Getting an IUD inserted was the most invasive and painful thing I have experienced so far in my life, even more than getting a LEEP procedure done for cervical dysplasia. It’s strange how in society the idea pushed on women is that birth control is liberating-shoving metallic implants up inside our reproductive organs or ingesting artificial hormones, no matter what the risk… meanwhile some men complain about the discomfort of using condoms and act like it’s a big deal to use them. Don’t we women go through enough pain already as it is? Why are we sometimes expected to take these risks? Do people see the inequality in this? Do we really have to sacrifice our health and comfort in this regard as well? I regret doing this to myself, it makes me sad that I bought into this lie, and I want this out of my body, now. —FML
This article appears in Mar 1-7, 2012.
condoms arent always effective….. and they also just suck to use lol…. if im in a relationship with a girl then condoms are the first thing to go once we are one on one. I don’t care what you need to take/go on/have inserted but if you don’t want my baby then its up to you to take care of the prevention 😉
just have the IUD removed.
i know the complications can be lengthy, but, the sooner the better. just get it out of you.
No one forced anyone to do anything, I don’t see how it’s unequal. People fought and yes, died for the right to control their reproductive destinies, and most countries with no birth control available live in abject property and treat women as second class citizens at best, property or slaves at worst.
You didn’t have to use that particular method of birth control, or really any birth control at all OP. You made a choice to. How is that anyone’s fault but yours? I know women who choose not to use birth control for various reasons. That is their right.
Lots of women hate condoms too, am I right ladies?
Fucking right tommy. I had that exact same comment typed up except I used the words fucking,rubber,whore,hang down, double wrap, no-pants dance, and tit fuck.
You saved me the trouble of getting a second ban.
Condoms are lame (and by lame I mean I FUCKING HATE THEM), but a necessary evil, at least initially, in my books.
And look, OB, I’m diabetic and I take birth control pills and my doc says it’s perfectly ok. If I, someone with a predisposition to circulatory system complications, can take birth control pills, why can’t you (if we’re not talking about side effects like migraines and other things that would prevent you from taking them like that)? I’ve been very lucky and have only had a bad reaction to tri-cyclen. The other 4 brands I’ve been on were pretty decent on my stomach.
Further, Thomas is right — no one forced you to get an IUD. There are many options out there for birth control and no one’s forcing you to partake in any method.
I mean, it’s not like anyone’s forcing you to have sex, either…. You COULD just keep yo’ legs closed.
Op.. are you telling me you use an IUD but don’t use condoms? Hope you know your partner’s sexual history really well then. For straight up birth control you can try the pill.
Condoms are about 87% effective as an external barrier which is also worth keeping in mind.
And you didn’t buy into any lie. I considered an IUD once. And i read the literature about it, did a few google searches and decided against it because of the clearly documented potential complications.
Get it removed and do your research before you go any other route please.
Source: I worked as a crisis care help worker a few years ago. We had to know this shit.
the two most positive and gaurenteed methods of birth control are, keep your fucking legs shut, or fuck only guys with a vasecomy.come see me o.p., i am of the latter category. gaurentee no kids.
tommy you’re right. Condoms are probably one of the worst things ever invented. I have a slight bias however.. i’m mildly allergic to latex. I think they come latex free but 9 times out of 10, the guy provides them and i don’t think to bring it up before it’s too late.
It sort of disturbs me that you’re all talking as if birth control is the most important issue here. IUDs (like the pill and various spermicide topicals) don’t protect against STDs.
PK, I don’t know the health reasons, but I have several family members over two generations (likely soon going to be three) who have had no other birth control option aside from IUDs.
That said, the feminist bent this bitch takes makes me throw up in my mouth a little.
That’s unfortunate OP 🙁 I was lucky enough that I liked and reacted well to the first bc pill I was put on – well minus vomiting every morning for the first 3 months. I guess it’s not totally equal in the birth control between men and women because men can’t have babies… we do. The repercussions and consequences are greater for women if we get pregnant, unfortunately. For some women it just takes a long time to find what is best for them and if a boy complains about condoms constantly then just tell him to get a smaller size or something until he shuts up or gets the fuck out. I wish you and your uterus all the best!
OP do what you feel is right. If this method is uncomfortable and you’re not too keen on the other ways, then abstain. Otherwise it is the best bet to keep yourself safe from STDs and unwanted pregnancy the best way current medicine knows how.
I agree. My friend went temporarily blind from depo provera. Fuck that shit. Get it out of you! Make him wrap it up or use his hand. And burn ya bra!
Just jokin, nobody likes saggy tits. wonderbra 4 life!
Condoms are the worst, but hey OP feel free to fuck other guys, I don’t mind
Jesse Ventura claims he was a Navy SEAL, but he was just an I.U.D. >; )
Ella – What’s a good non-latex brand name? The ladies here say that Trojan sucks.
I have an IUD story, I think I’ll save it for the summit.
OMG. Where does it say this woman has multiple partners? Maybe she has a partner so STDs are not an issue. She said she didn’t like the hormones of bcps. Cost may be an issue as well.
I remember 30 years ago a co-worker of mine writhing on the ladies’ room floor of the restaurant where we worked because of the pain of the IUD that was inserted. IUDs are how women from developing countries get birth control. It is the very cheapest available. How it works: a foreign object (used to be copper) is inserted into the womb, creating an inhospitable environment for an egg to be fertilized.
and fellas, before you complain about the hassle of condoms, imagine getting a copper wire inserted into your wizzwang to make you infertile! If you don’t like the feel of condoms, bank some sperm, get your tubes tied and STFU.
Or, as the signs at my women’s college said “Get a condom or beat it.”
And yet, you got the IUD. How’s your self-respect now?
worst birth control ever, diaphragms are bad enough
i love you mel “i wish you and your uterus all the best!”
I have two friends (sisters) who are IUD babies.
And depending on which IUD you get, there are hormones in it.
You ate the apple… thats your punishment. *in my best Ben Stiller impression* “CAN YOU DEAL WITH THIS”
That’s why girls should carry condoms too, Ella, especially those with a latex alergy.
Hugo – Lifestyles SKYN are supposed to be pretty good.
Yes, we have intercourse for reasons other than reproduction … ’cause, if you do it right, it’s effing awesome. Yes, having to take action to protect against unwanted pregnancy sucks. Yes, we have options for contraceptives.
I don’t have an IUD. I don’t want an object inserted into my body to prevent pregnancy. My chosen method for contraception is a needle, but that’s my choice. OB, no I don’t have an IUD, but I would bet that the the invasiveness of the procedure to insert the IUD and the discomfort you experienced during it … ain’t got nothin’ on what you would experience during pregnancy and childbirth.
If the IUD is already in and you have reconsidered and don’t want it … I guess you need to have a chat with your doc about your options. This time … if there is a little twinge in your gut or you have misgivings about one option or another … fucking listen to yourself and don’t whine and cry after the fact because you ‘bought into a lie’.
Tommy, I’m so old I remember when they were made from real lambskin! Durex, maybe they were called…?
” Don’t have sex! Billions of men can do it, why not a woman?”
Anybody think this guy might be speaking from experience?
d’oh-not durex-those were the freebies I got by the gross at the needle exchange to give to my students-BUT, you can still buy the lambskin ones-I just did a search-they don’t protect you from STDs though, so they have fallen out of fashion.
no_fool, i used to e the voice of some of those wonder bra commercials. wonder bra, style 1403, your friends will wonder, if you are actually wearing one.
Wow, OP. it’s common knowledge that getting those things inserted hurts like hell if you’ve never given birth. When I had it inserted, it was like being ripped in two. But for 5 years of barely any period, none of that hormonal mood-altering bullshit you have to put up with the pill, and peace of mind? TOTALLY WORTH IT.
IRHHW (if Rush had his way…)
Ella- it shouldn’t solely be up to the man to carry condoms. Especially if you have a latex allergy. In my opinion, that means it’s on you to make sure you have protection.
It does suck OB, but the fact of the matter is, there are way more options for birth control out there for women than there are for men. As a woman, you have the option of many different pills, needles, IUD’s, patches and more, whereas basically a man has two options, condoms and a vasectomy.
Every woman reacts differently to birth control, so you have to find what’s right for you. I do the needle and since I’m in a relationship, condoms are never an option.
some guys shouldn’t bother take the condom out of the wrapper….
plus the sheep would enjoy it more.
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“Hugo – Lifestyles SKYN are supposed to be pretty good.”
… only if your dick is tiny.
Lifestyles condoms are, for some weird reason, made smaller than other brands.
And I agree with err’one up there that said “bring your own condoms, ella.” Especially if you have special needs ffs.
PurpleFire you’re absolutely right. That’s why you’ll notice i didn’t justify it anywhere.
Absolutely true PK. I’m out of practice. I was in a really long relationship before very recently and I’m only now getting back into the condom culture.
“Hugo – Lifestyles SKYN are supposed to be pretty good.”
I’ve heard this too. I’ve also heard they run small.
I feel like i’m talking about skinny jeans or something..
Durex Love are good, but they do have latex. But they sometimes come with one of those temporary tattoos! I don’t know who would sport it, but it’s funny. It’s a heart that has a little banner that says “Mama taught me to play safe”. Can some boy please wear it as some sort of experiment and let us know how it goes?
I agree Ella, you should just buy your own. Just go get a box, it’s not a big deal. Just buy like some Mini Eggs at the same time so no one will notice the condoms.
It’s ok, Ella. I don’t make it a habit of carrying condoms around with me either.
And while I”m not allergic, the smell of latex condoms is sickening.
Durex really is the best condom brand. Unless you’re larger, than you likely have to go with magnums/magnum XLs for comfort-sake.
But Trojans just smell so gross…. the latex smell is just *blech* and it stays on your skin forever — even after showering. *vomit*
And what the hell was the point of those ‘twisted pleasure’ ones? They fit like regular condoms ffs. And their ribbed ones don’t make a damn bit of difference, either. Fuck trojans.
Mel – Because of my allergy to preservatives, latex is a definate no-no.
Let’s just say, that the results of using latex can be…unpleasant.
So,I need something for near the top of the chart…..
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Sex without a condom is better than sex with a condom, but if you can’t manage to enjoy sex with a condom, maybe you just aren’t that sexual. Great sex is still great with a condom, and lousy sex is still lousy without one. There are some pretty decent brands out there; my favorite being ‘Bare’ (by Trojan, I think).
Hugo, just get some suran wrap and a rubber band