Savage Love

I am a young, straight male—but I have this obsession with male-on-male dino-dragon porn. I dont get it. Im supposed to be straight. Am I psychotic or what? —Dinos Really Are Gonna Overtake Now Youre not psychotic, DRAGON, just pathetic. I dont mean pathetic in the laughable or contemptible sense of the word, DRAGON, I […]

Hey, everybody: If you missed last week’s column, I’m taking a week off because, well, go read last week’s column if you care to know. Here’s an old column—from May 24, 1995—
to tide you over until my return next week. It not only features my mother, but also my boyfriend’s very first mention in the […]

I thought I could bang out a column today—a regular column, a column about my readers’ problems and their freaky fetishes and all those asshole politicians out there. You know, the usual. The day my son was born, I managed to slip out of the maternity ward and write a column; I wrote one the […]

I am a 28-year-old straight girl two years into my first marriage: new job, new home and new city 1,200 miles from my closest friends. It was really lonely at first, not knowing anyone nearby. Plus, hubby is far less social than I am, and has not gone out of his way to help us […]

When I was in my teens to mid-20s, I fought a burgeoning weight problem. My heaviest was 235 pounds on a five-foot-ten frame. Now I watch what I eat and I work out. I have a six-pack. And here’s my problem: I get too much attention from women. When I was out of shape, women […]

I watched a video of your recent appearance on Real Time with Bill Maher and you appeared to be wearing a Queen’s University engineering jacket. I was a Queen’s med school student and am now an emergency doctor at the same university and have seen those jackets around for the past decade—where did you get […]

I’m in my final year of high school and I decided to come out as a lesbian—a very foolish move, as I live in a small town that’s not exactly brimming with tolerant people. But I know there are other closeted people at my school and I figured if none of us ever took the […]

Dan Savage says take only photos; leave only footprints. Open marriages—do they ever work?After 16 years and one kid, my husband and I are considering an open marriage. Over a year ago, I met another man who I was attracted to and wanted to fuck. I had met men like this throughout our marriage, but […]

At first glance, I am the guy your mother wants you to marry: successful, sweet, clean shaven. Below the surface, I am the guy your mother warned you about: pierced tongue, tattoos and enough kinks to make a porn star blush. A couple of months ago, I met a woman who wanted to be a […]

I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 30. He’s been married three times and has six children with various women. I know, I know, it sounds bad. But he’s one of those guys who wanted a family. Anyway, long story short: I feel insecure because he has had a million experiences and I […]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months and we’re crazy about each other. He’s been slowly introducing me to butt play. Last night, we were verbally playing out an anal scenario. He asked if I’d be OK using a strap-on with him, to which I replied, “Of course!” Then he said that […]

I hope you can help me. I am a 39-year-old divorced mother of four. I’m also a grandmother. I’ve started seeing a younger man, age 25, who is only a few years older than my oldest kid. We hit it off great and other than the sex, everything is beautiful. The problem is that my […]