Four years ago when you left because you were staying home to look after your kids you acted like quite a snot. I told you you shouldn’t burn any bridges. Your response was to inform me that as a “secretary” I am not a “bridge” and I could F-off.
Now, you have two kids, no husband and no job and your resume sits here on my desk. Your cover letter is incredibly needy and whiny and you are obviously desperate for work. I am now in charge of hiring for the entire company. Maybe you should have researched that a little before you applied. —I’m not A bridge, I’m THE bridge
This article appears in Feb 17-23, 2011.
hahaha..ok, kinda sucks for the person applying, but the “I’m not A bridge, I’m THE bridge”, love it.
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Well OP…. sure, now you’re THE bridge and this chick made an ass of herself four years ago…. nonetheless if you are in charge of hiring you know you need to make an unbiased decision. I mean, if it’s evident that she does not fit the qualifications for the position it’s a no-brainer. But is her cover letter needy and whiny because of your negative encounter or is it genuinely so? From the sounds of it you have the chance to be the better person…. and who knows- your gesture could cause her to look at things differently as well!
Some people don’t deserve a second chance but I am a firm believer that a lot of people deserve the benefit of the doubt. Good luck with your decision and good on you for working your way up the corporate ladder!
Sounds like a Spryfield country song.
You are in charge of hiring for the ENTIRE company? From secretary to Hiring Queen…..how did that happen?
Must be a small company….jump off your high bridge.
Be careful OP. If you`re in a position of hiring and you`re posting on a public site about someone’s resume….then you have NO sense of confidentiality and you – yourself will soon be sending out resumes. Have some class. Revenge may be bitter sweet but take the high road and don`t publicly humiliate this person. (Even if they do deserve it a little).
Ditto jonnoman
Withholding a person a job opportunity based on a petty squabble that took place years ago (as opposed to qualifications) is a shitty and unprofessional thing to do.
I recommend you get someone else (someone who knows nothing of the situation and has nothing to gain by telling you what you want to hear, in fact do it over e-mail, also blot out the contact info and name to make sure they have no idea who it is) to look over the cover letter and resume to see if they also find it “incredibly needy and whiny “. You’ll most likely find that your interpretation of it was informed by your obvious childish contempt for the writer.
haha! bring her in for an interview.. just so you can see the look on her face when she realizes it’s you.
At least the OP isn’t the bridge on the river Kwai. 😛 http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/5129…
I think your old feelings will have impaired your judgement for hiring and as such you should just pass off the resume to a boss or someone else to decide, hence you take the high road and the decision is best for the company. Unless your just a prick and just not hire her.
If the person never did the research to know your hiring then why would they bother if you don’t hire them?
People make mistakes. You, OP, obviously are not a forgiving type. In other words, you let your emotions rule your common sense, therefore, I would not consider you a good manager. Your post reflects a mean, petty individual and I feel badly for anyone who has the misfortune to work for you. Expect a high turn over, Ruling Twit.
Yea, careful with the confidentially thing.
Also, call her up and say “hey, I just got your resume, let’s go get coffee and talk”
Find out what she’s like now. If she was horrible the kids would have went with the father. SECOND CHANCE GO
i agree with Anglo — however, it’s also a matter of covering your ass. If she’s perfectly qualified and you don’t hire her and she finds out she could file a complaint and you could be in deep doo doo. Especially if she reads LTWWB 😉
There are a few people in this world i can’t fucking stand, but I know if I was their hiring manager i’d hire them no problem because I recognize their talents. It’s called being a mature grown up, OP. Perhaps you should consider becoming one.
Also: what the fuck is up with these work-related HR bitches? Are these people REALLY that stupid as to jeopardize their careers like this? Your co workers can probably recognize the details of these bitches….possibly even your managers….which wouldn’t likely be a bad thing because then people with HR certifications that can’t find work in HR who are probably more on the ball than these people could have a shot at finding work.
There are A LOT more HR professionals than jobs, OP — so don’t get TOO comfy 😉
What goes around, OB.
Maybe tone down your sense of “Gotcha!”, and take a higher road. Maybe she can learn from her mistakes, and that people you wrong can forgive.
Or continue the circle of cunty bitchiness and fuck her out of a job because she said something arsey to you 4 years ago.
I don’t believe in karma, but I still try and do the better thing, just *because*. Because someone has to do it, and because at some point someone’s going to have to cut me some slack.
Do the right thing, without laying on the smarmy “you owe me” bullshit, and everything will be just fine.
I’m thinking here is a single mother with two kids to support and here’s a smug twat swatting her like a fuzzy-slippered fly over petrified shit – you do not belong in human resources – you’d be better off in a junior high school yard, snapping your skipping rope at the ankles of your emotional peers.
You said it, TTFN!
And I know about 50 qualified HR professionals who would be right there to scoop her job.
Karma’s a bitch. It’s always nice to say “I told you so.” Why not give her a call and ask why you should even read her resume?
and if you don’t hire person because of that, it’s a lawsuit to you for discrimination. get the fuck over yourself o.p., you aren’t queen of the fucking world, or even a modest little dichater.
OP’s “friend” was a bitch before and from her cover letter, it doesn’t sound like she hasn’t changed much…so either way, why would anyone hire her or give an interview opportunity? I’d think excellent communication skills is a must in any company.
and i would add that, if you posted anything at all, on facecrackbook, you will be really in the deep shit pile, and that is at the bottom. fuck, i wish i knew who that person was, i would show them your little bitch, and hope they got your fucking job o.p.
Won’t the OB be surprised if the applicant was talking to the boss and they told her she had the job but had to submit a resume first? Then who would be in the shit?
hey bro, either that, or the bitch, was hired to take over the bridge’s job, because she was being a cunt to possible employees. that would be a real fcking hoot now.
ummm, I’m taking OP’s side here…
and quite frankly am surprised you all aren’t.
well, not ALL of you, but still.
You shouldn’t burn your bridges unless you’re certain… it’s a competitive environment and if this person thinks they’re above that then so be it.. don’t submit a resume back there. You SHOULD be reviewed based on your potential AND on what the company already knows about you… that’s only fair and in their best interests.
That’s how people can be fired for putting FB status’ and the like.
That’s not work related, it’s personal but still cause for dismissal.
SO, if they have MORE than any other candidate’s worth of potential then perhaps debate hiring them. ANYONE with similar qualifications should get the job over her… since she made it clear earlier she no longer wanted to ever work there again.
Another collaboration of brainless comments from, let’s face it, a collection of dull, unintelligent gommicks who clearly have nothing better to do than trying to rationalize their own mundane lives with repetitively stupid posts. (NOT ALL….. but some….)
First of all…. OP presents a biased and unflattering case. In defense of the target of this bitch- we don’t know anything of the circumstances surrounding her leaving the job. It could have been an extremely stressful time- and we all know what it’s like to get unwanted advice from someone when we just need to deal with our shit. NOTE: I speak ONLY theoretically.
Secondly- who is to say that this woman hasn’t pulled through these hard times and knows she needs employment to faithfully support her family. I think the fact she is putting herself back out there, leaving the comfort of a (possibly) government-supported life should attest to her willingness to change. OP has a beef with her, it could affect the way she interprets the cover letter.
Again, I am a fan of giving the benefit of the doubt within reason. I don’t know why people would focus only on a mistake made 4 years ago when not knowing the whole story… (which we will obviously never know….) All I am saying is, be the bigger person… or perhaps do unto others as you would have them do unto you! And not, an eye for an eye.
I completely agree about the bridge burning thing, zed — I’ve always stood by that. But, as unprofessional as this woman’s (the one who’s trying to get the job, not the OP) behaviour was, so is coming on here and bitching about this.
When you work in a professional environment, work bitches are NOT cool.
It really frosts my cupcakes when these HR bitches come up because there are SO many qualified, intelligent and very capable HR professionals out there who would KILL to even be OP’s assistant because there are NO HR JOBS OUT THERE and it’s pretty much impossible to break into the industry at this point, and we have OP here taking all that for granted. Being a hiring manager is a plum HR job, and one I know I’d give a whole lot to have, and acting just as snotty as the chick she’s bitching about and THEN coming on here and admitting to her unethical behaviour is NOT cool.
As far as I’m concerned, OP’s no better than the person she’s bitching about.
“Another collaboration of brainless comments from, let’s face it, a collection of dull, unintelligent gommicks who clearly have nothing better to do than trying to rationalize their own mundane lives with repetitively stupid posts.”
OUCH.
fair… OP is being unprofessional… but is keeping fairly tight-lipped on any sort of trace back to him/her. there’s not any specific mention of genders either… very vague.
I’ll not play the gender role game either…
I still think the applicant would have to have a pretty shining resume to get a job at a place she acted so unprofessionally him/herself.
Question: when you go for an interview and are asked to wait in the waiting room, does the secretary’s input to the hiring employee, while watching your behavior, count?
A good chunk of you would be saying ‘no’ based on your replies… though we all know it’s a very bad idea to treat the secretary as beneath you when applying for a job there.
That’s essentially what happened, only with a long pause in the middle.
I’d still favor OP.
It’s sad how many people, zed, don’t realize that treating your support staff and those lower than you on the org chain well is pretty much essential…they can fuck you up the ass bigtime.
First person you wanna make nice with when you start a new job is your unit/section/department/whatever’s secretary/admin assistant. It’ll save you a WHOLE lot of problems in the end and they’re a WEALTH of information….not only procedural, but org culture-wise too, which can really make or break you in an organization.
Don’t piss these people off.
Zed… I am with you. The interview starts as soon as said applicant sets foot on the premises. So… anything AND everything should impact the company’s position on their potential candidacy. In same cases, perhaps it’s seeing said applicant having a smoke in the parking lot before coming in. The way the applicant addresses the secretary when entering…… even trivial things like how he/she may be talking on a personal phone call…
I will stand behind my feelings on the situation, in that the applicant should be evaluated MAINLY on her performance when she was with the company previously and the on how qualified she is for the job. We all make mistakes.. leaving the company as she did was CLEARLY a major lapse in judgment. But it is not up to us, as people, to designate “karma” and I simply think OP would be better off being the better person and practicing utmost professionalism. Unless, of course, she has more inside information on the applicant that hasn’t been revealed….