Sex + Dating

I would have lost my virginity to you on my birthday, but your girlfriend started throwing up after we got back to your place. You’d shown up at my house and dragged me out to one of those grungy gay clubs that aren’t there anymore, in a basement on Gottingen. The bartender kept mixing us […]

Some days I think I’m the luckiest girl in the world. I woke up this morning with a small tabby cat sleeping beside my head, my face pressed into an exotically beautiful woman’s breasts and a man cradling my body in his arms. Our party clothes lay intermingled in scattered piles on the floor. Carlos […]

The thing is, men grow scratchy hair on their faces and usually I just want a soft cheek to press against. But women, with their soft cheeks, don’t often have hard muscles beneath their t-shirts to press against. I come up against these discrepancies over and over; I call them conundrums. Goes like this: How […]

We met in the middle of a raging party, two writers casting lines, looks; suddenly alone in a room full of books, hot mouths melded like pavement and rain. We defected to my apartment and stripped our clothes like we’d just returned from war, tongues exploring terrain, salving wounds. At dawn we read each other […]

Jenn Grant has an affinity for animals. “They have sweet little souls,” she says on the phone from a Chicago airport lounge. She and her band are in transit to Los Angeles to play a series of gigs. Moments ago she was watching over a long-haired Chihuahua named Bronx for a fellow passenger who had […]

It’s one of those terms that can’t really be universally defined. Love is an emotion desired by some and avoided by others. And then there’s sex…love’s popular intimate counterpart; a passionate array of physical acts. Do they always have to come as a package deal? Are their powers just as strong if the duo is […]

The little things To those who hold the door open that half a second for me, who give me the briefest smile as they pass, who actually say hello and make some small talk; you give me faith in humanity. Your few minutes of warmth are sometimes the only thing to get me through my […]

Years ago, a friend was speeding along in her partner’s car when police stopped her. The officer checked the licence and registration of the car and when they didn’t match up, he asked her whose car she was driving. Her response was, “My temporary life partner’s.” Not just “partner.” Not even “life partner.” “Temporary life […]

Your mom will warn you against it. Your friends might, too. It really isn’t something to do on a whim. But, there may come a time in your life when you decide it’s a good idea to get the name of your honey forever emblazoned on your flesh in indelible ink. It’s good to remember […]