So despite being there to pick up the shattered pieces of your life on too many occasions, you chose to lie me once again. Perhaps it’s a character flaw of mine to treat someone with respect and total acceptance, but do you not think I at least deserved to be told the truth as to why you totally dropped off the radar? Yes that whole thing about me having more invested than you may be true but I believe deceit had more to do with the way things went down. All I needed was a bit of closure to help deal with your disappearance. Instead you chose to , somehow, blame it on me. You of all people know the importance of honesty, knowing the clowns you have dealt with in your life, and if I am not mistaken the new bedspread is the same guy who chose not to be seen with you leaving a concert because you were not worthy at the time. Sometimes I wonder what you value in people, since everytime you drop me it’s for those that abuse you, leave you, or simply want to watch porn in place of you. I know I have things to work out but your sense of self worth baffles me. I hope the new bedspread helps you work out your issues with commitment, communication, and intimacy issues…..I wasnt able to. At the end of the day, our legacy is in how we treat people, you have failed. —Lost And Bewildered
This article appears in Jan 17-23, 2013.
The world is full of this type of person among many other types out there sad to say. It’s life’s baggage we carry around. Some of us have more baggage than others but what it comes down to is how you deal with the baggage causers. That will define what type of person you truly are.
Please …. get over it already! You posted this once …. we got over it then ….. now it is your turn.
OP I’m sorry to hear it didn’t work out.The person is very lucky to have someone to accept them, flaws and all.
Some people are their own worst enemy by, sabotaging every good relationship in their lives…Their lives become a self-fulfilling prophecy…..OP I do understand the reasons you seem to be giving up on them.Perhaps that’s the reason for their “issues”; no one is willing to stay to convince them “they are worth the your trouble”.
FYI Don’t let him go, hold on tighter.Eventually he/she will come to.
You must be patient,though.
Good luck
Just the way you worded this reminds me of a guy who flipped the fuck out on me for not sleeping with him…perhaps that lil pedestal you’ve put yourself on is a tad false.
Sorry Boru but these types usually wreak havoc and self destruct / crash and burn before they wake up out of their fog, and that could take years. Is the poster willing to be subjected to a life of misery until this person does or does not snap out of it?
OP didn’t comment on the length of the relationship.I wouldn’t expect anyone to be shit and abused for a life time in an attempt to rescue a loved one.All too many people think some humans are garbage and don’t mind being thrown out with the trash..
FYI- I didn’t write this post.
why or why do people feel compelled to air their relationship woes on a public message board? can’t you just have a movie/hagen daaz night with friends, trash the ex and get over it?
is it the allure of so-called reality shows? people wanna be one?
go out and cure cancer, write a hit song or run naked thru the tattoo, anything to give you that 15 minutes of friggin fame except doing this.
If you knew he choose not to be seen previously with her why did you take him on? Once an asshole, always an asshole or did you think YOU would be the one to change HIM? Nope. Move on he is a total loser.
Hold onto him like holding a kitten too tightly- you’re going to smother it and it will die.
Move on.
PisP
“FYI Don’t let him go, hold on tighter.Eventually he/she will come to.
You must be patient,though.”
I meant to say only hold him tighter if he’s pushing OP away.Not to be a psycho-bitch and chain him up so he can’t leave.
Ok psycho, while you were writing this she was likely sucking the new guys dick, or letting him punch her browneye. How’s that make you feel? Angry? Good. Now go jam a bunch of her friends and be done with it. Fuck sakes!!!!
OB, you speak of this person’s habitual involvement with men who abuse and/or neglect her, yet you continuously subject yourself to her abuse and/or neglect. Do you fail to see the irony in this bitch?
Shit,I totally misunderstood that Bitch!
I certainly don’t condone any kind of abuse.
“everytime you drop me..” You’re a sucker for punishment. How many times has she dropped you, always for an idiot? Maybe she’s an idiot. Maybe you’re better than all this. Ironically you use the word bedspread, you’re her comforter the go-to person when things go wrong only to be left behind when she feels better.
Time to cut her loose.
” all too many people think some humans are garbage”
Actually Some People Are Garbage !
A few of them In My Opinion
Clifford Olsen
Robert Pickton
Paul Bernardo & Karla Holmolka
I could carry on for a long long time ! ! !
Bread-spread sounds good to me. Expecially Nutella.