But I still think of you after three months. You have someone else in your life as do I. We are better off this way. You made the choice to cut me from your life, and at first I was terribly angry and hurt but now I am simply sad. You were a fun guy, who shared my passion for gardening and food. We had great fun and happy loving times. You said you needed to be selfish while you change your life. I couldn’t grasp it then and called you many things in anger. For that, I apologize. Lashing out is not my typical way.
You taught me much about myself and about people. Whether you know it or not. For that, “thank you.”
Some day (perhaps a long time from now), when you see me in public—try to say “hi” and not avoid me, or send an advance party out to make sure I am gone. You know me better than that.
Good luck and congrats on the yellow… The Glow in the Dark is less than 3 months away. —Ms Content
This article appears in Oct 18-24, 2012.
Content, Nice sentiment and apology. Hopefully he accepts it and lets go of whatever it is that causes him to avoid you. If he doesn’t, then he isn’t worth your time.
OP, not many people would continue to reach out after 3 months. I don’t know if you are a fool or a truly caring person. I am of two minds on what to say but here goes:
He cut you from his life. At the end of the day, it’s his to own. He may look at this in months or years and still think it was a good idea or have regrets. You cannot change that for him.
You say you have someone in your life. Give them the caring and love you once showed this guy.
Don’t romanticize what has happened. When you look at it objectively, was it a good relationship? Was it really or just all giving for one and all taking for the other? How happy were you?
Go on about your life. Take the lessons learned here and make better choices in your next relationship.
The last line says much. He has much more work to do on himself before he can be in a healthy relationship. It takes years for many to get there, 9 months while something to celebrate is still very early.