OK, so in light of the recent tragedy in BC with the young girl who took her own life because of years of physical and cyber bullying who can we blame? They all say blame the bullies it’s their fault, yes in hindsight it is their fault but when we take a step back and ask ourselves how does one become a bully? It’s a lack of parenting if you ask me. Parents are either not involved in their child’s life or they are just a piece of shit parent. A bully does not know how to be a bully out of no where its a learned behaviour based on their own self insecurities, lack of self-confidence, and just being a scared child. I’m not sympathizing with the junior and high school bullies it most definitely is their fault for this tragedy but if a child is not capable of understanding rationally like an adult who the hell is to blame for this?? Parents should be allowed to hit their kids, I was spanked and I was NEVER a bully! —Blondie
This article appears in Oct 11-17, 2012.
Good logic. A child learns to be a bully from their piece of shit parents. So to deal with this problem you say people should be able to hit their kids. Based on your stupid reasoning the child would then learn to hit other kids on top of being a bully. Problem solved, kids get tortured mentally and now physically. Your an idiot!!!!
Shitty parenting is probably a factor in a lot of cases, but is by no means the only one. There are so many factors that determine how a person will turn out that I don’t think we even know them all.
This is a prime example why children should not have access to social media. It’s bad enough to be bullied face to face, but to see yourself at every turn being constantly ridiculed by your peers, is just cruel.
Bullfuckingshit, OP. My mother was strict as shit and I still got the crap pounded out of me at school. Bullying is as old as mankind, dozeknob. I must say, however, being bullied taught me as an adult to be a ‘take no prisoners’ ubercunt when necessary.
Sonictooth I was spanked when I was bad or didnt listen to my parents and that by no means taught me to hit other kids. Your reasoning is stupid, let our kids get away with everything and what are we gonna do take away their video games and computers?! Come on shit like that doesnt work, putting the fear into them will make sure they behave. Its classical conditioning at its finest, you do something bad you get punished simple as that.
Hey Blondie, wake up. My post was a sarcastic view using the OB’s reasoning. Not my own personal feelings. But your ramblings are just as bad as the OB.
And Blondie, can you please click “like” on my post to make up for the “dislike” you gave me. Some peoples children………..
My parents were great and I was both the bully and bullied. I am so thankful that the one person I targetted (with my classmates) when I was 12 didnt take her life and didnt act out in any self-harming ways. I have been able to apologize luckily.
Who asked you anyway, Blondie?
Jagoff…
whatcha gonna do about it?
ya gonna cry? are you CRYING?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
What harper said. (surprisingly.. since I don’t think I’ve said that before..)
http://www.theage.com.au/ffximage/2007/03/…
Blondie, you’re a simple-minded tool. Spanking doesn’t guarantee anything.
Taking away privileges like video games and computers worked for me, Blondie. Once a kid gets to about 5 years old in my opinion spanking is inappropriate. I do agree that parents can definitely contribute to their kids bullying behavior by making excuses for the kid or by being neglectful, and also being bullies themselves. I don’t think I’ll be able to bring myself to watch that poor girl’s youtube video. I’m so glad that stuff wasn’t around when I was in school, it just missed us.
“Parents are either not involved in their child’s life or they are just a piece of shit parent. “
Yes, because only the very best of parents take time out of their lives to abuse their children. Since children learn what we teach them, spanking them will surely do more good than teaching them non-violent ways to solve problems. *eye roll*
On a side note..
I was bullied in junior high school by a former friend. She was teasing me constantly and spreading rumours about me. No amount of reasoning could get her to stop bothering me constantly. One day, on my walk home for lunch (she lived a few houses up from me), she was teasing me yet again. I was fed up and ran after her. She started to run too but too slow… I hit her on the back as hard as I could and she went down on the ground crying.. and she never bothered me again 🙂
Although there’s truth to that, I also believe that the school teaches a child a lot.
These children spend so many hours of their week at school.
Teachers, principals and other authority figures don’t get involved or interfere when bullying is in progress in school. The reason why is because they’re not allowed to. They’re at risk of losing their job. Society allowed that to happen.
Some kids want to be popular so they hang out with bullies and then a new bully is born.
That particular person never knew what bullying was until he/she started hanging out with the bullies themselves. If the parents try to do anything, child services gets involved. If teachers try to do anything, they risk losing their jobs. So if you ask me, the system is at fault and we’ve already established that here in Canada with countless articles about bullying and child crime. They just go unpunished. Kids know they can get away with it.
If a parents grounds their child, the child will simply call child services and claim a risk to their life and being held against their own will without any food or water, when in reality, the parent is only trying to discipline the child by grounding them.
You can blame whoever you want but I believe the legal system and society put us in this position.
Also, “I was spanked and I was NEVER a bully!” is an incredibly narrow-minded view point.
The Internet has elevated bullying to a whole new level of viciousness – the solution is to be able to access IP#s of the little cuntwraps who pull this shit.
that’s the second stupidest thing i have ever heard. bullies are just that, fucking bulllies. they are not genetically bred to be such, they just decide to start off that way. grant you if they see it in the home, it will strenghen their idea that this is right.
i think you might be watching too much u.s. television o.p., and should open your eyes and look closer to home. a bully is someone that preys on the weakest link in the human food chain. and therefore will go out of their way, to make those people’s lives miserable. if you stand up to one, they usually cede the ground to you, or they have a bunch of like minded dimwits with them, to reinforce their strengh.
Children are not born naturally cruel; they are taught that.
children are little blobs, they are taught empathy
Bad parents let kids take knives to hockey games.
(A little too soon?)
Being ridiculed by your peers is a fact of life and it happens in adulthood as well. Social media is in the hands of children and teens because corporations market to them because kids are nags and its tough for a parent to say NO a million times. Nonetheless, if we taught our children to identify with their spirituality (not religion) and their strengths in this world rather than with their outer appearances and their rampant emotions, we wouldn’t have these problems. Better luck next life.
Bullying is symptomatic of our culture. This war on bullying will be no more effective than the war on drugs or the war on terror.
I disagree mamma_mac, I believe children do have the inherent ability to be cruel. THey just need to be shown by example how to behave. Parents should not argue in front of them, should show a unified front and punish by taking away privileges. A bully can become a bully for a number of reasons but homelife is a leading contributor.
The online bullying issue is just another reason parents really need to keep tabs on what’s happening on the computer with their kids. No computers in their kid’s bedroom for example.
The internet is a cruel place …
@Lou no your right spanking doesnt guarantee anything except a red ass and the fear of conforming to parental control. It works for some and not for others. Kids today get away with murder and I’m not saying that wailing on your kids is the only way to parent. Bullying is a learned behavior and not something that your born with, obviously you have never heard of nature vs nurture theory. @Naveed I never once said anything about “abuse” I’m talking about spanking your child when called for, abuse is a whole different ball game. I was spanked growing up and I dont feel I was ever abused by my parents.
Now on the other hand the only one who spanks me now is my bf, only when I deserve it hahaha@Blow Me
The other thing parents and schools have to teach is to have the victim ignore all the bullshit. Bullying only works if the victim allows it. Internet bullying are words. Ignore them, hold your head high and say fuck you. By doing this, you take any “power” the bully has away. If they hit you, hit them back. Going to parents or school personnel doesn’t work and in most cases increases the bullying as the bully sees you as powerless. Bullying is a power thing, take the power away by either ignoring it (in the case of words) or hit back if it is physical. Take away their so-called power.
IMO this young girls parents have failed her. boys and girls of this age have it hard enough in their social circles with self-esteem.
Seriously, did she think showing her boobs in an open chat room would satisfy her need for attention? *insert eye roll here*
Ok, so she flashes and it goes viral. She made a bad choice and there’s no taking it back. regret? sure.
That her parents didn’t advise her that it’s now something she’s going to have to live with? monumental fail. This young girl didn’t have to switch schools, she needed guidance on safe internet practice and the tools to combat her esteem issues and the blow back from bullies. in any instance.
She gave these children foddar by rolling over and staying silent…… where was the protection of her parents? or the School? I know we can’t protect our children when they’re out of reach but we can teach them the tools to combat social bullying like this.
This girl was failed across the board by every authority in her circle of life.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and this is a controversial topic, but here’s mine:
I don’t believe that disciplining your children is abuse at all. My father slammed down the iron fist and put the fear of God into myself and my three brothers. Everyone of us are productive, compassionate, respectful members if society. None of us are scarred or violent in nature. We have been taught, sometimes by an ass-whooping, to respect our elders/peers and to follow rules.
I disciplined my daughter, when necessary, and she is an exceptional young adult. She actually speaks up against bullies and would put her own neck out to protect the meek and vulnerable.
Every species in the animal kingdom disciplines their young. Every single one. I believe the downfall of modern society can be attributed to lack of structure and discipline in the home. That’s just my opinion.
The only reason random people give so many fucks about this girl is because she made that video and posted it on youtube. It isn’t like the world only has one suicide per year. Nah fuck everyone else that kills themselves because hey this chick made a video and it went viral. Every single person who is sensationalizing this story is putting out the message that if you’re not media worthy then you aren’t important.
The worst part about all of this is the fact this girl suffered very mild bullying when compared to some of the other shit that has happened in the past. Most people don’t even know the actual story and think this was just a case of bullies targeting a poor innocent girl which wasn’t the case for the most part. This girl made a series of really stupid decisions and was targeted for that reason. She didn’t deserve it, but teenagers are quite possibly the meanest people on the planet so it shouldn’t be shocking people did what they did.
Blah blah blah hfx_godzilla is heartless. No…I just don’t base my value on human life by using media influenced empathy. I feel just as bad for her as I do for anyone else that has been in her situation and a youtube video won’t change that.
“Every species in the animal kingdom disciplines their young. Every single one.”
Especially the Spiders, NurseHezz! They EAT their bad mouthed little brats! Now that’s quality discipline..
“This girl was failed across the board by every authority in her circle of life.”
When you consider the ignorance of youth, and the elders responsibility to coach a kid appropriately into our world, you’re absolutely right, hrmet (HRM E.T.? You’re a Halifax Alien?)
I agree with the Heartless Lizard. It’s terrible when other more serious issues get pushed to the background because of popularity.
“Especially the Spiders, NurseHezz! They EAT their bad mouthed little brats! Now that’s quality discipline..”
YOU SHUT YOUR WHORE MOUTH, GENERAL!
>: ) Heh, heh – jess kiddin’. Thought I’d save Nurse Hezz the trouble.
the lizard’s intelligence is shining through
Haha, excellent Ivan! If I remember correctly the Nurse gets the jitters when thinking about the creepy crawlies. Thought I’d add a little ‘zip’ to her morning coffee >;)
Lmao @ the General! I was having such a serene, relaxing morning, and you had to go mention those scary, 8-legged, furry beasts!
Massive paranoia setting in…
Haha Ivan! Way to have my back! General….mission accomplished
I do my best. Glad I could be of help to ya, Nurse!
I feel the parents of this girl are partly to blame. (so flame away) THey didn’t realise she was having problems ? What did she live in a seperate address they never visited ? I know about children & problems they can get into. I’ve had a problem child, I had to make tough decissions to deal with those problems. I had to admit I wasn’t capable of helping the child & I needed assistance, that didn’t mean turning the child over to social services & considering it handled. It meant even closer attention being paid, regular phone calls, meetings with staff, social workers, visits at every opportunity. Addressing my childs concerns as well, in what was happening….particularly when what we were trying to do for the child & those goals were being met, but staff would try to opt out of keeping up to their original promises for meeting goals. To the point I had to get a lawyer(s) & with their help intervene. All of this was extremely distressing & difficult. But IMO it was much easier than burying her ! But you as a parent have to come to terms “YOU” aren’t capable…. & IMO many people will never admit that & love the easy way of denial, & hope it will work itself out … that it all just fix itself & go away ! Well once they’ve burried her I guess its now ‘gone away’ aka worked itself out !
yeah, that statement was factually inaccurate… but I guess it’s her opinion.
There are so many species that abandon their young right after birth, most notably fish and reptiles… I don’t think you can count that as disciplining them for starting their life…
Some even eat their young!
“I guess you won’t amout to anything. Immaeatchew” is how I imagine it goes.
Tsk tsk…General, you’re such a bully! 😉
I likes to tease da gurls, Avast!
Wanna know a secret? They like it 😉
i was going down the facebook home page the other day, and wtf. there was this girl, maybe 11 or 12, flashing her titless chest. she lives in brentwood, cali.
or so her bio said. i sent her a fucking nasty little message, and her mom writes back to me, and fucking get this now. she told me to mind my own fucking business, that her kid could put whatever she wanted up there. i don’t even know how she got on my friend list, as that is the only way that i could see her pic.
now that’s what i call good parenting, fucking NOT.
My mistake Zed…I should have specified ‘warm blooded’ animals.
BLOW I hope you contacted FACEBOOK or the police ?!
“the lizard’s intelligence is shining through”
Are you implying that it doesn’t shine through always? I see how it is PG….subtle, but still hurtful.
good grief, i try to be nice…i do not imply, infer and i’m about as subtle as a sledgehammer^^
Mr. Grey? Is that you??
Parents rasing bullies is child abuse. See my comments on children with mentally ill parents in previous posts.