I’ve moved half way around the country to be even remotely close to you, stayed in a shitty dead end job and missed out on so many great opportunities to have fun with my friends and family just to please your stupid ass. You get mad whenever anyone has an opinion that differs from yours and have a horrible temper that most times ends up being taken out on me. I’m sick of holding myself back just for you! —Overwhelmed Girl
This article appears in Sep 20-26, 2012.
OP Please don’t stay in an abusive realtionship…He WILL get more abusive.
o.p., just say hasta la vista baby, and walk away, VERY FAST.
I’d say yes, yes you are.
Whenever you have to give this much of yourself away to be in a relationship you lose immediately. Put on your big girl panties and walk. Leave this loser right where he stands.
Lace up your Nikes and sprint for your fucking life – you’ve seen the beast, baby, and you should dump his wretched abusive arse. People who can’t control themselves usually get worse – don’t waste another moment of your life on this loser.
“I’m sick of holding myself back just for you!” – Good, then don’t.
Like everybody said, leave. Run don’t walk, dtmfa, and don’t ever look back.
I guarantee you, it will only get worse if you stay.
Good luck.
OP Take the man’s advice.
Sometimes advice of a man is worth 1000 words.
**Especially if you respect him**
hugo is a gentlemans’s gentleman, and the dogs don’t hurt either^^
I may be wrong but, I believe I met Hugo.
Thank you for the kind words ladies.
That was the voice of experience speaking. The scars I see every time I shave, are a stark, permanent reminder.
Boru – Yes, I sat on your left at the last summit.
OB, every day wasted is a day you’ll never get back. It sounds like you’ve already reached your decision…Make it happen.
Bounce the jackass. Obviously there is nothing you can do to please him so start pleasing yourself.
I feel sorry for you. Not because your partner is a douche but because you know it and stay anyway. Give your head a shake, Jesus.
Maid
http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/dv/leave.…
Leave now before you end up pregnant and saddled with kids and a chump of a baby daddy (because let’s be real, this guy would never be anything more than just a baby daddy).
“…so start pleasing yourself.” … ahem. DO listen to Trood. wink wink.
I understand the move… the allure and draw to a new city, new people, and new life.
Actually craving a lot of that myself, as many a desolate Haligonian are in these fascist, belt-tightening times. You don’t sound like you need a crutch… so drop it and start sprinting to your finish line.
Please get out before you have kids. I was with a man who seemed too wonderful to be true, until I was 8 months pregnant and then the abuse began. I thought it must be depression, that I could help him. No. It became worse and now, thankfully, I’m on my own, but I’m lucky, I had an income, though very small, and some property, but his family blame me for the situation and, believe it or not, his infant daughter, for his addictions, anger, and abuse and have never offered any help to us during or after. Run, OP, run now.
Starting over is a daunting idea but I’ve never met a woman that hasn’t wondered why she didn’t do it sooner. And most importantly, don’t jump right back in to something new. The rulebook says: be single for 1 year for every 5 you spent with Mr. Wrong and learn to be you again. Once you’re over the sadness, get out and have some fun! Ready…Set…
Ma says “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Don’t makes excuses, leave.
look at all the nice understanding posts.
All the wonderful advice to run away hide.
With only half the story, & a jaded one at that… everyones an expert & the advice they spew has to be 100% correct.
Before I would advise you to run away, I’d like to hear the other side for a change.
Who knows …maybe you have ‘crazy mood swings’.
Perhaps you walk around ‘all quiet around me, but are all happy & everything is great with your friends’.
Or you criticise anything I try to do , like ‘grocery shop or other household chores’, that you don’t see my efforts as good enough.
Its obviously someone elses fault you’ve stayed in a ‘dead end job’
It must be my fault & if not… definately someone elses fault you traveled half way across the country to be here.
I take full blame myself for your missing family & friends.
I’d never want to criticise you for making adult decissions about your own life, just like I shouldn’t be responsible either, I certainly wouldn’t want to be seen as callous or critical
No Its easier to be “popular” here on LTWWB & go with the flow of the regulars who know everything & have it all figured out !
LMFAO
Abuse is never justified More. If the OP is a terrible person, then her significant other can leave her. Taking anger out on each other is never okay.
alledged abuse Depeche … alleged being the operative word.