A big Fuck You to a certain Geriatric Assessment Unit here in Halifax, My Grandfather has been given 2 weeks to 2 months to live, up until about a week ago He was at home receiving care during the day and at night it was up to my grandmother, with help from family when possible, until it became too much for her to handle, with his aggresive behavior, having to give him meds, take him to use the washroom and roll him over. He is a 200 lb man and has dementia, Leukemia,emphysema and heart problems. So for those reasons he was admitted to this geriatric unit. Here is the list of bullshit this man has already gone through. They will not put him in palliative care because he is not sick enough..??? are you fucking kidding me He’s Dying! I go to visit and a mouse runs out of his room. Hes sitting in a chair staring at the wall with his food tray keeping him in his chair. Not once did a nurse or staff come to check on him take blood pressure, vitals or what have you the few times I have been there. I asked them if someone could help him put on his PJ’s because he was only in a Johnny and He was cold, the staff looked at me like I had two fucking heads and said we will get to it in a bit. He has been taking puffers 4 times a day everyday for 6 years for his emphysema and Since He has been in that place they haven’t given them to him once. Another time My Aunt was visiting him who is an RN and completey disgusted by these assholes, asked the staff if they could help him up to Pee, she was told that its to difficult and He can go in his diaper they had put on him. Fucking pricks. He is going to die anyday now and they cant even give the man his dignity by making him shit and piss himself becuase they are to fucking lazy to get off their asses and do their jobs. Also I walked by the nurses station to get some water and I heard one of them on the phone, someone on the other end of the call must have asked what are you up to or whatever and she said “Oh nothing just doing a puzzle”. You have time to do a fucking puzzle but You can’t help this poor old man up to piss, thats not what your getting paid for you fucking bitch. Oh and now they want to charge my grandmother $22 a day to keep him in there. ? why? its not like anyone does there fucking job, The list goes on. Im going back today and Im fucking tearing them all a new one. they better have I big fucking security guard on today all I can say. —F.U A.L
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Your grandfathers case, and other similar ones, is a clear indication that it’s long past time we vigorously started the process for assisted suicide/death with dignity/physician assisted termination, call it what ever you wish.
I’ve got money set aside for a trip to Switzerland if the need arises, no sitting in pain and suffering like Mr. Potato Head for me thank you very much.
My sympathies on the plight of your relative.
We went through the same with my mother in law. we went in to the hospital to check on her and she was lying in a paddle of piss shit and sweat. My father went apeshit on all the nurses in there and the next day we came in the head nurse came in right after us updating us on her conditions and the things they did to make her stay more comfortable.
sometimes u just have to express how unhappy you are and what do u expect from them and you will get it.
most of the nurses had no idea what were they signing up for when they went to school. they thought they are only there to give them pills and check their blood pressure and the shit will clean up itself…
id suggest everyone go with the nurse to the washroom. what i noticed that only one nurse on the entire floor cleaned her bum after a bathroom. all the other once couldnt b bothered and i just found it plain disgusting. they used a piece of toilet paper to wipe her and were about to put a new diaper in when i found myself having to tell her she needs to b cleaned well with soapy water since she has had hemorrhoids history and even if she didnt wtf?!
My experience with my own mother-in-law has been just the opposite. I have found the nurses to be on the ball for the most part despite being a tad overworked.
Palliative care is determined by the doctor in charge of your father-in-law and even then I’m sure there is some sort of waiting list or procedure. If your father-in-law is that sick, his family doctor would be the starting point.
Fake bitch is fake!
heh heh, that ought to get em riled up…
HERE COME THE NURSE-BASHERS!
“they better have a big fucking security guard on today all I can say.” F.U.A.I
No chance of hearing the other side of this is there? Are all nurses “pricks”? Are they all “fucking bitches”? Are you going to get physically violent with the nurses today? Maybe they should put you in palliative care, you buffoon!
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Same thing happened to my late brother-in-law when he was dying at the godforsaken filth hole, the Aberdeen in New Glasgow. He was reduced to dying in a ward with loud country and western shit music blaring all day until I told the floor nurse to turn it off. She argued that other patients liked it – I told her my b-in-law was dying, where the fuck is your respect? Why isn’t he in hospice? No room, she said, he’ll have to wait. Yeah, well, he couldn’t wait long enough, you thoughtless cunt. And this was a man who was told six months before in Halifax that he was cancer free. If you’re old, the medical profession don’t give a fiddler’s fuck, period.
I’m sorry about your grandpa, OP, and sorry for what this fucking useless health care system is doing to him.
I think this is exaggerated … but genuinely sorry about the loss of your grandfather. Now, could you tell us folk where this place for $22/day is located. I had paid $133/day for a family member which was $4000/mth ….. also, the experience is total opposite of what you endured.
Call your MLA, OB. I really mean this. It works!
And if you can, tweet it to the local news. That’s an amazing way to get it out to the media and they tend to pick up on this (tweet it to individual journalists, too).
I also think the suggestion about getting assertive with the staff will help.
I’m really sorry about your grandfather, ob. No one deserves to die without dignity.
Koda: rates/day are based on income, if I recall correctly.
Thanks Kitty … and the facility I am sure!
I can believe it. I’ve seen others go through similar situations.
I don’t see what reason OP has to lie? No gain in the matter!
You can also take out insurance, prior to the need for care, it seems as if everyone wants to make $$ out of this.
Please, please, please make a call to the patient representative. Those people truly have the power to enact changes in the care your grandfather receives.
YES! Contact your grandfather’s care coordinator. Ask the nurses for the name and number of his care coordinator. The name should be on his chart/care plan. If they don’t have the number call Continuing Care NS at 1-800-225-7225.
Complain to the College of Registered Nurses of Nova Scotia.
They will then have to investigate your claims. Be as specific as you can – dates, times and descriptions of the staff.
There is a big difference between “dying in 2 weeks or a month and actively dying. Google it. I am sure even the nurses you have described can figure that out. That is why your grandfather cannot be admitted to the palliative unit. He is not actively dying.
Also, do you want him there with everyone else who is? Really?
Also, you complain “the few times you have been there” no one came to check on him or his vitals. Vitals can be done any time of the day or at certain times (ex: every 2 hours).
When nurses see you coming to visit -the mans beloved family- they shouldn’t be safe to assume that you can keep an eye on him for your visit? Or alert them if something is wrong? Maybe they are allowing for some privacy for you and your family.
As for your statement about refusing to toilet your grandfather – might be reasonable. Some patients cannot go to the bathroom due to mobility issues. Some can become violent with staff and taking him to the bathroom may be just too dangerous.
It would be much easier assist him at his bedside/ in bed.
My best advice is to learn about your grandfather plan of care. Request to speak to the head nurse and see his chart. Read the charting. Ask questions.
Or you could take him home.