Has anyone ever told you that it’s rude to stare? I realize that everyone checks people out, but when they notice you looking, that’s your cue to look away! Not glare at them with that creepy “I want to rape you” look! One thing that I’ve noticed is that it’s almost never young guys that do this, it’s always nasty looking old guys. Which makes me wonder: is it just that by a certain age you stop giving a fuck about being a disgusting creep, or is it that the older generation has no respect for women? Oh, an in case you’re wondering I don’t dress at all provocatively (not that that would be any excuse). —Downtown Business Woman
This article appears in Apr 2-8, 2015.
Wasn’t this a Jethro Tull song?
Maybe it’s an old man sexual staring ghost that only you can see and he’s trying to stare at you creepily to tell you about something that’ll help you out and may save your life in the future!!!
I heard a middle aged woman one day complain that the problem with being middle aged was that you become invisible. I took that to mean that she was lamenting the fact that men did not find her attractive and check her out any more. I guess that’s the other side of the coin.
Tell me where it is illegal, or outside of a person’s right to look in any manner they wish so long as its not an invasion of privacy? lol…WHUTCHU lookin at FOO?! Anything i fucking want to.
Women complain that they don’t get approached by men in old fashioned ways, they also complain when they do. That’s not really a knock on women, I get it, but please realize there’s a fine line that’s difficult to walk as a single male looking for a mate. How do I look interested and not look rapey? It’s not easy out there, and I tend to err on the side of looking not interested and not rapey, because being rapey is bad, mmmkay.
NO RESPECT
“What makes me wonder: is it just that by a certain age you stop giving a fuck about being a disgusting old creep, or is it that the older generation has no respect for women?” Downtown Business Woman
What we have here is a false dichotomy. Not giving a fuck about being a disgusting old creep is conceptually identical to having no respect for women. In other words, if you have the one, then you have the other.
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
Cuja12 completely misses the point…perhaps you can tell us where the OB referred to anything about gazes being a legal issue?
I think what quebecer cretin meant to answer with to
“is it just that by a certain age you stop giving a fuck about being a disgusting creep, or is it that the older generation has no respect for women? “
is…
yes.
As per usual he had to babble along as if he’s being paid by the word.
^^^ I used to work with a person whose normal mood was to be as grumpy as a bear just out of hibernation. I always thought it was good that we weren’t paying them by the frown.
And the trend to slag old guys continues.
OB probably shouldn’t venture outside of Halifax. I’ve been to places where the ladies return the compliment by not only not looking away, but look right at you in the eye until you’ve both moved out of sight.
DBW, have pity on the poor old boys…their rheumy eyes probably don’t see that well so the mere shape of a woman can cause them to focus a little too intently, thus giving you what you see as the “I want to rape you” look. Also, their “man bits” probably don’t work well any more either, so they’re likely already fantasizing about some long-ago romp as you saunter by. Don’t take it so personally. You will, with any luck, be old some day and upon spotting some handsome, young man as you wander about, may find yourself engaging in a little ogling.
^^^ ladies, it’s okay to ogle the young men but please refrain from yodeling at them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1FAX_ROQz…
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Willard (04/09, 10:11AM)
No Willard, I had it right. You’ve got to stop getting in out of your depth.
I have just the guy to take care of those creeps:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4e9CkhBb18…
This is what used to be referred as a “button topic” because anything one says might be twisted into either being with or against the complainant when the person commenting is merely shedding perspective that might be in the middle.
There is a theory in evolutionary psychology that contends that as a man gets older he will become more and more desperate to re produce because the chances of his genes continuing drops significantly as he comes towards the end of his life (obviously)
The above paragraph (in my comment) lacks moral content because it is completely predictive and analytical. Does the man have the right to force himself on women because he’s getting older and it’s an instinct? NO! Of course not. If I point this out in a conversation I run the risk of getting interrupted and attacked as supporting the creeps when I’m actually shedding light on an area of perspective that aids in understanding the phenomenon itself; NOT JUSTIFYING IT (that being the over bearing man).
So, after the above two paragraphs have allowed preparation for, I will say that the men are desperate, likely watch porn too much, and if they get too close or talk too much go to who can help protect you.
Horny old goats who have to pop the little blue pill in hopes of recapturing their youth.
Botoxed old slags so desperate to have someone around the house to do the heavy work that they latch onto anybody even vaguely kind to them like an emotional lamprey eel.
And MY comments are pulled?!
No, i didnt miss the point. In fact i made one to counter the “point”. Ill even give you an example. I will often look right past someone, be it sitting across from them on the bus, waiting in a line etc…if anyone ever fucking had a problem with me looking in their direction, whether they personally thought it was creepy or not, id tell them to get over themselves, that i was looking at something beautiful, and it sure wasnt in their ugly direction. Get over yourselves…if someone wants to look at someone its their fucking right to look anywhere they want. Cry about it some more OB.
You’ve been deposited into the spank bank, baby!
Oh, the woes of the sheltered, entitled generation . . . for whom all interactions are “creepy” and all unscripted sexuality is “rapey.”
How’s that “Stranger Danger” workin’ out for ya in adulthood?