Makes me crazy the way a certain young bitch throws herself at my man. She is well aware he and I are living together and in a serious relationship but her 20 something ass feels it is appropriate to text and privately message my 45 year old man. Can you say daddy issues? Go resolve your daddy issues and leave my man alone. Oh and he sees nothing wrong with the friendship and believes I am being petty. Oh please…she’s younger than his damn daughter. Has no one any respect for monogamy anymore? —I’m too old for this sh*t!
This article appears in Sep 18-24, 2014.
i read your tarot – great changes are coming for you. like an address
Someone sounds insecure.
You spelled monogamy incorrectly; you meant j*e*a*l*o*u*s*y.
And why is it only HER fault your j*e*a*l*o*u*s*y is being triggered? Maybe ask yourself: “What is SHE doing/does SHE have that I am not/do not…?!”
Maybe it’s oral? I hear that from a lot of straight guys like your husband…
No, I’ve met homewreckers like this before, and the Daddy Issue chick is a classic. But yeah, lets beat up on the OB, its not like any other person in the party is here to jump on, may as well be the one bitching.
The perfect reply, Mr. Meaty.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. You, dear bitcher, are pushing him in this young lady’s path with a metaphorical cattle prod. A relationship is a partnership, not a dictatorship.
So you’re pissed off with chicky and yet you don’t seem to do anything about your man. If he was true to you he’d have told chicky to buzz off long ago. Your problem isn’t with chicky, it’s with your man.
DADDY ISSUES
: “Can you say daddy issues?” I’m too old for this sh*t!
The question before us is what, precisely, are “daddy issues?” There is no particular difficulty in understanding why the older man, in spite of his disclaimer, is attracted to the young, attractive, fertile and horny female but why is the young, attractive, fertile and horny female feel attracted to the older man? What, in other words, is to be understood by “daddy issues?”
Passing by the usual pop-psychological answers to this question involving as they do the need for security however defined – financial stability, a loved but lost father, the craving to submit to authority or power and so on – can there be some identifiable reason to explain her actions? I believe there can be. It lies in the nature of female sexuality itself. Beyond the biological imperative, that programmed need to reproduce, what is driving this female is the sensual desire to copulate, pure and simple.
Freud notwithstanding, the desire to copulate pure and simple is not reducible to any further psychological factors. She does not want to copulate with her imagined father, with an authority figure or with a powerful one. On the other hand, she is not some sort of simple gerontophile who wants to copulate with older partners as such. No, she just wants to copulate and, moreover, she just wants to copulate because it feels good. It is exciting and, done properly, induces a glorious orgasm. And what is wrong with that?
Modern psychological theory continually seeks some further explanation for our behaviour. There is a continual “displacement” of motivation. Nothing is as it appears. My theory, on the contrary, is purely physiological. It rests on a theoretical basis of pure sensory arousal and response. Think of Masters and Johnson’s experiments with the sexual response of the female. Once everything was properly hooked up to the female on the examining table, she came heavy and she came hard, reaching what they called a wonderful “plateau” before she did. It’s the same with the older, experienced male. He knows what she wants and he gives it to her, heavy and hard.
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A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
if I were op’s man I would run screaming from the relationship.
1. he is not YOUR man, he is his own man. ya don’t own another person.
2. unless he truly is owned by you, and he is about 55 iq, blind and deaf, he has some say in the matter. she cannot ‘get him’ unless he wants to be getted. ( or is that gotted??)
3. I would find it incredibly insulting to be considered such an idiot by my partner that she has to vet my friends for me.
4. chicky-poo can grease her arse and rotate on his pole and its still up to him whether he raises his flag to salute or not.
it has nothing to do with chicky-poo. nada. zilch. zippo.
Hey OP why don’t you get flirty with a 20 something guy and see how your man reacts.
Go on and let her have him! Put da dog out da house or take half the shit and get to steppin. Once she see dem low hangers, grey pubes and shrivelled dicky, she be steppin’ too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6BgOyGT1i…
Going out and attempting to make him jealous is about the worst advice on here…
how about working something out you can both live with?
ya know, like adults?
OH NOES A BOY IS FRIENDS WITH A GIRL!
FFS, OB, get over yourself. If you weren’t seething with insecurity and trusted your partner, you’d realize this isn’t such a big deal. And no one can “steal” anyone away from you – people tend to be with who they want to be with. If he wants to be with her, then obviously he doesn’t want to be with you, and why would you even want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? I know I sure wouldn’t. Then again, I’m not insecure, I don’t have low self esteem, and I have a lot more self respect than you seem to have.