Savage Love

Q: I am a 23-year-old woman living with my 25-year-old boyfriend. We have been dating for a little more than a year, and for the majority of that time we had a great sex life. Unfortunately, when we decided to move in together we also decided to stop having intercourse until we decide to get […]

Q: I am a heterosexual male in my 20s, and I need some help putting a label on my kink/fetish. I usually don’t care much for labels in any aspect of life, but I’m hoping that knowing what to call this may help me find others who share the same interest: I love it when […]

Q:My boyfriend and I both like porn and toys, and we’re obviously open about everything and often play with them together. But recently he posed an interesting question that left me feeling like a prudish conservative: If virtual-reality technology’s developed such that one can have a sexual encounter with a computerized person (insert favourite famous […]

Q: I’m writing in celebration of the California decision to allow gays to marry. I’m thrilled—I’ve always thought the idea that gay marriage could hurt or affect straight people in any way was ridiculous. But a year ago, I found out I was wrong. I’m a straight woman in her late 20s dating “the one,” […]

Q: I’m a 33-year-old man, married eight years and mostly happy. My problem seems common: My wife has lost interest in sex. We have sex once every two months, maybe once a month if I’m lucky. When we do have sex, it seems to be good for both of us. It wasn’t always this way—we […]

Q: I’m a bisexual woman, aged 20, and I am threesome-ing it with my best friend and her boyfriend during a stay abroad. I knew the girl (who’s mostly straight) beforehand. The girl thinks it’s hot when I participate—when it’s all three of us in bed—but she gets jealous when her boyfriend and I do […]

Q: I’m a 23-year-old guy and I have been dating my 21-year-old girlfriend for about two years. We did the long-distance thing for a year, and after she graduated, she moved from the east coast to the midwest to be with me while I finish my degree. Everything was great until she moved in with […]

Q: I’m a straight male and I love my fiancee. She’s perfect. But while I am physically attracted to her, I find myself masturbating rather than having sex with her. She knows, but we don’t talk about it—we can’t—and recently she walked in on me, and it was very awkward. I put it away and […]

Q: I’m writing on behalf of a 19-year-old guy with cerebral palsy. As you may know, CP causes the part of the brain responsible for motor function to work incorrectly. Troubles include muscle spasticity, weakness and/or painful contraction, sometimes a life spent in a wheelchair. My buddy is, like any 19-year-old, interested in finding out […]

Q: I’m a 31-year-old man and my girlfriend is 28. We’ve been in a monogamous relationship for four years. Recently we’ve been doing the long-distance thing and we’re going to be doing it for a while, until I can move from Canada to the United States. This is our problem: She brought up the idea […]

I’m 16 and gay. I recently got into an argument with my parents over whether HIV is spread by saliva or if you can be infected during oral sex. I thought that you were safe kissing and that it’s OK to have oral sex, but that you need to use condoms for anal sex. My […]

I’m a 52-year-old male, divorced for the pas eight years. I recently broke off a five-year relationship with a woman two years my senior. About six weeks ago, a new female worker started in our office. We’re really hitting it off and, frankly, I’ve fallen for her—hard! However, she is 36, and never married. I […]