Dear Customers,
Just because I am a) cute, and/or b) nice to you does not mean I want to jump you. I am paid to be nice to you, to deliver your delicious mocha’s to you. Im flattered by your crush however you are taking it too far by finding out my last name, and facebooking me. In a fit of dumb blonde I added you out of kindness, and now you message me every hour of the day about how the girl you love has a boyfriend. When I am at my house, I am no longer being paid to be nice to you, when I am walking down the street, I am not being paid to be nice to you. If I dont initiate contact DONT puppydog me to death. Talk to me all you want at the cafe, but I have a life outside of work and I need to live it so I dont massacre all the customers when I do work.
—Kay
This article appears in Mar 12-18, 2009.
For the record, I didn’t write this bitch. There’s nobody on my facebook I don’t want to know… silly girl
I think it’s important to mention that any job that involves customer service involves people paid to be nice. That’s not to say that some people aren’t generally nice, but people should stop taking it as an indication of ulterior intentions. Just because a girl smiles at me at McDonalds, it doesn’t mean she wants to sleep with me.
This girl needs to be braver and learn to say “No.” Right from the get go. Girls who say yes “just to be nice” are leading people on and setting themselves up for awkwardness and disaster. Most guys prefer a straight up answer right away anyhow.
Any chance we could turn this bitch around to chock one up for all us non tippers who now have proof that there are people actually paid to be nice to us, so the next time I have some wait staff try to call me a cheap cunt for not leaving a tip, I can show them a printed copy of this bitch and remind them they are not following the rules…that they HAVE to be nice to me because they are paid to do so???
In any case, whether that works or not, this fucker is stalking you….pour that foamy cup of choco/coffee half cafe mocha whatever the fuck is being ordered shit down the front of his pants (I’m making some assumptions here)and see how much he wants to be your friend then.
First thing is to delete him from Facebook. Then tell management about the problem. Being a staff member isn’t a licence for some twit to bother you. Management has the right to bar people from their establishments under the Protection of Private Property Act. They also have the obligation to protect you under provincial legislation. If the twit continues on, CALL THE POLICE. Harassment/stalking are criminal offences.
Give it a rest about the tipping already. Sheesh.
Print off a copy? You’re fucked.
It’s not that hard to delete and block him on FB 😉
haha, I was gonna say, Kay is nice and cute? Not that you aren’t, of course. Yeah some people just don’t get the hint.
I agree with Pretty Kitty.
you ( OP ) do bear some resonsibility for this situation however.
Being nice to his face is part of your job. Adding him as a friend to FB and listening to his girl troubles on your own time is NOT. The fact that he went through the ( creepy and invasive ) trouble of finding out your last name is a red flag that this is a guy with boundry issues. You behaviour up till now has lead this guy to believe he might actually have a shot. If he doesn’t you need to clearly let him know were he does and will always stand, on the other side of the counter.
You don’t need to be, nor should you be mean to this guy. He does after all still have feelings and at this point probably does think of you as a real freind since he has confided in you at least once. However, you need to be a little more clear about the customer/barista role he serves in your life.
Like Dino said, some people don’t take a hint. But some people also don’t send the “hints” they think they are sending.
Just take a second and look at it from his side of things. He has a crush on a girl, she is nice to him, he finds out her name, now they are FB friends, now they message each other ( I am sure you respond to his emails as well ), now he confids personal things to her. ..
…In his mind things are escalting and to be frank, you allowing it to. time to put the brakes on this now. Allowing this guy to feel anymore of a connection with you is just cruel. Grow a pair and fix what you started
Good luck
Drop him off facebook immediately but before you do, send him a message making it perfectly clear that you prefer he not contact you. Blame it on your 450 lb. weight-lifter boyfriend and his insanely jealous streak.
Either that or say your ex is now a wanted serial killer, and has an insanely jealous streak. That’ll send him flying down to Topeka for good.
Don’t add people on facebook that a) you hardly know b) you don’t like c) wouldn’t initiate conversation in person then your life would be easier and less cluttered.
I’m proud of the fact that the only people on my facebook are people I actually know and like. I know lots of people with 500 plus friends which seems to be some kind of idiotic show of ‘they like me, they really, really like me’. Actually, when you really think about it, most of us could count our closest friends on one hand.
You lead the guy on, and then don’t understand why he pursues you?
a) I’m cute?
Get over yourself already.
This is hilarious!! I gotta say OP this is pretty much entirely your fault. You could have put an end to it as soon as he tried to add you on FB, but you accepted his friend request. In this day and age, that’s pretty much an open invitation to continue the pursuit.
Hey, Sorry Kay shoul dhave guessed there was someone out there already using that tag 😉
There are only two types of people who get hired to be wait staff, Cute girls/boys who can sell a product or people who can wait 20 tables with out a pad of paper and remember every order off the top of their head. Its a fact, I am a face to sell the product I have no problem with this. I am not leading any one on by being nice to them since it is my job to HELP people choose a product.
A lot of clientele have me on their facebook because we have an establishment facebook group.
And for the asstwat who wanted to make this about tips. Get over yourself. If you are a cheap bastard, you are a cheap bastard nothing will ever change that not someone being paid to be nice, not some one being genuinely nice. When I am working I am kind to everyone who come in the door, until they are twats to me. Then no amount of money can make a barista nice.
OPKay
Barista is a terribly pretentious job title for someone who serves coffee. Its like calling the guy on the back of the garbage truck Rear Admiral.
LOL @ Floyd. Touche.
baha. ‘Rear Admiral’.
But that’s what half the coffee shops in this city are all about! Pretentious, 5 dollar espresso shots don’t taste as good coming from a server. It’s like Subway calling their employees “sandwich artists”. Fuck, what a joke. Sounds like the servers are just as pretentious as the product they “sell”. Hah!