Why do people keep talking about needing to change and then fall into the same traps and routines that lead them to this point of realization in the first place?
If you keep making the same mistakes, surrounding yourself with the same type of people in the same type of environment, I can assure you that nothing will change regardless of how much you talk about changing.
When shit hits the fan, stop pretending that you’re “sick of it all” and need to change. You’re just saying this to make yourself feel better between your lowest moments of self-destruction. If you want to change, then CHANGE for fuck sakes. Stop being such a coward and deal with your issues.
Change for a change would be nice.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” – Albert Einstein —counting pennies
This article appears in Oct 3-9, 2013.
Remove yourself from this situation, OB. It will only drag you down. You sound like a “fixer”. You can’t force change on someone who doesn’t have the desire to change….this is near impossible. They have to be hungry for it. Before I even read your Einstein quote I already had it in my head. One of my favs. Too bad for your friend, if you’re talking about one particular person. They will realize things on their own someday….whether you decide to be there or not.
Some people don’t think themselves worth the effort it takes in order to make the change.
If one feel worthless they don’t feel worthy.
Most people who are “in need of change” have conversations similar to “I wish they wouldn’t do …..” or “I wish they would do ……” and the only thing the person is doing is wishing!
Many people project the need for change on others and figure this change would then improve their little world without having to do something for themselves. NOT. Change needs to take place from within and do not rely on others ….. go for it …. take the leap and make the change.
Humans are creatures of habit, any routine is hard to break after doing it for so long. Ask any person who smokes or drinks coffee. It takes an over abundance of fortitude to want to change, even me, I love coffee…just thinking of it makes me want to make one or run to the nearest Timmy’s to get my fix. Oops, too late, I’m getting ready to head out the door now, I can smell the aroma of a nice brew wafting in the air.
Everyone has these type of people in their lives. There’s nothing you can do OP except not to let it bother you or take up any of your time. A wise man learns from others mistakes and a fool learns from their own…or doesn’t learn at all? Not sure how the saying goes. Either way people are imperfect and make mistakes (after mistake after mistake). Thy have to find their own way.
i’ll stick to bills or debit thank you.
Stop asking for change, FFS!
Many people are frightened by change – it takes courage to quit your comfort zone, even if that zone is destructive. Some individuals would just rather bitch and whine while popping in the word ‘change’ like a burst fart bubble.
In my experience, it’s always best to have a time-out with such friends – in some cases, the time-outs will be permanent. Don’t waste another moment of your life watching other people self-destruct when they clearly don’t have to.
Per Einstein’s definition of insanity, you continue to ask insane people to change as if you expect it to happen.
Check and mate.
LOL, I thought the same thing last night, Batshit! Same thing only different. OB, I do feel that your friend likely wants the change but doesn’t have the courage or strength (or even positive support) to help take that step to making the change. Sometimes people tell close friends and family because 1) they want the support and 2) they have to tell someone to keep themselves accountable. These are all steps that need to be taken throughout the process of change. Be a good friend, use positive reinforcement and encouragement. You can’t do it for them but you can be supportive and stay positive. The last thing they need is to hear criticism.
At first I thought this was going to be about the bums on SGR, but after reading it realized it was from a party faithful with a last gasp bit of advice for Herr Dexter before he goes down in flames on Tuesday. Come to think of it, Dexter might join the ranks of the bums on SGR on Wednesday?
I share Klydes addiction to coffee, and beer and bacon.
WHAT IS CHANGE?
“Change for a change would be nice.” counting pennies
: “Change, n. alternation, substitution of one for another.”
What can “counting pennies” possibly mean? How can change itself be “nice”? Implied is the claim that change – an alternation or substitution of one thing for another – is itself to be desired but the claim is unsupported. It is unsupported because it is incapable, on its own, of being supported. It is incapable of being supported because, while the term appears in the form of a noun, it actually refers to a verb. It is not a substantive but rather it is a process.
As is well known, the concept of “change” has been addressed as far back as the pre-Socratics. While Parmenides claims that nothing changes – an apparent change is no more than a cyclical alternation of substances which simply appear in different forms but are themselves unchanged – Heraclitus, in his famous saying to the effect that fresh waters are forever flowing in upon you – maintained that change is all that there is. There is, in other words, no unchanging substratum to reality. All is change.
The question then arises as to whether this philosophical consideration of the nature of change bear in any substantive fashion on this bitch? It’s difficult to see that it has any direct bearing but, as a philosophical back- cloth, it does place the bitch in its conceptual context.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Most people feel the need for drastic change when a crisis nears. Let the crisis pass and the old comfort zone slips back over them like it never happened. I know, I’m one of them.
For real change to happen, there needs to be nowhere to run.
TheGreatBatshit
Well said!!
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