I feel bad about homeless people and the situation they’re in. I’d like to give them money, but it brings up such an internal conflict.

You hear stories about “homeless” guys who live in condos and drive a new car. You see and hear about homeless people using their change to buy cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. Some of the homeless have real issues (mental, physical, emotional) keeping them from finding a home and a job, while others, for one reason or another, just don’t want to work or work hard.

How do you choose who you give your money to? How am I supposed to seperate the addicts, the fakers and the plain lazy from the legitimately needy? And if they’re all legitimate, I can’t give all of them money; I’d be broke too. If you share with one, you have to share with all of them!

HOW DO I CHOOSE?!?

Uncle Jesse

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  1. I once read an article about panhandlers who have full time, minimum wage jobs. Everyday (When they aren’t at work) they swallow their pride and panhandle, or collect recycables to be able to afford things we take for granted, like toilet paper and kleenex, cleaning supplies for our homes, garbage bags and toothpaste, etc. They live in shabby places that are all they can afford. It breaks my heart, because it IS really hard to know that you’re giving to someone who really needs it- especially if they don’t really look like they do in the traditional sense (dirty, tired, down-on-their-luck).Just thought I’d draw everyone’s attention to this really great program called Freecycle. It’s sort of like Kijiji, only there is no money exchanged. You can either give things away for free or you can trade for other goods; people looking for something specific can place ads as well. We gave our old living room set to a really nice family who couldn’t afford anything worth sitting on.www.freecycle.ca then just search Halifax, Nova Scotia.

  2. I have to admit that I rarely give change anymore. I work very hard to make the money that I have. I have rent, utilities, food, and transportation costs that basically eat up that income by the time the next pay comes around. If I want to splurge, I need to plan weeks in advance so I can suffer and save for at least a couple of months to have the money to do so. If I have some spare change and I see someone who looks in need, and is sober, then I will usually give it to them. But I consider it a judgment call. I don’t contribute to helping someone hurt themselves (drunk or high yet begging for money). And I don’t contribute to someone who is willing to squeegee but isn’t willing to work in a call center. Sometimes jobs suck. But if being broke sucks so much that you are willing to beg others for their hard-earned dollars, then be willing to get a job. Salvation Army will give you decent clothes, razors, soap, and deodorant for an interview. The YMCA will let you shower. Don’t say you can’t get presentable. Don’t say no one will help you. The reason I contribute $5.00/pay to the United Way is to help fund such organizations. THAT is my contribution to help those in need.

  3. Travis, yeah Gimpy is all over this like stink is over shit…And Gimpy, by the read of some of your comments, I would say your reptilian brain stem is about as far as any impulse gets. You are a badly fucked up dude my boy.Get help…

  4. I agree with you and have the same issues dealing with the homeless. I walk all year round downtown halifax and see the difference in how many people are on the streets in the summer compared to the winter. One thing for sure is the ones that are out there in the winter freezing their butts off really need the money, or even going to tims and getting something to warm them up. they are the ones i usually give money to when i choose to do so. If we gave money to all the homeless out there we would be broke!!

  5. I’ve witnessed just about every bum on Barrington Street either at Scotia Square’s NSLC or at the lotto booth buying scratch tickets. I wouldn’t give any of them the stink of my change.Like some of the other posters suggested – give to a charity or a group home but don’t waste your time on people who refuse the offer of food but are only too willing to piss it away on habits most of us working people can’t afford.

  6. well, you talk of addicts like they are on par with the ‘lazy’ ones.addiction is a health issue, not so much a social one, and not at all one that is comparable to laziness. nobody grows up thinking ‘when i will be 30, i will be a crack addict, living on the street, stealing bikes to exchange for hits of crack’.addiction is at least partially hereditary, so you can not blame all addicts on ‘bad choices’, as most people tend to.

  7. Uncle Jesse, try giving your money to charitable and community organizations with mandates that you support (addiction services, shelters, meals). Or volunteer your time with one of these organizations. At least that way you will be a little mroe confident that you are helping in a way that you are comfortable with.

  8. I understand that, but as much as it is a health issue, you also don’t want to give someone money so they can buy drugs.

  9. Give to nobody.Donkey punch the homeless one in the throat if they get in your face. Nobody would convict you because they are homeless and now have a reason to stay in hospital for a night. EVERYONE WINS!!!

  10. I prefer to fuck on thank you kindly, sounds kind of cooler that way, and to which part of the statement illicited such a response from you?

  11. As I was walking along today, this guy approached me asking me for change. He didn’t look that homeless but he was on ‘hard times’, or so he said. I only had loonies and toonies, so I reluctantly gave him a loony, feeling nice but suspicious at the same time. Likely a scammer, but I have trouble saying no to someone who specifically asks me if I have anything, I’m just too nice sometimes. Karma will get the scammers!

  12. I think it’s better to be generous and scammed occasionally, than totally nasty and paranoid and think EVERYONE’S trying to take something from you and using dishonest methods to do so.Even though they probably are.Hey, there’s floyd!

  13. I have a friend who carries granola bars to offer them. You’ll be surprised how many don’t accept them.

  14. I don’t know about you but I have a human brain, you might subscribe to the philosophy that you have a reptililian brain, a baboon’s ass and chicken’s penis but I KNOW that I am human and don’t attribute any feature to an animal. I do have help, I avoid downtown like a plague. It’s so bad that the Shoppers isn’t even 24hrs anymore. Fuck that dead end, the homeless scared away the pharmacy! Now if my kids are sick and I am out of medicine I have to drive to Clayton Park… Whoopie..

  15. Whoa, fuck you’ve got kids? WTF. There really ought to be a law against allowing waste products like you from being able to procreate.And I pity the poor little shits that have to learn life’s lesson from a such an ignorant pathetic old fool like you. Eat shit and die.

  16. The who for the what now Floyd?Just because I choose not to raise my kids into zooaphiles like you apparantly does not mean that they are not raised correctly. I find it ironic that you would equate young humans as ‘little shits’ but you would push a dog up to the echelons of a family. Your priorities are warped and you are slightly deranged. But I understand, having only the unrequited love that a wet dog can only afford to give would make me venomous as well. I forgive you though because it’s the HUMAN thing to do.And sorry, don’t eat shit and I try to stay healthy. And you know what they say, the good die first while the assholes live forever. Have fun with immortality, I kind of envy the fact that you will outlive me by leaps and bounds….

  17. I think Gimpy’s just playing. Nobody is really that crass and ignorant. Are they? Hey, now that Floyd’s back….where’s Hedgy….and Jammie? What is this, summer vacation time or something?

  18. I’m not ignorant at all. I CHOOSE to place humans first. I CHOOSE to support businesses rights not to have squatters or solicitors of ANY kind be them bums or greenpeace harassing their clientelle. I CHOOSE to treat animals like animals. And I CHOOSE to support China, just like I support Russia, just like I support Cuba, just like I support Serbia.I’ve been well off.I’ve been homeless.I’ve been victim of hate crimes.And I STILL face prejudice day in and day out on my job. Where’s my fucking hero cookie for waking up and doing what I have to do to support my family? It isn’t there you say… Alright fuckit, I’ll make it without seeking or pandering to others for help and that is what gets me through the day. So when I see someone who is homeless, I know what it was like and I find it disgusting that they are not hustling to do BETTER rather than bumming. I never bummed, I hustled and made deals with shelters to hold me until I could pay them and then I went back and payed them. Worked three shit ass jobs to make enough to drag myself out of ruin back to the market.I’ve come from places where people kill you because you are from a certain house even through you are the same skinn color. I’ve first hand seen people get butchered with machettees and die from ‘accidents’. I’ve come from the ‘third world’. I don’t care what their problems are because I’ve seen it and nobody shed a tear. Fuck them I am getting mine. And that’s the mantra of the developed world as they tell ‘third world’ don’t execute the fucker that raped your mom before your eyes and cut off her tits while going after you while your father is ganged and killed. No, it’s not civilised to do what you can to deal with mother fuckers that are looking to kill you because they were ordered to. Fuck that egotistical rhetoric. I LOVE China and their policies, North America has a fraction of the population and less control of their own situation and spout off shit saying it’s freedom… Right… I’ve lived the life that most watch on movies. That’s why I know hollywood is a crock of shit. That’s why I don’t care. We do what we must to make sure you and yours is safe and well off. That’s it, nothing more. If you think you are doing for others for the sake of it you are lying to yourself. You just are doing it to assauge your privilidaged egoes and the second you recognise that, is the second you would stop being a hypocrite.

  19. I guess Gimpy ain’t palying. *dumbfounded stare*So….I feel kinda awkward asking now, but can I still borrow those strangling gloves?

  20. Holy crap, that has to be the most manic post i’ve ever read here. It’s kinda scary to think that this dude is out there, walking among normal people. Guess i’ll be steering clear from the Shoppers in Clayton Park.

  21. Whoa… who cranked up the intensity, it’s boiling (over) in here…Can someone pass that dude a J? He needs one.

  22. Can’t Qwerty, the summer dope drought is upon us. Also, I don’t think Gimpy does illicit drugs.

  23. Pot is illegal yo. Besides, I think he sticks mainly to computer duster spray.. because y’know, it’s cheaper and stuff.

  24. gimpy, i am so taking you out.i also came from third world country. i came from a place where the homeless are seen as, literally, human garbage. where the police do not even investigate obvious murders of the homeless. where people, who as a gang kick to death 11 year old girls, just because they are from another city, get jailed to 11 months of probation. i came from a country, in which the police use neo-nazi gangs for intimidation of opposition supporters. and from a country, where the ruling regime orders the execution of journalists, activists, and opposition supporters. i came from a city, which during peace time, had government tanks advancing towards it with full intention of seizing control from local officials, who did nothing wrong. i came from a country, that currently has a bill in the parliament, to prohibit teenagers from dressing in any way that would identify them with any subculture (be it buddhism, emo, goth, gangsta, or athletic).having come from a place like that, i can really appreciate the possibilities for homeless people here, to better their lives. i can understand addiction deeper than apparently most people here (in my country, alcoholism is so ingrained into the genetic makeup of the people, that it is no longer seen as a health concern at all). and i know from personal experience, how addictions work. i have been addicted to several substances in the past, and have managed to break those chains, only after some long and hard contemplation of life.addiction is not a choice, like you claim it to be. when i first tried any of the substances i eventually would get addicted to, i knew that it has the potential to be addictive, but in every case i thought that im smarter than to get addicted. well guess what, no one can outsmart an addiction.so unless you did not learn anything from your country of origin’s problems, you can not possibly believe what you are saying here.social problems are social and not personal for a reason.

  25. Thanks for the perspective Grindcore. I think we are making some real progress here today. I don’t know what is the bigger tragedy with Gimpy: the fact that he had to live through such horrible and traumatic experiences, or that they seem to have robbed him of compasion for others in similar situations. It’s great when a person can overcome adversity, like Gimpy did, but it seems to be a very callous person who survived. Also somewhat entertaining though. The guy has a nack for imagery….”chickens pecking at my eyes”…great stuff.

  26. I’m gonna go home a treat myself to a double bill of “Blood Diamond” and “Reqium for a Dream”. to cheer myself up after this… Maybe throw in a little “Hotel Rwanda” for good measure.Yeesh.

  27. “We do what we must to make sure you and yours is safe and well off. That’s it, nothing more.”Wow, Gimpy, just wow. If your children were suddenly in a situation where they had to rely on others for help, I would be hoping those people don’t subscribe to the same ideology that you do,

  28. Tell me though Qwerty, are you gonna watch the blu-ray versions on your 56″ plasma screen TV with digital surround sound while eating lobster on your real leather couch or on the crappy 20″ TV you have hooked up to your 10 year old DVD player sitting on top of your milk-crate entertainment center? Either way, you will probably still be thankful for having grown up in Canada where shitty isn’t usually all that shitty.I’m going to go donate large sums of money to charity and volunteer my time building schools and hospitals in Africa to help come to terms with my Western guilt.

  29. Actually, I’m going to pay homeless people in nickels and pennies and empties and stubbed out cigarettes to act them out for me. The scene at the end of “Requiem for a dream” with Jennifer Connelly is a hoot when re-enacted by drunk and desperate men.

  30. Well Tasha, you just have to know where to look. If you wanted to find a wildebeest, you’d look by the watering hole. Now if you want to find a troll, you only have to sit HERE and wait. They come by this way pretty regular… But don’t get to close to THIS one… what a temper…!!! And the STINK… Phew, this one hates animals, because they smell so much better than he does…

  31. BTW Gimpy, have I told you lately to GFY? Jeez its been about ten hours so I suppose you are due…Go Fuck Yourself.

  32. Sorry don’t fuck myself, married and all so I’m covered.Only drugs I partake in are caffine, rabeprazole, and alcohol (very, very rarely).Yes, I do not have sympathy for a lot of things because I know that things can get much worse and so long as you are alive you have no excuse to give up and if you resign yourself to the wims of society and buckle under your personal demons then you are truly a failure and as a result deserve to be crushed. The world punishes the weak and elevates the heartless, the strong, the ones with malicious and meticulious ruthlessness efficiency that would put nothing before their goals of success. That’s nature and no matter how ‘evolved’ we are it cannot be escaped.I teach my children to be self reliant. Depending on others and placing your hopes on someone else is stupid. The only person that is deserving of that level of trust is your mate, otherwise you are stupid to place something as valuable as your well being in someone else’s hands if there isn’t a vested interest on their part. That makes you a slave and that person actually has power and control over your destiny. Why put yourself through that? No, if you have to rely on someone to see your through then you failed, plain and simple. If you want to be a failure then go ahead, if you actually want to be a success then you either use people or if you have too much scruples go it alone and try not to step on too many people. In fact I hope and pray that others share my philosophy, makes the world a better place.Don’t use dusters just an alternate suggestion for someone who wants to waste their time deading their senses in a need to escape reality.Can’t take me out, already happily married. Thanks for the offer.Sorry, place doesn’t stink, shower twice daily. Have you smelt the musk from an animal. I’m sorry I think the shit you are smelling is the downwind from your animal… That or your upper lip.Stop obsessing over me, I know I fulfil and complete you but… I was going to say this obsession is unhealthy but obsessing over me is like breathing, it is kind of hazardous to your health to forsake the urge. Fine keep obsessing it’s only natural.

  33. How do you chose? Don’t chose. Either be in a good position and give to the poor or don’t. You can make a donation if you wish but your judgment of others… well, what qualifies you to do that? Can you know the heart of a person? Do you really think you know what’s good for them by the way they’re dressed or by the way they smell? Either cough up your change or move on. Don’t ponder how to judge or presume about any person unless, of course, you’re sitting in court…. on the bench.Food for thought: the hardened alcoholic will suffer a seizure and likely die if they quit drinking cold turkey. Who are you to decide today is a good day for the bum to die? Either give your change or move on. You can’t ever know what your money will do for these people.Another poster said it. If you want to remove yourself from judging who should get what, give it to the Salvation Army.. they’re REALLY good at that (and calling cops on people too!)

  34. I think it’s fairly easy to chose who I give money to. If I am walking down the street and some peckerhead with a 3 year old tim hortons cup is just asking for money, then they can fuck right off. These bums gotta earn the quarter I give them, I don’t care if they take their shoes off and bang them together to make a beat. DO SOMETHING. Why should I just hand over my money to someone who makes no effort to earn it. As much as I hate the squeegee kids, they are at least doing something to get the spare change.While living in Toronto I ran across this homeless guy who did something different every week, whether it be playing the spoons or using empty soup cans as drums. He had one eye and seven fingers. What the hell is wrong with the halifax bums?

  35. Redman yeah Toronto beggars/buskers are awesome. i used to see this one guy fairly regularly, he would sit with his accordion, and play and play and play to anyone walking by. but if you actually stopped and listened to what he was playing, you would be amazed.. he used to do beatles and nirvana covers on the thing… it was amazing.i always give money to any kinda musician on the street, but that doesnt mean i dont give money to others who i think deserve it as well. for example, Safety. everytime i see him on the street, if i have some change i give it to him.. because i know his life aint a bag of candy.

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