To the ladies of Halifax going through everyday life looking even too dressed up for high school prom: Leave your high heels at home…in fact, don’t even have them there. They pretty much never look good. Get some cute little flats or some nice flat-soled sandals and the guys will praise you…and so will your feet.
This article appears in Jul 10-16, 2008.
I truly have to commend you for this bitch! I totally agree. In 60 years when all of these people are trying to walk when they get old, they will see what you are saying. To further that point…. I understand when people want to look nice, but is it really necessary to be THAT focused on looks? What ever happened to helping others, or god for bid, caring about something else other than one’s looks?
Hear, hear!! Why would anyone wan their life to be so goddamn uncomfortable?
hmmm.. a little bit of Psychology 101 could straighten this out.When a woman wears a high heel her toes are pointed… something related to erotica. And just look what happens to her ass and HER strut when she wears the really high heels! (power dressing) A petite woman appearing taller turns (male) heads her way because she’s eye level with them.We wear jewelery, pack on the make up, care for our nails, spend way too much on clothing and dye our hair on a regular basis to cover the gray. Why? To be more comfortable in our appearance, to gain and keep the attention of our lovers, etc. Fact is, we’re competing and that warrants discomfort.A person’s appearance affects our opinion of them. Period. It’s called the primacy affect… information you have before knowing a person affects what you think of them… in this case, what she’s looks like induces some initial opinions about the personality.This is nature! You shouldn’t be surprised young girls have picked up on this and are emulating formulas that work while mature women maintain it.Got YOUR attention, didn’t she?
I’ve lived in a few places across Canada and Halifax is waaayy more laid back then most places. some cities feel like a fashion show just walking to get a coffee in the morning! here, it’s a little more loosey-goosey.
Uhh Kay, I’m not sure where you took psych, but the primacy effect doesn’t really apply to the point you are trying to make. “A person’s appearance affects our opinion of them. Period.”I THINK THAT IS CALLED PREJUDICE!!!!
Kay seems to look down on a LOT of people, Betty, if you see some of her other posts. You know what, Kay? You have a lot of valid points in a lot of the things you say, and I respect that. But don’t pull the verbal diarrhea on everyone with the “psych” shit and calling people liars when you don’t know them and looking down on people, like the Tim Horton’s worker you told to “get an education and get a real job” shit. Guessing you have bought a coffee there at some point in your life, and SOMEONE has to serve it to you. NOT cool. ((Last 2 points on different boards, but validating my point)). Just make your point and stop belittling people. You’d be respected more.
The principals of my reply stand but, Bitter Betty, you are totally right! Sorry about that, it’s been a while since I took the course and psych is not my main field of study.The discomfort we endure to attract/keep relationships and/or social status is basic human psychology. Ask anybody who’s pierced themselves if it hurts. Ask any lady if hair coloring is toxic, smell really bad, burns and fucks up your towels forever. Ask anybody with a tattoo if it hurts to get one. Ask any guy how fun it is to shave each day. Ever wear a bra all dam day? Chicks wearing high heels are no different, really.Blue Collar and Happy… be happy! If you bitched about some mundane aspect of a dead end job and I encouraged you to set the bar higher, take no offense. If it seems like I’m talking down to you take solace in the fact that I walk the talk the best I can. I’m also a kind person who regularly stands up for the underdog. If it seems like I understand details of the blue collar career be happy knowing I’ve done my share of shit work for shit money for shit management too (I bitched for a while then I set the bar higher. Much higher.) Because we Love The Way We Bitch and in addition to blowing of some steam I try to offer new perspective. I know many good people happy in mundane work. I shake my head and shrug right up until they bitch about it.
wow kay, bet you’re what, 3rd year undergrad? maaayybee doing a graduate degree? if you paid attention to blue collar’s posts, he wasn’t bitching about his job- he was bitching about the system. there’s a difference. but oh, that’s right, you easily managed to escape all that lowly shit and rise above it, clutching your magic bar. I bet boot straps were also involved, am I right?listen up: things are changing. for a lot of people, education won’t get them out of the badly paid, badly managed slime their careers wallow in. They ARE educated, they ARE hardworking, but the system has altered to mean that things are not as cut-and-dry and easily mapped out as you seem to believe.
Kay, I have done nothing but praise my job if you really read my posts. I never once said my job was “dead end” or “shit money”. My job is neither. I’m just a person that doesn’t like a higher up that visits every 4 months that makes an INSANE amount of money, coming in and never ONCE saying “You’re doing a great job — keep it up!” That involves NO money, but means the WORLD to me. Just those few little words. I don’t need to set the bar higher, because I AM happy in what I do. I’m not happy with what THEY do. That was the point of my OP in the other thread if you read it more closely.Its makes you wonder for that quick second what the hell you do it for. Until the little old woman asks you if you think her blood pressure is ok, and you tell her she may want to get it checked out because its not quite right, and then she comes in the next day and says “Thank you. I went to the hospital last night, and they told me if I waited one more day, I would have had a stroke. You saved my life.” Then I know why I do it. There is nothing like that feeling. Trust me. Do it for less money?? Your God Damn right I would. And that is no lie. I have no doubt you are a kind person, Kay….its just hard to see when you jump to conclusions sometimes. While you had some very valid points, it was a little hard to get past the “You’re a liar” and “You’re blowing smoke out of your ass”. comments. I’m for the underdog too, but I don’t talk down to anyone….I try and help them. You can tell from certain posts who is bitching for attention and who actually wants an opinion on their bitch. I ignore the attention grabbers and comment on the ones who seem to want an opinion. Do the same — you have good things to say! 🙂
I’m a “she” just like you, hedgy (lol). Thank you for driving my point home. I appreciate someone who knows what I’m talking about. Dog eat dog world baby….
oops sorry 😉 no worries, they thought I was a guy too when I first appeared here. damn non gender specific names….
I, too, was mistaken for a dude in the beginning. And we thought Jammie was a chick.
that’s it, this site needs to go french- some le and la’s would really clear all this up 😉
Blue Collar and Happy… I mentioned volunteers on the list and, agreed, health care workers can’t be in it for the money.hedgyhog, did YOU read this post? Why are you so offended and so brash? *sigh* to be a student again, so blissfully naive… those were the days. Uh, no.I’m going to find the highest heels and shortest shorts and seek out the OP just for fun. You girls have at ‘er
Their bodies they can wear what they want to. They at least have a reason to care about how they look, you do not.
I am sort of torn with this bitch. I am all for women who want to dress sexy and sport the high heels. Yes it gets attention no doubt, but what I am curious about and maybe some of you ladies can answer this for me is why do some of you sacrifice comfort for style. I have seen some poor women trying to walk down the street or in the mall etc… , and it looks like every step is killing them or they have a huge stick up their ass one of the two . I just don’t get it , in my opinion the sex appeal goes out the window . It just doesn’t make sense to me .
I’m sort of amused by this Bitch. The idea that Halifax is overrun with dolled up fashion plates who always dress to the nines is far from reality. It is well-known that Maritimers as a whole are very casual (to be polite about it.) We dress down, not up. You only have to travel to other cities and then come home to notice just how shabbily people generally look here. It’s almost embarrassing how many people present themselves in a great many workplaces. Scratch that, it IS embarrassing.Sorry if this offends anyone, but I think it would be nice to see more people take pride in their appearance around here. Looking good doesn’t make one shallow (usually – notable exceptions are definitely out there!) For many people putting effort into how they look is just a way of reflecting how good they feel (and yes, for some it’s a way to compensate for how bad they feel).In either case, the idea that we should never be assessed based on appearance is very naive. For 99% of the people you briefly interact with in the run of a day, it’s all they have. Impressions count!And it doesn’t escape notice that the very people who complain the most about being judged negatively for dressing badly, make exactly the same error – they judge others negatively for dressing well! It’s just another way we humans form our little cliques.
Good Post: Recently my partner and I had the super stop our neighbor from wearing her flip-flops/clickity -clacks around her apartment.You can only handle hearing that for a short time on hardwood floors!!!
Here comes the HRM Flip-Flop Clickety-Clack Bylaw! Perhaps it can be rolled in with the Scent-Free Cats Bylaw and the Busses to Beaches Bylaw.
Yup, can’t have a real police state until you outlaw certain types of footwear. Thanks Ali-G for doing your part.