OK, right of the bat, I want to say that white males have done many horrible things over the millennia. I understand the whole privilege thing. Yes, we have been privileged. What I don’t get is the shaming of those of us that care to identify as cisgender males. It is happening. It is wrong. —Cisgender male

This article appears in Dec 17-23, 2015.

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  2. I guess you’re too privileged to proof read your posts. You must have someone to do that for you. And for the record it’s only straight, white, cisgender males that are privileged. Everyone else is a victim of straight, white, cisgender males. You must be new to the coast.

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  4. As one of the OB’s “tribe”, I generally don’t take the gross generalizations of the finger pointing class to heart. There is just as much diversity of personality, temperament and background among cisgender white males as any other group. Sweeping generalizations always fall flat.

    I am more concerned about the growth of victim culture among all walks of life. Many of us had/have challenges in our lives. Mine was poverty. It left me open to a lot of exclusion, attempted bullying and low expectations.

    But going back in time and re-living every past injustice is just that – going backwards. It just seems to re-victimize people to the benefit of those leading them back in time. We all need to stay focused on moving ahead and offering everyone the opportunity to progress in life. The future lies ahead – not looking behind for reasons to fail.

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  7. “Don’t go to the Company House” ??? What does that mean? I’ve never darkened their doorway so I’m curious as to what goes on there.

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  9. I gotta say this bitch irks me a bit.

    Let’s be clear OB. White cis males haven’t “been” privileged. They have privilege, present tense. So to me, that seems like you don’t “understand” as well as you say you do.

    I’m sitting here, trying to figure out exactly what you could possibly mean when you say that you are being “shamed”. I know it can be hard to put yourself into another person’s shoes. I’m having a hard time doing it right now, for example. But really- could it be that what you are feeling is not a result of any actual events or circumstances that have affected your life, but just a defensive reaction to the feeling of resentment that exists in people who have had to deal with these invisible barriers every day of their lives?

    That’s a serious question. Maybe think about it, for real.

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  10. Dear Mr. male. They try to bring you down because in their insecurities, they see you as being above them, and bringing someone down is the only way they can raise themselves up.

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  18. Better than fuckin`Shakespeare, baby.doll. Lets hope it stays up for a while before some hooplehead complains to the Pinkertons.

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  19. “Pain or damage don’t end the world. Or despair or fucking beatings. The world ends when you’re dead. Until then, you got more punishment in store. Stand it like a man… and give some back.” Al Swearengen

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