I really wish that when a baby is screaming that the mother/father would pick him/her up and console the damn thing. When baby’s cry they are telling you something…they are either uncomfortable or hungry! The only way they can communicate is by screaming or crying. How can someone just stand there and listen to a little helpless baby crying and not feel compelled to help them? Have some compassion…and if you can’t have compassion then don’t have kids!
—mr. mom
This article appears in Jul 30 – Aug 5, 2009.
Just let the child cry: the other alternative that a couple recently decided to try obviously didn’t work too well.
Oooooo Too soon ustwess!
Mr mom: I’m not a parent, but I’ve heard that sometimes babies will just cry for attention and you need to basically break them of the habit by not responding to their every need right away.
Anyone actually know for a fact?
Not too soon at all, wasn’t poking fun… was being quite serious… people make such a big deal about crying babies… and well..that’s what babies do. THose people who have short fuses and don’t know how to deal end up like the two nut-jobs over in the Burnside Pen.
I don’t know for sure, but that’s how I understand it too Nevermind. Also, some babies can’t be consoled, like colicy babies.
Some babies cry for attention.
My niece constantly did it, she’s more than ok now, smarter than most kids in her class. One of my nephews was like that too, my sister left him in the bedroom and shut the door, eventually he cried himself to sleep. He mostly cried because he had an older brother so he wanted constant attention.
All of them turned out more than ok. they’re all healthy active children, thank god for that 🙂
ustwess
and dogs bark – its what THEY do. but if a dog is up all hours of the night barking its head off its a completely different story.
seems to be okay for lazy parents to let their screaming post-fetus brats have full reign while people without screaming babies are seen as the bad crowd. not the non-parents being lazy and allowing all that annoying noise to happen.
if it were the owner of a barking dog, people/parents would probably call the SPCA or their MLA or write a letter to the CH’s editor.
All babies cry, some do it a lot, and there’s not always something you can do about. A good parent will ascertain if there’s something actually wrong with their child, and if not, may choose to let the baby cry it out. If you cater to a child every time it cries, you end up with a child that cries every time it wants to be catered to. OP needs to get a grip, just because he wants to raise sniveling brats for kids, doesn’t mean everyone else does too.
If you rule out medical and hunger, diapers etc then yes, its fine to let a baby cry. Sometimes they just need to get it out.
And for all you know op, they may be ‘consoling the dam thing’ and it might not be working. Sometimes it doesn’t. If you don’t like it, buy some ear plugs.
Uh, why do parents of infants feel the need to take their little screamers out in public with them? The public shouldn’t have to “buy earplugs” because some crying brat cannot “be consoled” or isn’t being consoled. The fuck out here. Babies don’t deserve any respect like that.
Nice Goin’ Fat… you must be all of about 16 years old, so are us parents suspose to stay inside all the time just in case he/she may cry??? I wish I knew where you where all the time just so I could follow you around and make your day everyday..:)) Why is it that ppl that have no clue what they are talking about feel the need to put in there 2 cents…
I agree with NGF for the most part. I hate that parents get all offended when people don’t love their screaming children. Obviously, parents will take their babies out in public, but they should know whether or not their kid is prone to crying/screaming all the time and judge the time spent out accordingly. And as for people not having a clue what they’re talking about, Chaos, I’m afraid I don’t really get what you mean. Babies crying and being loud isn’t a hard concept to grasp, and everyone’s entitled to their 2 cents.
You just answered your own question with your entire post, Chaos. Its called opinion and you’re going to hear it wherever.
If you did “follow me” around daily? I’d have no qualms telling you to shut your fucking kid up. Trust me, I’d actually drive you away quicker than you’d get on my nerves.
And what are we supposed to do? Just simply put up with you ignorant parents who choose to let your kids cry and scream? Woah, holy shit. I supposed there’s some “etiquette” now on how to tolerate or just enable people who got accidentally knocked up or made a choice to get pregnant.
And I was about the 16 year olds when I was 12…..
xox – that’s it! i disagree with how the parents get offended that people don’t also adore their screaming kid. that’s what it is!
Sometimes you can’t make, or “help,” a baby stop crying. Sometimes it will stop whenever it pleases. I’m not sure why OP thinks that he’s the judge of strangers and their babies. Sounds like a busybody.
Does that mean everybody else in “a” room (or wherever) has to put up with the screaming kid? Even people who are addicted to cell phones know better to take their calls elsewhere.
If we are talking about kids in public places then I agree with Fat…if you can’t shut them up, remove them. I guess I read this bitch with the previous baby-related one in mind and was thinking about a neighbour’s kid that won’t stop crying or something.
Depends….at the mall food court? The grocery store? Sure. Cry away. That’s life. At the library, or theatre? Leave. Now.
Personally I can deal with an infant crying in a public place. It usually doesn’t last long.
Now, if a two year old is prone to throwing tantrums, that’s another issue all together, and I think that what Fat’s aiming at
Thanks, Mind Snap. And it happens a LOT!
I don’t much like witnessing drunks stagger down the street, rude people giving attitude, or teenagers who think that making fun of any and everything is cool.
It’s life, deal the fuck with. Kids aren’t going away anytime soon.
Hey, I’m a new mom, but it doesn’t mean I love the sound of my screaming baby. If he starts to cry when I’m out in public, I’m all too aware of causing annoyance and impatience amongst all you childless people (hey, I was one of you, not so long ago); it flusters me and I will get my infant and I out of the situation as fast as I can. Of course, that doesn’t mean I’m about to step out of a line at the grocery store when I’m two people away from being served and have things in my cart that I really need! I’m the first to admit a screaming baby can grate (even a patient mom with a normally very happy baby like myself), but when someone gives me a dirty look, as if I must be a shitty parent since my infant is crying, I want to haul out and smack them. Who’s the child here, you?? No? Then learn a bit of fucking patience. There is a big, FAT difference between a spoilt tantrum-throwing brat and a baby who cannot yet express their needs with speech.
And to the OP, most of us parents DO offer whatever comfort is required by our crying babies- but that doesn’t always mean it will stop their crying! And like above people mention- your baby DOES eventually need to learn how to consol him or herself (to a point, of course). If you’re such the expert, why don’t you get your own tv program?
Another thing to those idiots who say “leave the baby at home”: That isn’t always possible! I, for one, live in a foreign country- without the support of my parents, sisters, or any of my friends. My husband works full-time, and I now live in a town where I know absolutely nobody. Does that mean I should stay the fuck home all goddamned day- for fear of hurting some overly- stressed out, self-entitled, sensistive knob with no empathy for anyone else but themselves? I dont think so.
…pacifiers.
Yes, they are not great for teeth if used constantly, but it should be fine to use them for time spent in public.
I’m willing to bet there is not one parent out there who hasn’t been frustrated or gotten mad because their of their child’s crying. Especially after a stressful day at work or lack of sleep or whatever. We are humans. Thankfully the vast majority of us do deal with it without going to extremes.
As soon as one of my little ones starting getting vocal in a store or restaurant, I’d tuck the offender under one arm and march them out of the place I was at. The only time this became disturbing was when my youngest daughter (she was 2) started yelping: ‘Help me, help me.’ Stinkeyes as far as the stinkeyes could see.
BabIES, damn it.
That is all.
Well said, Scoob. I’m childless myself, and the sound of a crying baby makes my uterus shrivel up and turn to dust, but I always try to offer the parent a sympathetic smile. They usually looks so stressed and frazzled, the last thing they need is hostility and impatience from strangers.
We were all babies at one time, and I’m sure we all offended the delicate sensibilities of strangers once or twice.
The kids could be teething too. No comforting is going to stop the screaming from that.
oh shut the fuck up.