WTF is wrong with you?
Photoless profiles: The stigma surrounding gay men cruising for sex in Halifax is the reason for this. God forbid that that gay men have sex, let alone anonymous sex, let alone sex with multiple partners. You may only do that in Montreal, Toronto and Vancouver.
Headless profiles: These brave souls have chosen to advertise that their bodies having sex including anonymous sex and with multiple partners.
Profile pics of you and a chick: I heard you. She is your friend. Do not have any gay male friends? These chaps are not looking for sex—period. As a result, they are permitted to post a face pic.
No age: How do I know if you’re 18 or 80? Not only did you not post a profile picture, you excluded your age. Like Ivory soap being 99.44% pure, there is a 99.44% chance that these guys are no longer in their 20s or 30s. Is this reverse ageism? Be proud of the number of years you spent on this Earth and be proud of every grey hair you have.
No distance: Some might argue that this is a moot point. Given I do not drive, it wouldn’t be most helpful to know ahead of time that you are a mile or more away. I’m probably not going to travel more than that distance so with a simple option click your time and my time are saved. We now have more time for tiresome searches and 20 questions.
Incomplete/missing profile text: I don’t care if you don’t write anything. I don’t know if you are a top, bottom or vers. I do care to know if you are looking for “right now” (as I am). Again, it comes back to saved time, tiresome searches and endless questions.
Haughty/rude/judgemental profile text: Yes, I realize that you do not want to have anonymous sex. Yes (to avoid argument), sex is bad when you live your life in a heterosexual archetype.
Snapchat filter pictures: That cute 19 year old has already done it. And for tiresome years. Don’t do what Donny Don’t does.
No replies: If you do get a reply and it’s not a sarcastic fuck off, you are doing really well. We may not be each other’s cup of tea but why did you throw out the lessons your mother taught you? Yes please. No thank you. You can’t believe how easy it is to type that.
Halifax Grindr users think that because they are behind an app, they are free to be as nasty as they wish. My suggestion to you is just grow the fuck up. —Unashamed
This article appears in Mar 30 – Apr 5, 2017.
You need to get a life.
I don’t know how old you are or what your “experience” level is, but if you’re that tied up with an online sex service that it angers you to the point that you’re giving vent about it on The Coast, you need to step back…go within…and discover what’s missing in your life – it’s time to start to fill that void…and not with a penis.
Grindr is a meat market. It’s an online sex site…not even dating, but sex. It is what it is, and when it comes to online sex sites RARELY do things work out.
Nobody on Grindr owes you anything. They present what they present and you take it or leave it and STFU about it. Nobody cares that you don’t have a car, or have “circumstances” that cause you to require a very specific set of hoops to jump through in order to get sex from you. They don’t care about your irrelevant little “opinions” about their picture or who is in the picture with them, they’re not obligated to reply to your posts at any time, and they don’t care whether or not you find them “Haughty, rude or judgemental” (I find it ironic that you would even go there considering the nonsense of the same type spewed throughout your bitch).
In short, most of them don’t give a rat’s rip about you as a whole person. All they care about is your dick and your rear end. And if you play games or make it difficult for them to get that, they’re simply going to move on to someone else and you’re going to be left with nothing.
That’s the way it is with sex sites!
And it’s when people like you freak out and start behaving all “cray cray” as you are in this bitch of yours that things don’t work very well on these sex sites.
Log in…shop around…if there’s nothing of interest, logout and go read a book…or “entertain yourself” (which really is often enough) and get on with life…maybe you’ll have better luck next time but GET OFF your high horse POST HASTE. This is a small city…and you don’t want people talking with others about how nuts you sound.
^^^^ this
I agree that gay guys here have huge hangups around sex, sexual expression, casual sex, etc. It’s sad here. There’s a lot of judgment; challenging it only results in diatribes such as Try’s comment. The message could have been delivered more eloquently but you can’t argue with the facts.
I don’t think men have hangups around sex…I just think that it’s impossible to GET casual sex because of the complications created by the bitch and people like him. “I don’t have a car and I’m mad that someone 2 miles away dared to ask me for sex without first checking”. Seriously?
TickleMyAnus…your reply has absolutely nothing to do with the bitch or my answer btw….but it isn’t the first time I’ve heard men talk about “hangups” as a boundary and then list 15 of their own as the bitch has.
Although frankly if men DID have hangups, I wouldn’t blame them…it’s hard to relax when the city is full of so many unstable walking landmines don’t you think?
Thank you Try, you prove my point.