet on the highway.
Also, for the family that pulls their car off (barely off) the shoulder of the 102 to visit the cross they placed in a field by the highway. You cause people to pull into another lane to go around you, your small children open the car doors without even looking to see if there’s traffic and you don’t use any signal lights or 4-way flashers. Are you trying to lose all of your family in one spot?
A friend of mine lives nearby (actually, your memorial is on his property but he doesn’t have the heart to tell you that) and is worried that you will cause another accident, so smarten up.
I would like to see the stats on the number of accidents caused by crosses. My fuck, some of you are so self-absorbed but I suppose that’s typical these days.
If you mean that I’m self absorbed for giving my own opinion based on specific incidents that happened to me…then yes, I am self absorbed.
I think my statements were pretty unbiased given the circumstances. My concern was for the couple of cases where I am aware of the potential for an accident. Isn’t that what roadside memorials should be about…making sure that another senseless accident doesn’t happen?
I realize it is a place to grieve for some but don’t you think if the families realized that they could actually cause an accident they would rather remove some of the items that could blow across the road, use a cross other than a metal one and make sure they are safely parked when visiting their memorial?
I may be self absorbed, but my self preservation may at least prevent an accident from happening.
Show me the accident stats then.
btw…I much prefer the adopt a highway program that is in memory to someone who has died there.
Alberta has had rulings on roadside memorials for years but I don’t know if NS does.
I only recall a few of the guidelines but I’m pretty sure you cannot use reflective surfaces and they regulate where they are placed so they are less distracting.
It can be done properly…just not in NS apparently
Why would I have accident stats? I have some personal experience. I didn’t claim to have any stats. I guess you can find stats as easily as I could if you’re interested.
Also, from what I recall in Alberta…all roadside memorials are temporary. I think it may be 6 months or so. It’s been a few years since I lived out there but I remember that the families were required to remove them after a certain period of time.
I suppose the OP will be going after war memorials next. Personally, I just find your attitude cold and heartless. If that cross gives some measure of comfort to the family and friends, then it should be left alone and people like you should just shut the fuck up.
I can see it now, the newly minted Department of Roadside Crosses, all unionised wankers brought to you courtesy of the NDP.
Seriously, the OP needs to increase the dosage of Canesten to rid themselves of miserablecuntitis.
I don’t think the brief glint you’ll get reflected in your eye for a split second as you’re barrelling down the highway at 100+ km/h is going to send you flying off the road anymore than when the sun glares in your eyes. Seriously. This was what I meant by my original post alllll the way at the top. If a camera flash doesn’t send you hurtling backwards, then I don’t see how this will send you off the road or into the side of another car. How much of a spastic driver can you be if that were the case? I wouldn’t want you driving to begin with…
DG, that must have been one realistic looking teddy bear for your mom to have thought she hit a real animal. A teddy bear that floats onto the road is no different than most of the garbage that people throw out there. Does your mom stop if she hits some road kill?
I have never lost someone, but I know that different people grieve in different ways. Some, like someone said above, may believe that the cross on the side of the highway is the best way to honour their loved one because perhaps they believe their spirt still lingers there. I’m not saying I believe that per se, but others may, and it’s a matter of beliefs. In my opinion, I don’t think it’s any of our business other than the family’s how they choose to honour that person.
I still stand by my original statement: you’re a fucking monster, OP.
I’d like to see the stats on those thrown from an accident and impaled on said crosses…
then we could start stacking the crosses, like a tragic totem pole of death.
Man, am I insensitive! …. and I still look better off than the OP.
Impaled on crosses huh? Then I’d say you were definitely Team Jacob. Unless they are silver crosses and then you might be Team Edward. Oh, frig it, my brain is hurtey. Think I’ll see if I can rent Lesbian Vampire Killers to put it all into perspective.
i was thinking team vlad…and c’mon now citizens if you can’t drive while being slightly distracted, get thine arse off zee road. my brain is hurty too commander that lvk flick might be better than electric shock therapy. screee
for jdp21…in answer to your question re: the teddy bear. It was a residential area and fairly dark and it was a black teddy bear that she thought may have been a cat. She stopped because she thought she ran over a neighbours pet. She was relieved to find out it wasn’t however she was upset to have damaged a memorial item.
I was just a little ticked to find about 25 teddy bears on the side of the road, not even off the shoulder but just inches from the pavement.
My main point here is if your going to put something on the side of the road, why not make it something that does more good than harm.
My best friend was killed in an accident on the 101 before it was twinned in that area. We had been best friends since we are 3 years old and she died when she was 24. There is no cross to mark the spot. I say a couple words to her whenever I pass, though.
Instead of putting a cross there I wrote letters and e-mails and talked to my local gov’t officials to push have the highway twinned. I found that to be more productive in preventing accidents than placing a cross there.
I’m not taking away from anyone’s choice on how they grieve but if something has the chance of contributing to an accident why not make it a bit safer.
Have memorials a certain distance from the highway and don’t park on the highway so cars have to switch lanes when you visit the memorial. Is that really too much to ask?
I’m team ‘rather commit suicide before ever watching any of those fucking movies ever again’
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When you’ve unstacked as many skids of a certain angsty teen vampire authoress’ magnum opii as I have, you find yourself idly leafing through the yellow pages looking to join a group of Pro-Nuclear War Activists on the grounds that it ain’t ever getting better.
This whole fucking topic is a non-issue. Crosses, glinty or otherwise, have not contributed to any accidents in this province. If it wasn’t a cross, it could be the sun or high-beams of an oncoming car. Should these be banned to?
My asking for stats has a point – it would prove the number of fatalities there are because someone has put up a memorial to help them thru a difficult grieving process. Otherwise, you are full of ‘could have’ or ‘what ifs’ with no valid point to prove other than you just don’t like them.
It can be taken to utterly absurd extremes though. I’m thinking of the pile of soaked muddy teddy bears that surrounded the memorial to the little girl murdered in Bridgewater. It was good for a follow-up heartwarming store about a local dry cleaner, cleaning them free of charge and then donating them to an organization that looked to needs of live children. Perhaps that is where they sould have gone in the first place. At some point, the need to make a personal gesture should intersect with common sense, otherwise feeling good is rarely the same thing as doing good.
True. But I want them to take down that fucking sun that shines in my eyes on the way home. Who should I call? Department of Solar Rays?
I believe Mr. Burns has a plan in the works.
Exxxxxxxcelllllent. >; )
If the OP doesn’t like the crosses on the sides of roads, I dare him/her to remove them…..you’ll get the front end of a car up your ass….but hey, the OP might enjoy that stimulation.
I’m not gonna lie and say I’ve read all the posts in here and I honestly don’t really notice most of the crosses along the highway though I have wondered if it’s more of a christian thing to do since I haven’t seen many other religions obviously represented for car accidnets.
just wanted to say the giant metal cross has been removed and a smaller non metal one put up…happened over a month ago now because there were so many compliants. The family i guess never realized how it was effecting traffic there.
it was not blinding most of the time but of course autumn was the prime time when the sun would hit it in late afternoon and I swear you could see the thing for miles. It also had mini lights on it so I think a lot of people would look at it wondering wtf it was…it was huge!
Is this the same nasty Tart who wrote ‘I’m a princess and all of you worthless men should bow down to me’? and ‘Get out of my store aisles you worthless pieces of s**t in wheelchairs’? Bet it is.
Why are you driving anyway? Chauffer have the day off?
You can move over safely to another lane folks… AND…
as much of an animal lover as I am…. if I cannot safely avoid said cat/stuffed animal, I will have to hit it.
Geez!
Agreed on the animal front TheBlackRose…I bet squirrels have caused more traffic accidents (or near misses) than crosses have.
I remember in high school when my sisters friend hit a phone pole trying to avoid a squirrel and all I could think (in my 14 year old wisdom) is why did they give that girl a license?
What pisses me off is the “fake” displays some people in calgary have been caught putting up. Ie: putting up roses teddy bears etc on a cross, because they were tired of people speeding by their house…
That I agree with halicowton… awful. A highway spike strip would achieve the same result.
What the hell!? Fake memorials?! That’s a little crazy. Put a fake video camera and a sign saying saying their speed is being monitered…more people would probably be concerned about getting a ticket than seeing a cross anyway
My my. I can understand your point but … you’re getting riled up over this. Another dream to live with.
Yeah.. Sad but true about the fake memorials…. I understand maybe hating people speeding by your house, but a fake memorial is not the answer!!!
Hehe spikes :). Muaha
I agree 100%. I just am not enough of an asshole to say it out loud. I even had some family members die in an auto accident.
I think it’s attention whoring and they should be made to take them down 1 year after the accident.
Just for being a cunt, OP, I’m going to your dad’s grave and taking a dump on it.
Most of the plain white crosses with the small red plaques in the middle are put up by MADD to remind us of the importance of sober driving. I for one think this is a good idea and really hammers home the reality that drunk driving kills. Anyone who is offended by this is an idiot. For that matter, anyone who is offended by any form of rememberance of anyone who lost their life is a fucking idiot.
I hope you die on the highway and you’re left there next to the other roadkill.
I read all of the “negitive” comments directed from your bitch.
And I agree with you.
Here’s one for all of you “negitive” posters.
If a loved one dies from a heart attack in thier chair at home do we “put a cross on the chair they were sitting in” when it happened?
If they died at a hospital do we put a cross in the hospital bed?
Do we put it anywhere other than at the graveyard where they might be buried?
Yep, people do.
On the side of the road to remind everyone that someone died there.
Guess what, we dont need to be reminded!
People die every friggin day!
Thats just the way it is.
This isnt a drinking and driving issue. Not all accidents where a life was taken revolve around drinking. Yes some are but “not all”!!!
In this time and age people know and are fully aware that death occurs at mant spots in life, not just on the highway!
I do not like to see them either. I think there is a place for crosses. Its at the spot where they were buried.
If anyone whom has lost a loved one in an accident believes for themselves that this is making a difference, well, just drive up and down the highway today.
Nothing changes!
People see the cross and dismiss it faster than the next song coming on the radio. Mabye even faster.
No one is saying “lets just forget the life lost”.
But no one is asking to remember a life lost that does not affect thier life.
I do not know these people. The deaths that have happened in my life are “mine”. I do not expect anyone that does not know me of my loved ones to care. Because they do not. Its just fact people.
So save the crosses for the place where the person lies, not the place where the person dies!
Jesus H. Christ, Pain, are you fucking retarded or what?
These roadside crosses not only represent a loss but also acts to heighten one’s awareness of traffic fatalities due to whatever – speeding, drinking and driving et al. If it makes ONE driver more aware, then it’s done something positive. Putting a cross on a chair after a person dies is such a fucking weak argument, it should be frogmarched and punted into the Harbour.
TTFN.
Death is death. And it sucks!
I think we can “all” agree with that.
The persons whom place the crosses have the right to do so.
I believe there is not a law that prohibits this act.
If it makes a difference in thier lives do so, then be it.
From the drivers stand point that posted the bitch and myself, it does not.
As I said in my post, (and I assume you missed it).
People “are” aware that death occurs everyday. “Not just on the road”. What makes it “acceptable” for these crosses to be placed at the scenes of accendents?
This isnt about “heightened awareness.
This is about “grieving”.
If this act of placing a cross where a loved one died helps in that process than great.
With that said, the “rest” of us do not need to be involved.
That is what graveyards are for. And always have been.
A place to go to remember our loved ones.
To be reminded of a horrible death everytime a person drives by a cross is “unfair” to the rest of us.
And yes, I have had love ones die in an accedent.
I visit the grave when I feel the need to.
Once again, death is death.
In a chair at home or on a bus. Its death.
Thats unarguable.
And no, being “retarded” did not come into play.
STEPHEN HARPER IS THE DEVIL….
you say that and yet you were the one telling me to slit my wrists…
nice…
you fucking tool
o.p., i agree that they should not be there either. they can be distracting to a person, who has not been awake too long, going work, or a traveler just coming here and seeing them, might just be enough distraction, to make them the next cross to be put there.no, most people did die in hospital, but some also have died where the crosses are, for sures on that hey. don’t go calling me names, that’s my opinion, and if you think it is wrong, then that’s your opinion.
When I am struck by a car “for points” while riding my bicycle on the road, like the anti-bike bitchers are always saying, I hope somebody takes my bike and spray paints it white and locks it up near where I was killed.
HIPPIE ART! – LOL
Careful, the hippies get offended by that. Yikes!
Get bumped off at the end of Belle Aire – the hippies are missing the monuments that were there previously.
How many points is it for a cyclist these days? A dude ran out in front of a bus the other day and I said to the driver “that would have been 5 pts!” and she says, nah, the buses only get 1 for a pedestrian and 5 for a cyclist. They’re too common, I guess. It was kind of funny – another of those hidden gem bus drivers, had a real sense of humour…
Yes, death is death and a twat is a twat.
the pain, yes, you are absolutely right about the placement of said crosses. think people a sec., if someone got killed in the middle of the road too, do they have any right to put up a cross there, i think fucking not. and as to the rest of it, yeah, okay, nice to remember, but how long does it really last for the majority of drivers, about 2 seconds after they pass said cross. people can’t be expected to grieve for those they do not know. if we did, then there would be no wars or other life threatening things out there. take the gun registry, guns do not kill the people, it’s the one holding, pointing and firing gun, cars are the same, they don’t kill either.it the one behind the wheel. because if it was proven hat cars kill, then shouldn’t they be banned from being bought and owned also. yeah okay, you have to learn to drive, same as shooting a gun, it doesn’t come automatically to you.there are far more car/truck deaths every year, than gun deaths. and it is usually the driver at fault, drinking, inattention, speeding, too slow, whatever, with a gun, it it only the pull of a trigger, because of whatever reason. here’s an idea, let’s get rid of every fucking thing that can kill then.
I like this guy.