I don’t understand how some guys are so oblivious to the girls they date. Yes, I’m in love with you. Yes, I’m just your best friend. Yes, you’re in love with her (tale as old as time). But, your family loves me, and she doesn’t even bother to acknowledge them. You say you’re not making a choice between her and them, but you are.
I hate it that I know so many things about her that I would never tell you, because you would hate me rather than her, but I’m afraid you’re going to make a choice you will have to live with, and it will destroy you. I’ve heard her talking about your family to her friends, and I know how much you love them, so I can’t imagine what you would do if you know. But we can’t talk about this, because you wouldn’t believe me. You’re so busy being defensive of a relationship that none of your friends or family supports because she’s not good for you.
Yes, I’m jealous. Yes, I wish you were with me, but most of all, I wish you would open your eyes and realize that the decisions you are making today are driving you further from the people who love you, and one day you won’t be able to find your way back. She’s burning all your bridges, and you’re pouring on the gasoline.
You’re worth so much more than this…or at least I am. Goodbye? —Torn between love and hate.
This article appears in Jul 11-17, 2013.
uh… op. Your wearing green tinted glasses and turning bitching about her future inlaws into a conspiracy. Maybe she’s really bad for him. But you’re not in a position to make that call. You love him and she has him. You are probably far more biased than you realize.
…and can I assume Jennifer Aniston will play you in the movie?
Honestly, OP, let your ‘best friend’ (believe me, kid, best friends come and go) make mistakes (how else do we learn?) and take your life in another, constructive direction. This is the time to walk away and be the bigger person.
Or you can wait there with your catcher’s mitt and eventually become encased in cobwebs like a 21st century Miss Havisham. Your choice.
Go get him, Meaty! If he means that much to you then let love reign!
Aw.. I wish you and your friend the best in this situation, however it plays out OP. Sounds like a sad scene.
Best to stay out of the way and let things fall how they may. You’ll just come across as a jealous meddler and you know that. It’s unfortunate but true, love is blind.
Nah fuck the jealous meddler. I’ve had to deal with them before. HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU. GET OVER IT.
(if I could say this in ASL I would. Because clearly you’re deaf)
He may very well be with a total bitch. But I reiterate in really slow, clear English. YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO CAN MAKE THAT CALL. You’re far too involved in his dick to rationalize this.
Take some distance and have a cold shower.
Grow up.