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Me: the bride on my bachelorette party
You: a random man who gave me a few puffs of a joint
Apparently you thought it was okay to pull me backwards a few feet by my hair in order to get my attention. I want you to know that you hurt me and that what you did was not okay. Thanks for sharing your j, but that doesn’t give you a right to touch me, let alone assault me. Go fuck yourself. —Sore Scalp
This article appears in Aug 11-17, 2016.
Let’s negate every assault that doesn’t measure up to one’s own.
The slap happy former radio host benefited from a flawed judicial system. Nothing more, nothing less.
OC,
I’m not a lawyer or an expert on the judicial system so i can’t comment on whether it has systemic flaws in regards to how it handles specific types of cases. That may well be the case. However, I think that it is obvious that there is a general disparity in the justice system – based on wealth. In a lot of high profile cases, those with the means can hire the best and biggest defence teams and have them dedicate large amounts of time to their defence. It often seems that public prosecutors are over-matched in those cases. Meanwhile, those of more modest means may end up with a lawyer who is relatively inexperienced or over-matched by the prosecution team. I see this disparity as a major flaw.
What bias? Pfffft!
Your evidence is lacking. And who appointed you prosecutor?
If she says that’t what he did, he had no right. I believe her.
Am I gonna judge him or her about the situation? No because I wasn’t there, nor was anyone commenting here. All I can do is say on behalf of all men out there, I apologize for the behaviour of an excuse of a man like the douche you encountered!
I was raised to never disrespect women or raise my hand to them.
Obviously he wasn’t raised in the same manner!
So regardless of the situation, whether if it was forceful, one foot, 3 feet, none of that matters. The fact that her hair was pulled by a stranger, even if it was light play, is unacceptable. I’m 100% certain no one here wants the same to happen to their sisters / mothers anywhere!!!
Horse play between 2 close friends, siblings or family is completely different. Strangers in public should earn you a punch in the face without hesitation, judgment or assault charges!
More and more women ARE speaking up about this kind of shit, despite the best efforts of dedicated gaslighters – like a certain LTWWB frequent flyer – to mock them back into silence. I firmly believe that the frequency of sexual harassment and sexual assault is NOT on the rise. The frequency of women speaking up about it is what is on the rise. More women are going to the police or, if there is no reasonable expectation of criminal prosecution, to social media to object to this treatment. LTWWB is a perfectly valid public forum for a woman to use to say, “this is not okay”. Before you say that women need to get a backbone and stand up to these creeps on the spot, please consider that there are men who will physically assault women who confront them. This is the reality. Some women are confident and/or reckless enough to go that way, but it’s not a reasonable expectation to place on all women. Women will use whatever platforms are available to them – including LTWWB – to say that we are DONE WITH THIS SHIT, and no amount of gaslighting is going to turn that trend around.
Dear, I’m gay. I’m not being emotional – I’m being logical. No, I wouldn’t tell her that if she was indeed raped. Re-read what I wrote.
I’m saying that by the exaggeration of claims, one loses credibility. It’s the little boy who cried wolf. I’m not sure how much clearer I can say this.
In all, I have not taken the low road of judgment or insult; I just questioned dubious assertions.
And oceanchick, I’d be the defense in this case; you’d be prosecutor. I think you would be a stimulating opponent… don’t read into that adjective please (read my first sentence).
Charlie’s “logic” is she didn’t mention stumbling so she’s exaggerating.
That’s not logic, that’s making things up to fit your narrative.
Most people don’t like the truth, they would rather believe the lie.
Any type of uninvited touching is NOT COOL.
Again, if insulting me is your only retort, then by all means. It still doesn’t change the dubiousness of their assertions. In fact, you cheapen your argument. I’ve made up nothing. I don’t believe the story is made up; I believe the story is exaggerated.
Yea we got that CB. Exaggerated because she didn’t say she stumbled. We read your break down of a “few” feet. This is an online bitching forum, not a statement taken by police to be used in court.
My guess would be that she was dragged from one smoking circle to another, which generally stand “a few” feet apart. She was likely able to walk awkwardly while being dragged, maybe she stumbled a step or two, regardless, that’s not even relevant here.
Looks like this bitch was fodder for the Halifax Examiner. Wonder if the mod knows.
From the Hfx Examiner:
2. Totally Justified Cranky Letter of the Day
Over at The Coast, a Love The Way We Bitch outlines exactly the kind of casual violence women encounter on a daily basis. The “bitcher” says:
Me: the bride on my bachelorette party
You: a random man who gave me a few puffs of a joint
Apparently you thought it was okay to pull me backwards a few feet by my hair in order to get my attention. I want you to know that you hurt me and that what you did was not okay. Thanks for sharing your j, but that doesn’t give you a right to touch me, let alone assault me. Go fuck yourself.—Sore Scalp
As a young woman, this situation is not unfamiliar to me. Neither are the comments calling the woman a liar. I used to tweet every catcall hurled at me from a construction site or passing car, but cut it out because I didn’t think folks would believe me anymore, especially given the frequency with which it happens.
If someone touches me inappropriately (see: the time I was groped at the Marquee Club, the time a man spit on me outside the Propeller brewery, the time I was grabbed by the front of my jacket and called a bitch on my walk to a friend’s place, the time a man asked me if I wanted to “neck like teenagers” and touched my thighs as I watched a hockey game) I’m even less likely to use a public forum to talk about it because of the loud (male) voices telling me I’m a liar or a softie or that I was asking for it.
I just wanted to use this public forum to tell the Coast “bitcher” that I see her and hear her and believe her and that I’m sorry this happened to her.
Well, I stand on my comments, whether you like them or not. It’s a shame we can’t have a logical conversation.
“Neither are the comments calling the woman a liar.”
This is exactly it. This is why I felt compelled to comment on this thread. I didn’t come here to validated gaslighters and misogynists by engaging with them. I’m here to tell SS and others like her that I hear them; that I am listening to THEM, not the gaslighters. Don’t let them silence you.
Oh my! A gaslighter? That’s new… what’s a gaslighter?
A shit disturber is my guess.
Ahhh! Now that’s more my lingo… maybe ’cause I’m old…?!
I still don’t see the logic in that insulting someone is the appropriate retort to an argument.