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Appreciation
I’ll stop looking when you all start wearing turtlenecks all the time.
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There’s appreciation and then there’re rudeness, hopefully you know the difference
It’s so much easier to be an ass man.
Hmm! Gross!
I Love ßoobs !! I love ladies style in clothes, especially the ones that emphasize there ßreasts. O M G…I am obsessed with the Titties.Is that what this ßitch is about?
Wow you sick pervert. One day you may have a little girl of you own and well see what you think about men gawking at her. it’s one thing to notic but a completely different story when you stare and make someone unconfortable. I would get you…by filing a complaint, or calling you out on it in public so everyone can hear and see what a jack ass you are. You have a very low mantality. Time yo grow up.
k..I am not sure who you are talking about, but if it is me you are incorrect.I am a Male Human with a healthy appetite for Eye Candy, aka Boobies. That does not make me a pervert. Should you notice me looking at your Lady Bumps and call me out on it, I guarantee you’ll look more like an jack-ass then I. Especially if you are wearing one of the above mentioned styles. The filing a complaint part makes me laugh. I have been thinking this way about ßreasts since I can remember, and I see men thinking this way when they are old and gray. I think it is a MENtality for any age of Male.As for the comment about having a little girl someday, I expect it. I have warned my younger sister about it. And I’ll warn my daughter too. Guys are, for the most part pigs, and will do anything to ‘get with you’. I am a gentleman that likes tits. Lets leave it at that.*This is not-so-nice: I am guessing you are an ugly ßitch with little tits (not that there is anything wrong with little tits or being ugly for that mater)
Mole Rat said it best. There is a difference between appreciation and rudeness. Yes, it’s okay to look, but when you look so much that the woman whose breasts are the object of your staring is starting to feel uncomfortable, then you’ve stepped over the line. That’s when you should be called out on it. Just because men are pigs, doesn’t give them carte blanche to act like jerks. Scott, you call yourself a gentleman, well, a gentleman treats a woman with respect, so staring to the point of rudeness is not gentlemanly behaviour.
Just so everyone hasn’t forgotten…we’re mammals…we stepped out of the woods and made some fancy homes and made some clothes to cover up our bits…but in a few generations, our genetic coding hasn’t really wandered too far. I know it’s not nice to stare, but sometimes it’s VERY hard not to linger on the chest of a well endowed woman. Sometimes it’s hard to be JUST friends too, if you’re attracted to the other person. Since the males aren’t allowed to ‘dominate’ as per most of the natural world, then a little swaying from civility (aka…starin at the boobies) should be tolerated. And since women give the most mixed of signals, especially from woman to woman…lay off and stop expecting life to be catered to you every whim.
Exactly ghost. I happen to enjoy a good pair myself, but somehow I manage to “appreciate” them without openly staring like some 14-year-old boy. If that is what you are doing, then you’re just a douche. Best to admit it without trying to justify your behavior with some “you forgot to wear your burqa today therefore I’m going to make you uncomfortable” BS.And yeah, Scott, apparently there is something wrong with being ugly and having small tits, or else you wouldn’t feel the need to attack someone in this way who disagrees with you. But hey, nice save on your little disclaimer there.People like Scott know, and are cool with, the fact that our society values women’s appearances more than anything – it’s all they’ve really got going for them, right? So if one of them disagrees with you and you have no intelligent rebuttal, the logical reaction is to hit her where it hurts. After all, only ugly women could be so bitter as to challenge male entitlement. Very original idea there.I feel sorry for your little sister.
Actually, Hunger, we’ll expect whatever we want. No one is denying that boobies are nice and that there are those of us who are attracted to boobies, who may even desire to stare at boobies all day long. However, like I said, this whole “it’s nature” or “you wore a shirt today” justification is pretty weak. You’re a fucking adult writing on a message board, not some neanderthal baby, and you can at least TRY not to be rude.
Your definitely not a gentleman if you think that any girl who would object to being stared at must be ugly and have small boobs. The only girls who love to have their giant breasts stared at all day are the ones with fake ones.
One of the dancers at ralph’s has a nice pair of fake ones. Not my thing but I can appreciate the cost and trouble it must have been.
CrankyThey don’t do it for me either. They might as well be prosthetic boobs as far as I’m concerned.By the way, I’m not trying to insult anyone who had reconstructive surgery after breast cancer or something. There are lots of people who like fakes just as well as naturals.
Dear ScottMy comment was actually aimed at the orginal post. So if you wrote it then yes it was aimed at you if not then no it wasn’t aimed at you BUT if that’s the case your comments are unappreciatedI am not a Bitch I just respect myself and will not put up with jack asses staring at my chest Nor should any women. For your info….It’s because of men like you that girls like me think you are a pervert. Always gawking and looking more at the chest then the face especially when you look like you could be my father. GROSS AND CREEPY I don’t care how much of a human mammal you are. Your lucky that these girls haven’t punch you in the mouth. You are not a gentalman if you think it’s okay to stare at a girls chest because your a mammal, You are not a gentalman when make people feel uncomfortable, You are not a gentalman when you stare at a womens chest. Your so ignorant….I’m glad you’ve warned you little sister about people like yourself. She’ll need it apparently.
I am going home for Xmas now. Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, Glad Tidings of Drunkenness, etc. to all bitchers. Even you Scott.
I never said anything about staring, you all said that. Obviously, this is a sensitive subject to some people and that is too bad, for you. I think you may have some issues.
Scott you are a fucking idiot… Many times you have posted here, taking a position that is poorly thought out, unsupported by any fact, and generally against the grain of what would otherwise be called common sense.For you to post this tripe, and call yourself a gentleman, is a fucking joke… You remind me of someone who wants to get attention by being the bad boy or some such foolishness, but in reality you are just a very small and pathetic little man…
Why is it only bad when guys old enough to be a girl’s father stare at her tits?
Don’t get me wrong, I think staring like that is wrong, but why make the distinction?
Hunger-Maybe you just crawled out of the woods, but the rest of us like to think we’ve evolved a bit. Even if it’s just a little. What separates us from other mammals, is our ability to think and reason, therefore, using your brain might be a suggestion. You have the option to give in to your urges and act like a neanderthal around women just because you can make out her breast shape through her shirt, or you can choose to look away after a reasonable glance. Women aren’t giving out mixed signals. There are those who are obviously looking for extra attention by wearing low cut and tight tops, but then there’s the rest of us who are wearing normal clothes that may or may not outline our shapes. Like one poster said, should we start wearing burqas so that our entire body is hidden from view to stop you from staring? That’s ridiculous, we aren’t going to cover up to that extreme just because you have no self control.Cranky:My take on the old man thing is this- when a young guy stares, we just think he’s a hormonal jerk, but when older men do it, it’s more of a father figure kind of situation and we get creeped out because we figure by the time men get to that age, they should know better. It sort of feels like if a thirty year old was checking out a twelve year old. Even though it’s not the same, it feels that way, which is just creepy.
LOL…Do you realize where you are posting, this is Love The Way We Bitch; not World Problems or some Astrophysics discussion site, not even a site that discusses economical solutions, LTWWB. It is nothing that really matters. Tripe, if half an ounce of common sense was used here 90% of the posts would not exist. Tripe, describes most of the responses to the posts here, Dr.Desi Phil and the rest of the Dear Abby and Anne Landers types here. With your attempts at delivering some deep meaningful and heart filled advice comes laughter. It is like some of you wanted to be psychoanalysts but you are mostly coming off as just psychos.The ugly bitch with or without the little tits, well these two types are likely to lash out at anything that has to do with great physical appearance. Lots of females with little tits are jealous or critical of more well endowed females. And ugly people seem to project anger when some one shows interest toward the better looking people of the world. This may be hurtful, but it is the case more often then not. Maybe you should gotten more involved with psychoanalysis or psychology, then I would not have to explain the coloration and you be more qualified to actual comment with some that is actually meaningful. I was incorrect, there is something wrong with ugly, but only if it is on the inside. And it seems many of you have some ugly inside. My ugly comes out all the time.
Scott you just an idiot. We are all just saying your an idiot.
I would like to point out that many of the posters here who are discussing thier appreciation of bare breasts, whether real or fake are the same postsers who thought it was socially unacceptable for women to bare their breats while nursing.
*coughs* sorry for the typos.
Boobs are nicer in Toronto.
Haliboobs suck! Stupid Haliboobs! If there were tall buildings downtown, a stadium and better rock concerts, and a CFL team, Haliboobs would get better!
Don’t give me the “whatcha lookin’ at?” looks when you go out with basically titty tassles on. Maybe I’m not staring at your tits, maybe I’m staring at you because you put so little on to go out in public. If I went out my balls hanging out of my jeans I’m sure that I would get some looks too. This is a fucking bullshit argument from women, I should be able to wear what I want when I want and how I want without any grief from anyone. For the most part I agree, but if you go out dressed like a 3 dollar whore then you can probably expect to be treated accordingly. Just for the record, I do have a daughter and I will tell her exactly what men are like and what they are after. But here’s the kicker, as her Dad she will not dress like a hooker to go out with friends, to the mall, to school etc.. As a good parent it is my job to make sure she carries herself with dignity and pride and not dress in a way that will attract unwanted advances and looks from others!
AmBeR LiGhT who said anything about dressing like a whore read the original post. Women should not have to wear a turtle neck to some guy doesn’t stare at her chest. ALSO just because someone looks a certian way doesn’t mean you treat them accordingly. Would you treat a homeless person any different then anyone else just because they look a certian way. That’s a terriable way to look at things.
I feel as though some strange force is pulling my fingers onto the keyboard… Although my name may suggest otherwise, I am a male. I do consider myself a well rounded person, and those who know me would probably agree, (drinking aside!) I do however have to confess that I steal looks at my wonderful female counterparts. But!! I do not linger, I make a good effort not to gawk. If I was to not look what so ever, it would mean my studying the sidewalk everywhere I go!!! It is nature to look at whatever your geared towards, i.e; opposite sex, or same. I love women, I enjoy their beauty, but I truly believe I am respectful about it.Sort of it is: Look, it’s natural. Just don’t be an ass about it. Like walking with your hands stretched out like a zombie with your tongue hanging out!