To the cabdriver who kept my roommate locked in your car for over an hour, feeling her up, and taking advantage when she was intoxicated and needed a safe way home. FUCK YOU, EAT SHIT, choke and DIE!! you should feel safe that she doesn’t remember what cab company you work for, or your name, or you’d have the cops on your ass, and my fist in your face.
Ladies if Halifax, Beware. there is a perv driver who has his doors locked.
This article appears in Jul 10-16, 2008.
Your friend should file a police report anyway, in case it happens again to someone else who remembers the driver and company. If someone else brings him to police attention and your friend can ID him as her asialant, she might be able to to press charges then, if she has her report on file….especially if she can give a description of the man now.
sexual assault has no satute of limitations on it- she can report him 50 years from now and it would still fly. but miles is right- report him now, and they may just catch him. who knows? maybe someone else already has, and this will add another piece to finding him. at the very least, it’d end up in the police report sent out to the media- and this is the type of thing someone in the city will eat up. the coast perhaps? that’s important as it gets people watching out for this asshole, and it may also draw other victims out with their stories, knowing they will be believed. for your friend: I hope she finds a way to heal. check out avalon sexual assault centre for some really good resources, and just keep doing what you’re doing- caring about her enough to be monumentally pissed off.
I’m with both Miles and Hedgy…..get her to file a police report NOW. There may still be time to get this asshole off the road TODAY so this doesn’t happen to anyone else. I guarantee this wasn’t his first time, and it won’t be his last. I’m appalled that our “safe” way home comes down to this. SOB!!I’m am SO sorry your friend had to go through something so tramatic. Her doing somethijng about it and having a hand it catching this asshole can be a great start to the healing process for her.To everyone else — PLEASE be careful. I know I’m not your mom, but it kills me to hear this stuff, because everyone thinks it can’t happen to them, and they let that guard down. Treat EVERYONE like this prick, and you’ll be fine. And stay in groups!!!!!!!!!
I am sorry this happened! You are a good friend and roomate to help her out! She is going to need you to get over this and the asshole should be charged and fired! My God, women shouldn’t have to go through this shit in this day and time. big hugs to you and your room mate, now get this fuckhead fired! phone the cab company make some noise!
Ginger you missed pretty much the main point of the story… How is she supposed to get him fired when she CAN’T REMEMBER the drivers name or what cab company he works for..??Other than that,,,,Your comment was bang on…
thanks Floyd really that means a lot to me. I hate it when people think they can take advantage of others in situations like that. I just wish she could remember.
Oh My Gawd…I am shocked, scared and appalled that something like that would happen here in this city that I have always felt so safe in…I guess we are women will have to continually use the buddy system even when travelling in cabs to go home…So my advice…Don’t let ur gf’s leave the bar alone, let them crash on ur coach if they need to, leave early if it means keeping each other safe
This won’t help out with the OP but with the prevalence of Camera Phones perhaps bar hoppers should start taking pictures of license plates and drivers. Send them to your friends and private email before you get in so the asshole can’t delete them later.Even a voicemail on your home phone with the license and cab number would be invaluable.
I can guarantee, this isn’t the first time this has happened. I’ve heard of it many times in every town I’ve ever lived in. This can occur with any number of scenarios: bar staff, cabbies or with the man the victim was supposedly dating. A sexual predator has prime opportunity when his victim is alone and intoxicated. I don’t think that girls are sufficiently warned about this- I know that I wasn’t. Hindsight is 20/20.
If the bar that this young lady was at has outdoor cameras maybe there is video of her getting into the cab. Go to the police sweetie….go now.
It’s a hard thing to do but maybe Media attention is needed. This tends to put pressure on police and taxi companies to tighten security precautions and lets the person who did this know he’s being looked for.
This has already happened a couple of times in the last 5 yrs., that I personally know of, to a friend of mine, (not raped but felt up) and to a friend’s co-worker (who was raped) after getting a cab at the Dome. This has to be the same pervo dude! Go to the police already! This freak needs to be put away!!
Ok I’ve gotta jump on board with everyone else and say that’s despicable and your friend should file a report anyway..Although I want to add – she should not be downtown by herself SO FLIPPING DRUNK that she can’t remember a cab company or one face she really should have remembered.. I mean cmon it’s tragic and I’m sorry for your friend – but if she’s going to party like that it’s unfortunately only a matter of time before something bad happens. Be glad it wasn’t worse for her.
You’re right Adrian… She practically asked for it…
Boo, Adrian. Not nice. While binge drinking is a terrible, destructive habit that society would be MUCH improved without, some sick perv took advantage of some vulnerable person, and that’s the ONLY issue here.
Yeah Adrian… You should know better than to blame the victim…Sheesh..
Adrian were you the guy who violated her?
OK Adrian,,, which cab company do you drive for,,, and remember when you post OTC,,, you are under oath…
Gingy just a suggestion – not a good idea to accuse people of being rapists.
I knew it was a matter of time before someone had the nerve to blame the victim. Jesus. Seriously?? NOBODY deserves to have their personal space invaded (I have no idea if she was raped — praying to god she wasn’t). This girl was not stumbling around downtown by herself. She was sober enough to get in a cab, where we are supposed to feel SAFE. We trust these people will get us home safely, and she made a correct choice. Would he have done that if she was sober? HELL no, cause he didn’t have the balls to. He waited until he saw someone completely unable to defend herself. And who’s to say something wasn’t slipped into her drink? Too many factors, but there is one thing that is no ifs, ands, or buts — he had NO right to put his stinking, filthy, fucking dirty hands anywhere NEAR her. I wish to god she had a knife and sliced his fucking hand off. Or better yet, his dick. I do hope this is reported though, and I hope to hear about it in the news sometime in the very near future. I know you get caught up in the downtown fun times, but you have to look after your friends. Its easy to get lost in these crowded places, but make plans before you go out. Take a DD with you to take care of you all. I’ve been a DD serveral time (not a drinker) and while it feels like babysitting a bunch of kids (fun though!) every one of my friends makes it too their own bed that night. I think any other suggestions to make downtown adventures safer for us all would be great.
OK, I know I’m not going to be popular with this one….I don’t think that Adrian was suggesting that the victim is to blame. At least, I hope not! But shouldn’t we as women be aware that there are some SICKOS out there, and that we need to learn how to protect and defend ourselves?It would be great if the world were inhabited by friendly unicorns and smurfs, but it isn’t. Young women in particular NEED to know that they aren’t imPERVious to pervs. You are at risk when you travel alone at night, particularly when your judgement is impaired. Theoretically, yeah, we should be free to do whatever we want. But realistically, we aren’t. It doesn’t matter if you’re in New York City or Little Bum Tickle, Newfoundland. Sexual predators are everywhere, and they’re just waiting for some sweet young thing to stray from the herd.I’m not suggesting that you don’t have every right to party, dress the way you want to, or to explore your sexuality….just use your common sense. Have a plan with your friends before you go out, and stick to it. If something doesn’t quite feel right, GET OUT. Carry a cell phone. Learn self-defense. Only spend time with people you trust. Trust your instincts. If someone violates that trust, get help as soon as you’re able, because by doing so, you could be helping a future victim.I don’t mean to sound like a screaming hysteric….it’s just that I feel that it’s crucial that women take responsibility for their own well-being. We can’t always depend on others to keep us safe.Having said all of that: I am in NO WAY suggesting that the OP’s friend was at fault for her assault. Blue Collar, you’re absolutely right- that girl did make the correct choice and called a cab. God knows how many times I’ve done that very thing, completely bombed and vulnerable. It’s SO awful that her trust was violated. I’m really not sure how (or even IF) it could’ve been prevented. It was a crime of opportunity, and completely random. Something has been stolen from her, and I hope that she finds the grace to gain wisdom rather than fear.