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Why is it the guys in Halifax are so nonchalant about dating and much prefer to be casual jerks? Grow up. If you like someone, stop being an idiot and learn to use a phone/text/email, anything. There is no reason to ever be indirect unless you’re a coward.
—tired of idiots
This article appears in Feb 4-10, 2010.
22 Comments
there you have it… answering your own questions…
they’re all cowards!
Or they’re kids – and girls are just as bad when under 30. Some of us aren’t any better over 30, but it *does* tend to be indicative of the early 20’s set…
s’pose… they want to get a feeler out there but don’t want to open up for brutal and agonizing fear of rejection. information without anguish so to speak.
usually never works though. kinda like leaving notes asking for a relationship rather than asking them face to face….
Back in my dating days, I got nailed with so many “you wish” responses, I just learned to shut it.
Gidget is right, the early 20’s set is strictly about shallow engagements at that point. Most “men” are interested in fucking, and most “women” are interested in dating, but only with the right guy. Never mind the fact that most women aged 18-25 don’t attempt to know a guy well enough to find out if he’s more interested than just casual sex… But that’s just my opinion and experience.
yeah, I’m the king of getting rejected without ever asking. 🙂
Even AFTER I ditched the mullet. geez, what does it take?
in my high school… you had to have parents that cared so little about you they’d let you go party and get drunk and high every weekend to get any attention.
oh and errrr…. fever, let me get that for you….
‘and most “women” are interested in dating, but only with the wrong guy.’
There, much better.
So here’s a young guy at the peak of his life – full of testy and not looking to chain himself to a woman, relationship, mortgage, debt and stress – shit, who the fuck can blame him??
zZz, with Billy Ray’s climb on the shirt tails of his daughter, mullets are back in. LOL.
Maybe these “idiots” you refer to are cowards. Maybe they lack confidence. Maybe fear rejection. Maybe lack social skills. Maybe they don’t like drama. Maybe they’re douchebags. Maybe they’re just not that into you.
Do you want to continue talking in generalities?
Here’s an idea. You be direct. If he’s so important, make the first move. Face-to-face too. None of this Facebook/IMing/texting nonsense.
“you wish” that is shitty dr.f…i know no one who has said that in my realm, what a creepy thing to say
Pfft, like the females in this city are anything special. A bunch of uneducated bimbos who think they deserve to travel first class but cannot even write or speak a proper sentence.
dear tired, if you have been let down, or even fucked around by some of the males in halifax, i feel for you. as a male, i try to treat my partner/mate/one niter with didnity and respect. yes, i do come over crass at times,but for the right person,wow.so, if you are a female,this is for you. gary_more@hotmail.com. let’s see if something happens. p.s., i’m not a young punk, i’m a mature person with some values.
and yes gidget, some over 30 and under a 100 aren’t better either. some of these females are looking for mr, right, holy hell, fuck him, and settle for mr, right now. you will search your whole life for a prince, and still only end up with a toad, or worse.
Even if they’re not interested, they should at least call to apologize or explain. Why on earth would you leave a girl/boy waiting by a phone for weeks to be the ‘hint’ of rejection.
LIFE SUCKS, while others may make fun of and criticize you, you are starting to earn my respect! You’ve got some balls and persistance, my friend. Any responses yet? Good luck!
If a guy likes a girl, we can’t tell her we like her (unless she’s a fatty and just dying for any kind of attention). We have to “play it cool” and be smooth about it all, pretend we don’t like her, play the whole game, etc. etc., or else we can potentially scare her off. It’s tricky I tell ya! I’d love to not play games and just be straight up with a girl and say “hey, you’re cute, I like you a lot. Wanna fuck me?” But of course I don’t and won’t because somehow that would make me a creepy weirdo and the girl never ever want to talk to me again. So instead, we just talk about a bunch of shit we don’t care about in hopes of eventually getting into your panties.
OK OK, it seriously isn’t just about that and honestly, I do like having good conversations with girls like I do with anyone, but really, come on! Sex is so natural. We gotta have sex, both men and women.
FACT: most women “claim” that they value honesty and a sense of humor in their partner.
FACT: This is a lie, and if you ever choose to respond to the question “Do these jeans make me look fat?” with “No, it’s your big ass that makes you look fat.” you will learn, as I did, just how big a lie that is.
Actually, Ivan, there *are* a few of us that can take an honest answer, and expect our partner to tell us our cottage cheese would fit better in pants a size up… 🙂
ha!
cottage cheese…
muffin top? no baby, you got a whole loaf hangin out there. reign it in or I’ll use it as a speedbag.
lmao@ zZz. Seriously, though, Ivan has a point, but men are just as bad. Try telling the love-handled hubby his over 35 arse is starting to sag, and see if you ever get foreplay again.
It’s not the honesty so much as the communication, IMO.
I’m with you Q, do you actually get responses? I’m really curious.
Don’t worry, it applies to all guys, whether they are gay, straight, bi, confused, or curious. They’re all assholes.
I’m with you there Gidget, and seriously, Sonovabitchova has a great sense of humor and immense reserves of patience, but then, she’d have to, wouldn’t she.
Jesus chicks still don’t get it ? WTF . We have been doing this since the beginning of time . Its nothing new – we all just want pussy . Thats it – just pussy !!! And we try what we can . What rock did you crawl out from under?
See back in the day haha – we just thumped you on the head and dragged you to our caves and banged babies into you chicks . Now with evolution and stuff , it’s not that easy no more . So we had to get creative . This is what we do now !!
OP . Casual approach is awesome . We don’t wanna get all gaga and googly eyed for some ass . Profess our love ever lasting and three hundred dollar dinners all month for some ass. Most guys know a hooker is cheaper then that .