I have been doing a bit of work for a fella on his house that he just bought, and became pretty good friends with him. We shoot the shit a lot and discuss what’s going on in our lives. He is separated with one 13-year-old girl with his ex. He told me the other day that his ex called Child Protective Services on him, saying that he physically abused her and a few other things (which I believe he didn’t do).
Anyways CPS came over and he talked to them, and at the end of the conversation he asked them if they were going to go investigate his ex, as that is where all the problems are occurring: the girl is living with no structure, staying up as late as she wants, watching or listening to whatever she wants, being home alone constantly. All they said was their job was to investigate him and that was it.
He has been having this problem with the system for years, and because he is the father, not the mother, the system automatically shuns him. The system looks to favour the woman, and not even do a proper investigation on what is better for the child instead of, in their own words, “try to keep families together” even if that is doing more harm then good.
Everyone says that there shouldn’t be any discrimination or sexism, but ever so sadly we see it in the public system still favouring women automatically and just disregarding the man as a “deadbeat” even when we just want what is best for our child physically, mentally and emotionally. When does the favouritism stop and a fair trial began? How can CPS just completely ignore the best interest of what they are there to do!!!
—BR88
This article appears in Oct 10-16, 2019.
CPS would’ve spoken with his daughter. I wonder what came of that?
Mind your business and tell your friend to pay his child support.
It happens more than you think. I have the proof. In 2007 I was involved in a CPS custody trial, it was during that trial that I found out that CPS was being discriminitory towards fathers.
Actual testimony from a CPS worker who indicated that it was the intent of the agency to go after fathers. The agency had hired a person to do a parental capacity test. That person was asked under oath this question; “Over a five year period how many assessments have you done for the agency”? She replied; “Hundreds” Then she was asked “And how many were in support of the fathers and how many were against the agency’s recommendations”? She replied; “None and None”. The problems now are even worse, the agency claims that I was abusive to my child for pointing my finger at her and telling her she was grounded…Now because of their so called history we might wind up losing our grand children. We don’t have the money to sue for damages or we would. Your not alone out there is all I’m saying