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The truth is, I wish you never moved to Nova Scotia. You are not a nice person.
PS: Remember how you keep telling me nothing is your fault? Well, it is. Time to be an adult. —Someone’s Daughter
This article appears in Aug 30 – Sep 5, 2012.
12 Comments
Intrusive parents HAVE NO FUCKING LIFE! Don’t let this materly leech with her no-blame policy suck you inside out mentally.
I like the way you said that, TTFN.
i do believe the o.p. has problems, but not really with the mom. i thinks that they are not having such a wonderful life, and blames it on the mom. maybe this person is a young female, who left home because she couldn’t or didn’t want to keep her legs closed, and mom told her to get out, or she left on her own, because she couldn’t obey some tiny little rule of house.
either that or a big feeling douchbag, that has to have their own way, all the fucking time.and thought they would do better on their own.welcome to the real world fools.
My condolences to you OP. I’ve read about so many bad mother-daughter relationships since coming to LTWWB. I am so grateful for my mother and what she brought to my life. I cannot imagine having your Mom as an adversary.
That could be true, blow me, but it could also be true that she has Satan’s spawn for a mother, like me.
Kontee I know the feeling.
I spent most of my adult life with a major hate on for the woman that I was forced to call mom.I realized not long ago that I was hurting myself…
“Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”Buddha.
When our mater passed at 96, my sibs and I finally felt free of that guilty, critical voice in our head. I hope you have the strength to tell this emotional retard of a mother to back off and keep her at arm’s length.
Or Blow Me, the mother is a selfish, psychotic cunt who drove her away. There are plenty of parents (moms and dads) that do not deserve the title of parent.
The OB doesn’t appear to have any other complaints than this.
I’m with you as well, OP! I can’t be with my mom for more than a few minutes before she says something snide and competitive. Her mix of delusion, ego and anxiety makes for a very toxic person. As my pregnancy has progressed, I can handle her guilt trips and her apocalyptic fear mongering (microwaving your toddler’s food causes cancer! You’re going to get raped cutting through that tiny little downtown cemetery on a busy sunny morning!) less and less, to the point where I really want nothing to do with her. I’m also now having frequent dreams of her coming at my face with her frantic little rage-filled slappy hands, just as she did when i was a teenager. Uugh!
I think all moms have their best intentions for their kids at heart. Sometimes they are overly critical (or the dads are, they are not exempt either). You really have to weigh the matter and if it is a relationship where you always come away from the discussion feeling bad about yourself then the best thing to do is try to forgive the offending person but keep a healthy distance. You only have one mom so if nothing else try to respect her. You don’t have to have a ‘joined at the hip’ relationship with her if you clash, just keep it civil. But, and this is a big But: Abuse in any form should never be tolerated, not physical or mental. In that case I would just forgive and move on. No contact is sometimes the only way to go.
wogdog
Yea “forgive and move on” sure.Forget?It’s too difficult to forget the abuses she inflicted onto me.Forgiveness is for the care of my own mental state not hers.
Some parents don’t deserve their children’s respect,period.
Boru: Dont worry about the forget part, that is not a requirement of forgiveness. But if you ever want peace in your life you will somehow dump the blame and bitterness. Life happens, we all get shat upon one time or another. The trick is to distance yourself and get on with your life. Hard to do I know but so worth it.