So my boyfriend and I got engaged and you guys can’t even be happy for us? All I got was how I was too young and advice on how expensive a divorce is. No congrats, nothing positive. Wow, nice to know my family and friends are so happy for me, already waiting on the divorce. Oh, and one lovely acquaintance on my facebook comments: “LOLOL that ain’t gonna last!”
Why don’t you think it will work out? Because I’m only 21? Because my boyfriend and I briefly broke up twice in the three years we’ve been together? I’m 21 but am probably more mature than a lot of 30-somethings. My BF is 23 and acts like he’s 30. Our last breakup was 11 months ago and it was only for a week! We have been going strong since. Are you jealous or something? The majority of the negativity is coming from singletons, after all. Well, haters gonna hate. I can’t wait to marry my love and spend my life with him and our future children. We’re also trying for a baby so expect an ultrasound pic in the future as well as the pics of my wedding! —Looking forward to becoming a MRS and a mommy
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“I’m 21 but am probably more mature than a lot of 30-somethings.”
I use to think that until I hit my late twenties. Now I realise I don’t know shit about how the world works. haha
Congrats, OB! Your friends and family are probably just being realistic. I doubt any of them are jealous. Most people don’t want to be tied down at the age of 21. You and your boyfriend will do a lot of changing over the next few years. You think that you have it all figured out but you have no idea! In 10 years you will look back and realize what an idiot you were, and that you friends/family were right.
“Our last breakup was 11 months ago and it was only for a week!” Do you have any idea how immature this makes you sound? No wonder your friends and family are doubting the marriage.
Congrats again on the upcoming marriage, OB, and best of luck on the divorce as well.
Ohhh, but don’t listen to me. I’m obviously just jealous. Jeez, I sure wish I had gotten married at 21, had a baby at 22, and divorced by 23! Sounds like a dream life to me!
I’m with Naveed one this one. You already broke up with your bf twice…what the fuck makes you think you won’t break up again?! IMO, early 20-somethings should never get married, they have neither the life experiences nor the fucking maturity. And bringing a child into this future mess…real smart…lol
Congrats…..albeit a little premature. Chances are in 10 years you won’t remember this person’s name or face. Please don’t bring another child into a 1 parent family through a divorce.
Nyowie and Naveed said it right. I do like how you think you think you PROBABLY act like a 30 year old, cause it’s just like 20 except your older!!! aaaaaand your boyfriend acts like a 30 year old. Seeeee that says it all, there’s no specific way you’re supposed to act when you’re 30, you’re simply expected to be more situated in life and not do dumb kid stuff like break up with a guy twice in a 3 year relationship and think life is gonna be great because you’re mature :p
GIVE IT A LITTLE YOU DUMBFUCK KID!!!
that’s all they are trying to tell you.
Who cares if your marriage lasts or not. Why are you having “children”? Why would you want to support another generation of government slaves? Pbbbbfffftttt…that’s what the world needs, more people!!!!!
Well, I am so happy to learn of the upcoming nuptials. Of course, both of you have secure jobs with 8 months of an emergency fund in the bank. Factor in the costs of health plans and insurance payments, plus daycare and car payments. Include enough money in reserve for a down payment on a house and then there are the pension plans, investments and RRSP’s and RESP’s. Yes, all these costs are real life and you want to throw in the price of a wedding? Hope you are both debt free at the start of the wedding or else one of you will be paying off the others accumulated debt after the divorce. Strange how that works.
Just remember, there is always somewhere in Dartmouth you can live as single mother and then maybe end up in one of the Manors around the city where those who made the same decision you are about to make ended up in their final years. Sad but true.
personally op i don’t give a rat’s ass if you get married at 12 and divorced within a week.
but please do NOT have children.
Yes, and you’ll learn from the experience. Remember that maturity does not equal experience…
Why do people insist on getting married so young?
BF, they have an intense fear of being single by age 30 and being viewed as “abnormal” by society if they’re not married with kids. These people are the neediest fucking people on the planet. This 21-year old little girl is probably miserable in her relationship and wants to hide it by getting married…”See?!?! Look everyone!! I’m soooo happy, I’m married!! You singles are just jealous!!”
So fucking transparent. Anyone wanna make bets on when these two get divorced?
If you’re receiving this type of feedback from a wide range of people in your life then there may be some truth to what is being said. I doubt that all of your friends and family are jealous or out to get you. Good luck.
Believe me, kid, your relatives are only trying to look out for you. What you want at 21 might not be what you want at age 31, 41 et al. You are mighty young for a permanent commitment – in fact, you make it sound like your worth is only measurable by marriage – how very sad to throw your young life away without discovering who you really are.
And please, please, please don’t bring children in the world until you’ve been together for at least 5 years. We do not need another fucking welfare mother on the government payroll.
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All we can really do is tell you that, with 100% certainty, your life will not turn out the way you think it will.
I highly advise against all plans you may have for at least another decade.
Because seriously, what’s the rush?
In cases like this, shouldn’t you already have the baby?
Please, just do blow jobs and anal to avoid bringing a child into this shitstorm.
I’m 29 but I am way more mature than some 30 year olds.
Doesn’t EVERY 21 year old think they’re, like, WAY more mature than most 30 year olds?
Lol.
I’m 32 and thought I knew everything at 21, but I really knew shit fuck all.
Good luck trying to get support payments out of your 20 something but acts 30 boyfriend.
You ‘only’ broke up twice in theee years? Hahahahahaha are you for fucking real?
If time machines were a thing, i have no doubt that your 30 year old self would travel back in time and smack you upside the head, ob.
OB’s husband to be is probably a Metro Transit driver. Should probably make sure he has family benefits, amiright?
Ah you’re all a bunch of jaded cynical pricks. Good luck OP.
Nah just telling it as it is.
When i adjusted my will a few years ago I was going to stick with the traditional clause of allowing my daughter to have all my assets (trust me, we’re not in the Buffett range) at age 21. The advisor intervened and said that 25 is the new 21, I think they were right.
Tommy a dreamer?
In this case it’s more like this tommy dreamer
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-YLtN4tFf57U/T9OE…
Give your man some much deserved ATM and it will last forever.