You know who you are…you’re the jerk who I used to send my kids to after you’d bullied me into it, despite my better judgement.
You took them to a home that makes Hoarders look like a cakewalk, (and it wasn’t even yours!) sent them back to me, winter coats literally dripping with urine, feces days dried still clinging to bums, hair matted, sugared up on doughnut holes and hot chocolate because you can’t be bothered to give them something you have to make an effort for.
You sent them home with days of nightmares, waking up begging not to have to do this or that with you… Stuff suggested that sounds like a horrible SVU plot.
When a baby is sent home with a burn that almost encircles the entire thigh, things have gone too far. Even if the Halifax Police insists it isn’t abuse or even neglect, (After all, a kid’s gotta be dead or close to it before they intervene.), it is.
Suck it up, because you screwed you, quit bitching and bemoaning on how things aren’t your fault. Quit tracking down every ex I ever had to dig up dirt, quit stalking me and my friends, physically or over the net. Spend your effort fixing your mental issues and trying to become someone who can care for their kids..It’s a much better way to spend your energy.—Staying Silent Isn’t Working
This article appears in Apr 8-14, 2010.
Wow…
This person is right OP, it’s not their fault it’s YOUR fault! What ind of a terrible parent gives there kids to someone like this against their better judgment just because they “bullied” you into it? How old are you? Five?!
Worst of all you knew all this and kept sending your kids back?! And one of them was just a baby???! You think it’s only gone too far when the baby comes home with a burn??? Dummy! Things went too far when they came home covered in shit and urine! Do you give a shit about your own kids?
What a terrible parent! Taking responsibility of your kids includes taking responsibility of who you entrust your kids to. This is all your fault!
so, o.p., you go to court for a varience, and tell the judge exactly what you are saying here. there are actually laws against child abuse, and plainly, this sounds like it to me. get a lawyer and haul the other one’s sorry ass back to court. or, get out and meet a very nasty fucking dude, that likes kids, and let nature take it’s course there. if it was myself in your shoes, well, there would be a brief period of www 3, then a body would be fished out of the harbour.
She ‘bullied’ you into it???? Wow, what a weakling for a role model. Your poor kids – they suffer and you get outraged on a bitch board, flailing impotently about this woman. If you were any kind of mother, you would have marched up to this broad and read her the fucking riot act after the first incident. That you didn’t speaks volumes about your own character.
You are SCUM OP. Your children are probably scarred for life and YOU put them in that danger. You knew this other person was trash, yet you send them there anyway?!?! WTF!!! I just ate lunch and feel like i’m going to ralph it up right now. Someone needs to report this other scum, and YOU for the shit your children went through, and will probably go through for the rest of their lives. Get off the fucking computer and DO SOMETHING about this. The cops won’t do anything? OK try somewhere else! You keep bugging people until they help you!
You sir/madam, are the screw up.
Btw, is this a response to that bitch a few days ago, posted by some mom who didn’t have costody of her children?
The safety of the children are the #1 priority! Nothing else matters.
I wish I had your optimism.
Why was that comment removed? Now my comment doesn’t make any sense…
OP:
If your claim that some random “jerk” sent your baby home to you “with a burn that almost encircles the entire thigh” is true then I am formally requesting that THE COAST MODERATOR give your identity over to Child Protective Services so these children can IMMEDIATELY removed from your custody.
ANYONE who allows children to be abused and tortured in this way should be in JAIL PERMANENTLY.
Christ lady, you don’t need LTWWB, you need a serious intellectual and psychological assessment.
I know this story seems shocking but it’s amazing how many kids are in these situations. I’m not sure if this one and the other-sided recent post are related but at least it gives us a view into why these kids end up getting messed up. There isn’t much to do about nature, hopefully nurture or lack thereof hasn’t permanently marred these little ones, if so, the cycle repeats itself.
Who the hell would allow a baby to be harmed in this way? I mean think about it: what kind of person INTENTIONALLY BURNS a BABY “all the way around the thigh”??????
Who allows children to become coated in urine and feces and then acts as if it is OK?
Oh, I remember: all the thousands of degenerate asshole “clients” I used to have to deal with when I worked in the child protection field decades ago.
I’ve ranted about it on here many times before.
Now I am just dismayed to see that it all just continues on, the criminals acting as if they are innocent, and allowed to carry on as usual; the children growing into irreparably damaged adults who think it is “normal” to do these things.
God, it is all just too depressing. I need a tranquilizer.
I can say that when something like this goes to the cops, Child Welfare is going to be involved already unless it was extremely recent. (They report this stuff right off the bat.)
I can also say that there’s a NUMBER of things that even with a lawyer, (unless you’re paying out of pocket for their time), and the Agency’s involvement will be passed off and the Agency will ‘encourage’ you to ‘work things out with the ex’… Even when it’s an ‘everybody knows what’s going on’ scenario, simply because nothing can definitively be proven. If it’s with some random stranger, unless something concrete pans out, they generally just tell you ‘X person cannot be involved with your kids’. (Incidentally, if X person is caught with your children you stand a better chance of them being taken away for the EXACT same incident the other parent may have been responsible for. Idiotic, no?)
Sorry to all you folks with simplistic ideals about how Child Welfare and the police work, but, it’s a damn sight harder than you think to get the ball rolling on this sort of stuff til, as it was put, ‘a kid’s gotta be dead or close to it before they intervene’.
Truth be told, you’d get more help on this from a dark alley, a few large buddies and some baseball bats.
Yes, 10-chan, all that you say is all too true.
What troubles me about this post is that the OP has ADMITTED IN PUBLIC that she allowed some “jerk” acquaintance to neglect, abuse, and TORTURE her children, and then writes to LTWWB—an ENTERTAINMENT COLUMN—looking for sympathy.
AND she downplays the entire incident claiming that the kids are telling her “stuff suggested that sounds like a horrible SVU plot”—LADY, THIS IS NOT A TV SHOW, IT’S (ALLEGEDLY) HAPPENING TO YOUR KIDS IN REAL LIFE, DOESN’T THAT CONCERN YOU?—and that “when a baby is sent home with a burn that almost encircles the entire thigh, things have gone too far.”
HOLY SHIT—”GONE TOO FAR!!!” you say. CHRIST—AN ALLEGATION ABOUT TORTURING A CHILD BY BURNING needs stronger language than “gone too far.”
ANY PERSON WITH ANY SENSE AT ALL who sees kids in the condition she describes—filthy, crying, visibly traumatized, BEGGING (BEGGING!!) to never have to see that guy again, AND, I will say once again, with BURNS ON A BABY FOR GOD’S SAKE—should act far more strongly and decisively than writing a flippant note about “relationship drama” to a bitching column.
How criminals like this live with themselves is beyond my comprehension.
Coast Moderator, I am asking you again to forward the original posting and the identity/location of the poster to the attention of the police so they can act accordingly.