To the extremely few girls in my college course who like to talk shit about me while I’m sitting right in front of them: shows me how much you all really love female empowerment. If you talk so much about how you want to see more girls in more male-dominant jobs then maybe you should stop dragging other girls down. I bet this is your way of showing me how much better you are even though I didn’t do anything to you. —Confused Bitch
This article appears in Dec 10-16, 2015.
By male-dominant, I am going to assume you mean high-paying. In that case, these jobs are far fewer than the people who want them (male or female). That makes you competition, not comrade. Welcome to life.
Yup, sounds like they’re winning. Fuck the prof and show ’em who’s boss now, bitch.
OB, try not to take it personally.
I heard a program on the radio one evening. It was about a group of nasty elementary school girls. In one scene in the school yard they had singled out a shy quiet girl sitting alone to be their target. They actually decided to try to make her cry.
Their voices were recorded somehow. When the documentary maker played them back for their mothers one of the mothers was horrified to hear her daughter using the same language she used on the phone gossiping about other people.
The moral for everyone is that children are usually imitating adults so be careful about how you behave around them if you have kids – boys or girls. They pick up on the gossiping and mean mouthing and how you treat others.
Have sex to get ahead? Not if you want to be taken seriously as a female professional these days. All students in advanced courses for good jobs are out to get each other? Not accurate. Many people develop life long friendships in these programs.
What actually works in that situation, from first hand experience, is to focus on learning and doing your best. There is self entitled bitches with limited self awareness everywhere. Sometimes they will be on your side and sometimes they won’t. If you become competent and successful it is the best way to shut people up. If you prove yourself and make good career moves then in 5-10 years you will see the same type of person who gives you a hard time now will be the same as the people that accept you without question later on.
Also – try to reach out and make alliances with other people in your class who don’t seem to follow along with that clique. There are often benefits to team work in these classes (study buddies, notes on days you miss class, talking about assignments etc) so it is smart to develop some relationships. I would bet just on odds that there are other people in your classes who would rather associate with you than with the group of girls you are referring to. Don’t be afraid to try and find them.
I’m far from being a militarist but I like this Navy Seal’s ten tips on personal growth and dealing with adversity.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxBQLFLei7…
1. If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.
You start the day by achieving something. And, ” if you can’t do the little things right, you will never do the big things right.”
2. If you want to change the world, find someone to help you paddle.
“You can’t change the world alone—you will need some help— and to truly get from your starting point to your destination takes friends, colleagues, the good will of strangers and a strong coxswain to guide them.”
3. If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart, not the size of their flippers.
“SEAL training was a great equalizer. Nothing mattered but your will to succeed. Not your color, not your ethnic background, not your education and not your social status.”
4. If you want to change the world get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward.
“Sometimes no matter how well you prepare or how well you perform you still end up as a sugar cookie*.”
*For failing the uniform inspection, the student [in Basic SEAL training] had to run, fully clothed into the surfzone and then, wet from head to toe, roll around on the beach until every part of your body was covered with sand.
The effect was known as a “sugar cookie.” You stayed in that uniform the rest of the day—cold, wet and sandy. There were many a student who just couldn’t accept the fact that all their effort was in vain. Those students didn’t understand the purpose of the drill: You were never going to succeed. You were never going to have a perfect uniform.
5. If you want to change the world, don’t be afraid of the circuses.
“Life is filled with circuses. You will fail. You will likely fail often. It will be painful. It will be discouraging. At times it will test you to your very core.”
6. If you want to change the world sometimes you have to slide down the obstacle head first.
7. If you want to change the world, don’t back down from the sharks.
“There are a lot of sharks in the world. If you hope to complete the swim you will have to deal with them.”
8. If you want to change the world, you must be your very best in the darkest moment.
“At the darkest moment of the mission—is the time when you must be calm, composed—when all your tactical skills, your physical power and all your inner strength must be brought to bear.”
9. If you want to change the world, start singing when you’re up to your neck in mud.
“If I have learned anything in my time traveling the world, it is the power of hope. The power of one person—Washington, Lincoln, King, Mandela and even a young girl from Pakistan—Malala—one person can change the world by giving people hope.”
10. If you want to change the world don’t ever, ever ring the bell.
“In SEAL training there is a bell. A brass bell that hangs in the center of the compound for all the students to see. All you have to do to quit—is ring the bell. Ring the bell and you no longer have to wake up at 5 o’clock. Ring the bell and you no longer have to do the freezing cold swims. Ring the bell and you no longer have to do the runs, the obstacle course, the PT—and you no longer have to endure the hardships of training. Just ring the bell. If you want to change the world don’t ever, ever ring the bell.”
@The King. Best BS I ever read 🙂
Is that why the world has been fucked up since WWI?!
You’re all supposed to be STUDENTS
@Randomness – Doubtful. The U.S. Navy S.E.A.L. Teams, as we know them today, had their genesis as the Underwater Demolition Teams of W.W. II, the so-called “Naked Warriors” who carried out beach reconnaissance equipped with little more than a swim mask, flippers, a slate board and a knife. Since the Vietnam War, SEALs have carved out a niche as one of the world’s top tier special forces units, with a primary focus on counter-terrorism and counter-insurgency operations. Their numbers are small with one of the most arduous selection processes of any special operations unit. Not merely physical, but mental toughness is a prerequisite, which is why there are so few of them. So, while the posted list reeks with the mawkishness of most , so-called, “self help” mantras, your attempt to link it to global events is a bit of a stretch.
Denez said,
“the posted list reeks with the mawkishness of most , so-called, “self help” mantras,”
I was always perplexed by the popularity of the vapid self-help genre …. until I realized that the content of the books or videos is irrelevant. It doesn’t matter what the advice is or who is dispensing it – the readers are unlikely to follow it for long anyway. It’s the simple act of purchasing the book that makes people feel better and that they are doing something to improve their situation. That is the only value.