This article appears in Dec 18-24, 2008.
Cheaters and Lies
There must be something seriously wrong, on the inside, when someone compulsively lies. I’ve come to conclude that this is a cyclical relationship that was founded on impulse, sustained by intense passion, but ultimately decided by poor decisions. I fe
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What I fail to understand is why people commit themselves to anyone when they want to play around. I know two individuals, both married and divorced three times, both cheaters and both, strangely enough, working on apouse #4. Doesn’t matter that they have left a trail of emotional destruction, they just can’t seem to help themselves. All they think about is what they want at the moment, pure selfishness, the ‘heart wants what it wants’ syndrome. What’s even sadder are the individuals who fall for these fucking assholes and don’t realize what’s they’re in for. There is someone out there for you, it might take some time to build up your trust but, in the end, it’ll all be worth it. I hope you realize you’ve just dodged a bullet.
I think it’s fucked to seek out a monogamous relationship all the while knowing that someday it probably just won’t be enough. People seem to want their cake and eat it too (committed, intimate relationship/variety in sexual partners) and that is certainly possible, so I hear, but too often it ends up involving deceit.I agree TTFN…I don’t get guys who complain about “the ball and chain.” You mean that ball and chain YOU proposed to? The stifling tradition that YOU embraced? Awww. So sad.To be fair, some women manipulate guys into proposing, but there ARE women out there who don’t require a ring.
My first husband was a womanizing toad and I was too young and too dumb to see it. I lived with my current squeeze for 7 years just to play it safe before I married again. We’ve been together for 26 years. No affairs because we were good friends first. and good friends don’t fuck around.