You are probably the most boy crazy person that I have ever met. That in itself is fine, it’s kind of cute to hear you giggle about Jake Gyllenhaall and all those other pretty boy celebrities that you like. There’s certainly nothing wrong with it! However, being as boy crazy you are, you want a boyfriend. That’s great, but how do you think you’re going to meet someone when all you do is sit on the couch and watch television?
You seemingly refuse to go out and perhaps be out of your comfort zone. I’ve suggested joining clubs or groups that you’re interested in, but you’ll have none of that. Prince Charming isn’t going to kick down our apartment door and sweep you off your feet. No, you actually have to go out and meet new people, or at least give internet dating a go if you’re really that hesitant to leave our building.
I suppose where I’m going with all this is that your attitude and ridiculously high standards regarding men piss me off. You’re incredibly shallow, almost to the point where if a man isn’t “Hollywood good looking” that you won’t even give him a chance. I know we have different tastes in men, but any time I’ve spotted out a good looking guy to you, you always say something along the lines of “Meh.”
Now, I’m not dating anyone either, but that’s more of a personal choice right now – I’m very happy being single. But any time I go out lately with my friends, you allude to me meeting someone and then hooking you up with his friends. Should I meet someone, which would be nice but is not a priority in my life, my first thought isn’t going to be about setting you up with friends of his. Not because I wouldn’t do it, if I thought you might get along with someone, I would, but it just seems like such an incredibly weird and almost selfish thing to say to a friend.
I think that perhaps you need to turn words into actions, and be more active in getting the things that you want. They’re not just going to come to you because you want them. —Get Off My Couch
This article appears in Mar 31 – Apr 6, 2011.
Fuck her,then. Don’t bring up the subject anymore. After a while, you can’t push a rope (or in this case, is she becoming a bucket of lard?). Buy her a big vibrator for Christmas and be done with it…
..and a male escort, to go along with it
well o.p., you are right, just as a person with their beaks stuck in a video game, they will never meet other real people. it’s a shame sometimes, that people only interact with others, either thru facebook, texting, or games online.
people have little to fuck all social skills today, and would shit bricks, if their media was to suddenly not work. i see people walking/texting, and never look up from their fucking gadget once. do they get ran over, luckily no, but it wouldn’t be the driver who is at fault. i know a young guy, mid twenties, that spends about 18 hours daily, playing w.o.w., disgusting. people have to come into the light every so often, and mingle with other humans. hard as it is to say, they need this.
in a perfect world o.p., your friend would actually get outside, meet people her age or a bit older, and have a few minutes of fun, without t.v., video games, or their fucking phones going off. if she doesn’t want this, pull the fucking plug, and let her slip slowly into retardation. you have at least tried, be safe in that bit of knowledge.
Good luck finding any of those in Spryfield.
Man that bitch was way to long considereing its subject matter.
Perhaps that’s just me though.
touche LS.
social skills are the shits this day and age. i wish it was still the 70’s and we had a roller skate rink and drive-ins. people actually mingled and seemed so much happier. i get jeal-y when my parents go on about how much fun they had when they were young adults.
OP, it sounds like she has social anxiety.
T&T, i also agree with you on that!
Is this your responsiblity, OP? Why are you willing to put up with this fucking albatross around your head stem?
wow, I just can’t imagine why the ‘cutesy, tootsie’ stars can look so appealing….
http://oursurprisingworld.com/wp-content/u…
and people who take the container over the character get what they want in the end.
perfection or loneliness.
and we all know how easy perfection is to come by….
heh, most “stars” look *gasp* just like you and me without their 50 pounds of pancake make up on and without all the special lighting.
Fuck *I* look better without make up on than half the “stars” in hollywood (if you’ve ever seen those pics in the tabloids). I hardly ever wear it, yet I don’t see people gasping with fear when they see me like they do when they see an un made up celebrity. (or maybe they just gasp in fear behind my back).
And while I agree with your general sentiment, zZz, sometimes you just can’t get into digging someone who’s ‘container’ you really don’t like 🙁 Mind you, their container can become incredibly attractive once you get to know them, but there has to be SOME physical chemistry there. Unless you’re into dating solely by email 😛
really?
I’m pretty sure once you see them, you’re just so put off you never really get to know them.
were you blind, they could be the greatest love of your life…
and now the greatest loss of your life, unbeknownst to you.
either way, to each his or her own.
just don’t claim that you aren’t shallow to a certain degree.
We’re all shallow to a certain degree, zed. You can’t tell me that you don’t consider physical chemistry at least a little tiny bit when it comes to the ladies and coupling.
I’ve never actually been ‘put off’ by anyone, to be honest, and given my dating history, I wasn’t even physically attracted to a good 75% of the guys I’ve been with when I first met them. So much so that I never actually considered dating them at all. Until I got to know them, then they were hot as hell. I’m not the ‘love (or lust) at first sight’ type and tend to get to know someone before I even entertain any feelings for them. Personality is almost always a deal breaker for me, and if it’s shallow to be picky in THAT regard, well I’m probably the pickiest person alive. I have a short attention span and I get bored easily. If someone can keep my attention for more than 5 minutes, it’s a good probability that they’re a good match 😛
Sure there are men I see and am attracted to them physically — I see all kinds of them on a daily basis, but I would never just approach them based on the physical attraction. Jesus if that was the case I’d be all over the guy over in the other department I met yesterday (lol).
Trust me, how a person “is” — how they act, how they think, what they believe in, how smart they are, how they speak… just who they are and how they interact with the world pretty much does it for me.
And trust me, zed, I am fully aware of who the “greatest loss of [my] life” is, and it’s not because I didn’t find him attractive. It’s because I was too destroyed from my previous relationship to bring myself to do anything about it and I lost out to someone else (who I can only hope is temporary). Very tough pill to swallow.
ooo, I think I hear it…….????
yep
http://www.sabinabecker.com/images/smalles…
and your life isn’t over… so you don’t know that.
I also never claimed I wasn’t shallow… she got no chance
http://www.thetoptenlist.net/wp-content/up…
I just know several people like those the OP is talking about.
and of course o.p., the suckster is always ready to serve you.
I never asked for your sympathy, zed. So trade your tiny violin in for a cello and shove it up your Sebastian hole. 😉
And of course I don’t know for certain if he was really the greatest loss of my life — like I said: the girlfriend COULD always be temporary. *shrug*
And yes, you kinda did imply that you were holier than fucking thou and all “the container doesn’t matter because if the person is great blahblah”…. I mean MAYBE I’d tend to believe your claim if you had mentioned paper bags going over heads while naked activities were going on, but until then, yeah. You’re just like the rest of us 😉
LOL, YES I was waiting for it and there it is from LS.
I’m not getting any further into this… with the exception of the last sentiment below.
I’m just trying to open people’s eyes in that ..
if a person isn’t perfect but you can find SOMETHING nice that you like about them…
not necessarily physical either…. some people write them off as not the complete package all gift-fucking-wrapped and handed to them so they can’t bother.
If you find something nice, like a laugh….
or just the way they are… encouraging and supportive… fucking delve deeper.
See what it is that makes them so.
Or be shallow and wait it out for ‘the one’.. or one of ‘the dozen or so people that could even potentially fit into your tiny shoebox of a profile”….
just don’t FUCKING COMPLAIN you can’t find anyone or that they’re all taken.
Yes. I completely agree with what you’ve said there, zed. And I’ll actually give you cool points for that. Pretty respectable mindset — especially for a guy. The world would be a nicer place if all men had that mindset when it came to coupling. There’d be a lot less broken hearts, tubs of ice cream eaten and tears shed. However, you should’ve just said that the first time around. Sheesh.
In any event, these stupid love/romance bitches are depressing me. I’m out.
Oh snapity snap!
twould not be me donk, if i didn’t throw a bit of fun their way. shit, the suckster is so nice and kind and sweet and always ready. don’t y’all just love me to pieces, hopefully one or two at a time, nyuk, nyuk.