I’ve been following LTWWB every day for the past two years and I have to say this summer I’ve really noticed quite a number of dating site bitches written by male OPs.
Well, let me tell you, it’s much worse for us women doing online dating. Most of you guys are fucking creeps. Myself and four other women I know have tried it off and on and collectively we’ve had/met:
-Eight stand ups
-Eleven guys misrepresenting themselves (old/fake photos)
-Six bullshitters, lied about work, interests, hobbies, etc
-One stalking
-Nine cheap or broke ass losers
-One guy who up and left immediately upon seeing one of us and told her she looked worse in person (this girl sent several recent photos of herself)
-Six guys who insisted on having sex the first meeting after we made it clear we don’t put out that quickly
Really, how the fuck are women actually finding quality relationships on these sites? 95% of these guys are undateable!
I’m still single, so are three of the four other girls. The fourth one is married now, she met her hubby at her job.
So let this be a lesson for you online daters out there: Get off the damn dating sites! You’re wasting your time and money, especially if you’re paying for it! The people you meet are not worth their salt! —Online Men Suck
This article appears in Aug 22-28, 2013.
You include “I’m still single, so are three of the four other girls. The fourth one is married now, she met her hubby at her job.”: SEE, she put out and it worked .. .she caught herself a man!
It seems to me if you girls line up on this wall and the boys line up on the far wall, no one gets to know each other…
I suggest you all meet somewhere in the middle. Girls, fuck those boys. Boys, fuck those girls (then call them within the week – to fuck again). This may result in different outcomes…
Well, there you go. Is anyone really surprised that there are more horny loser guys stalking a less amount of loser girls not willing to give it up on the 1st date? Seriously.
I doubt most girls would have a problem with ‘giving it up’ on 1st date if it didn’t mean it was also ‘last date’.
Broke = wouldn’t pay for your meals or probably wanted to split bills (the horror!)
Girls have it worse = Do you know this from experience? Have you been a boy on there? Would you rather too much attention or being completely ignored?
Four of you are still single = This is all the boys fault, no? What happened to those ‘stand up’ guys?
Non-recent photos = Probably worried about judgmental bitches like you and the petty (read ignorant) things you’ve got to say about them
95% of the men are undateable = 95% of the women are undateable (FYI: It’s called incompatibility – not undateable!)
Most of the women I’ve met online have been shallow, catty idiots (like yourself, probably :))
This twits opinion probably always trumps the opinions/facts presented by all others, so I’m not even sure the point of arguing with her.
Ya fool!
Out of curiousity, why the on line date line.. anyway… are YOU shy? I went to coffee shops, library, wine houses… It can be quite busy at times… 🙂 I LOVE MY LIFE …and besides..WORK PLACE RELATIONS is unethical, and just wrong. Brings out animosity in the work place…and usually one has to go.
Fool nailed it!
*standing ovation for Fool*
It’s probably because you’re on POF
Maybe it’s because you haven’t met me….I don’t put out on first date…or second…..?
If it’s not ok for a female to visually misrepresent herself, it’s not ok for a guy either.
You’re trying to find a relationship with a lie. THAT’s the big red flag.
If you sign up to any of these sites as a girl, you will get dozens of views and messages even if your profile is blank.
If you sign up to these sites as a guy with a full profile, you’d be lucky if someone visits your profile once a week.
What’s the problem again?
“95% of the men are undateable”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-a64OwOYqU
And this differs from “real life” how? Do you know how many conversations with empty headed, gold digging, manipulative, female equivalent of the “douchebag” bitches I’ve had to endure? How many shitty dinners I’ve had to pay for? Fuck…to get all that time and money back.
I’ve never used online dating sites, they’re for losers with no social skills and dirties (male and female) looking for a quick bone, with little to no effort.
hey harper, I didn’t know you were single and looking. are you on fb? if so, why not ‘join’ all the animal rescue/shelter type pages. people post obsessively and you sure would get a good idea of someone’s general intelligence and interests by what they say when they are NOT looking for a date. and you get to see all sorts of pictures of them that are probably more real life.
back to the post comments… I can’t imagine wanting to sit down in a fancy restaurant with an almost stranger, that’s an experience I want with people I know very well and already like a great deal. if some guy (in the old days) tried to insist on paying for everything I got the heebie jeebies. my ‘control freak’ radar went crazy. and if I was a guy, and someone insisted I pay for everything, I would be offended. first MONTHS (if not years) in a relationship should be share & share. and preferably ‘the best things in life that are free’ like harbourwalks.
Solution: Get a vibrator and a dog (or cat if ya prefer). Most men can easily be replaced with these two things. A pet is better company and a vibrator can make you cum much better than any dude’s meat snake.
Hear, hear GDM! And hats off to fool’s last post! That’s my half-a-date’s worth:)
I have to agree with Fool,GDM and Nyowie I don’t agree to go out with a guy if I can’t afford to pay for my own meal or even coffee.
Misrepresenting yourself or lying is hazardous to any potential relationship.
Pets are loyal and can’t call you names.
Klyde you are a nice guy.
yeah, I don’t see why it should be any different from going out with a group of friends on any sex. you don’t go and sponge. you pay your own way because you are a grown-up
(the exception is anyone going out for dinner with their mom or dad – they will arm wrestle you for the bill and have fragile bones, so shut up and put your wallet back in your pocket)
there are people who want and expect a high living, expensive relationship. let them be open about it and find each other (sugar daddy seeks poor good looking gal for mutually beneficial relationship) but for normal humans, go for a walk and see how they react when stepping in dog pooh, or getting splashed by a kids water pistol. or if they are kind to wait/counter staff. and I still believe in online searching for partners.
Nyowie … I’d rather take our (& pay for) dates with crazy cat ladies, gold diggers & crazies than get a ‘ vibrator & a dog & a cat to use it on’
I must just be to old & set in my ways to try your new fangled idea of fun !
GDM I wholeheartedly agree.I even tried clicking on “like” more than once. 🙂
If you’re looking for marriage material, it’s going to take a fair bit of sifting to find the right man in all likelihood. You listed all the “losers” but not the total number of men you met or is that the extent of whom you’ve met? If so, time to switch websites.
Maybe try chat only for a while to try and weed out those guys just looking to get laid, they’re not usually that patient. All those misfired dates add up in the pocketbook.
No GDM, definitely not single. Married and couldn’t be happier. I did have a profile on POF for about a month before my wife and I got together but, never really took it seriously. I realised very quickly that with online dating that it gives the other person you are talking to a lot of time to reply to your questions/answers and it is easy to manipulate someone into thinking you are someone you are not. At least with a face to face conversation, there is a time constraint that elicits a more honest answer, no time to re-type your conversation or proof read what you’ve written. It gives either party the opportunity to hide undesirable traits until much later in the dating cycle. I find it wastes more time than it saves, that’s for sure. I will say that it does increase the amount of people you meet though.
I find it really strange that our dependence on computers has taken over, IMO, a very personal part of being a well adjusted, well socialized, adult. It takes the personality out of being single. Everyone is on a mission to find that special person, it doesn’t seem to invoke that element of surprise when you meet that certain someone by accident. I don’t think that filling out a form of likes and dislikes, hobbies, job status, etc…is a natural way of doing things. People aren’t meant to check little boxes and expect someone/something else to pick a compatable partner for you. Finding someone you are compatable with isn’t supposed to be easy, and online dating is just a cheap short-cut, sold as “the answer” by some faceless marketing team to a certain segment of society too scared to put themselves in a position where they feel they aren’t in control. This “I don’t have the time to date the traditional way” is a cop out, and to me, says something about that persons level of maturity and dedication to themselves.
Such a waste of time and effort.
Are you familiar with the internet?
Are THOSE the people you want to date?
Seriously?
ps. men have it worse.
A mob of losers with even a single potential candidate always trumps solitary confinement.
As a guy, my observations with online dating is this:
Average: means you’re 30 lbs. overweight
Athletic: means you’re about average but you don’t work out (or need to)
A few extra pounds: means you really should avoid harpoons.
Many pictures are either pixilated or fuzzy: That is not an accident.
A picture of you in a kayak means you went kayaking once and pretend to be an active person.
Pictures from over head: mean you’re hiding your triple chins.
Pictures from the neck up: Nobody wants to see what’s below.
Maybe I’m fussy but, I’d rather a person represent themselves honestly right from the start. I wonder if you think your personality will somehow make up for the fact that you were lying about your age, weight and lack of job status?
Are there any honest ladies who have jobs, aren’t grossly overweight and don’t have mental issues?
Excellent post Shitty-D. I wholeheartedly agree with you dude.
While I don’t doubt there is a large number of greasy bastards on the web site mentioned, there is also a huge number of women who use a headline like “ARE THERE ANY HONEST MEN OUT THERE?!?!?!?” or “Looking For Someone To Make Me Believe Again”.
While I know everyone has a “past”, and has no doubt had some heartache, you should be trying to sell yourself here.
Only someone who preys on bitter, weak women will want to date these sadsack old bitties.
I would want someone who is light hearted and fun, who is open to having a great time, instead of some suspicious-eyed hag who only sees men trying to “get one over” on them.
Love involves taking a leap of faith, even a small one, and opening yourself to the chance of it going wrong and you being hurt. It’s the only way to find love. If you treat every prospective as a potential threat, you’re only going to see potential threats.
And if you’re putting all your dating eggs in one fishy basket, you’re in a sad state of affairs and should seek professional help.
In my professional opinion, of course.
NARF!
Who cares who has it worse! Dating sucks no matter HOW you slice it — online or not. It’s exhausting and [usually] futile.
If my 20s was any indication: coupling sucks.
if dating is exhausting and futile, why do people do it? serious question there. I am not normal ( which I am sure comes not as a big surprise)
I never understand misrepresentation in online dating. It’s not going to catch up with you? That ONE date is worth that much? I would think it is best to be honest and hook somebody compatible rather than go through the grief of annoying and disappointing people. That can’t be easy on the ego either so why do it?
magical thinking reg? people rack up credit cards thinking they will shortly win the lottery
While trying to find a relationship both sexes need to be honest , upfront about themselves and and their intention.Then it’s up to each person involved to decide whether they are interested.
Every well build dwelling is built on a firm foundation.
Many liars in the web I met a man online he was a loser, not have job, with 4 children, he was in jail, cheaters his name Jesse Jaramillo , women please run from him also had a girlfriend.