Ever wonder why the guys you want don’t want you back? Ever wonder why the type of guys who DO want you are just average-looking or less? You bitch about this all of the time and complain about still being single at 36. Yes, I get it, people typically choose mates of relatively equal levels of physical attractiveness and I understand you want someone on par with you in the looks, but you are not nearly as pretty as you think you are. You’re not ugly, but you’re not good- looking either, just AVERAGE! The guys you label as ‘equal’ or ‘on your level’ actually look quite a bit better than you. And the guys you think are not even in the same league as you are actually the ones in your range and probably who you should be aiming for! If you’d realize that you’re only a five and not an eight, you might be a lot happier and maybe even break this cycle of being single. -Your Blunt Reality Check

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  1. The question is: WHY is the OB so obsessed with her/his friends dating preferences?

    Feeling left behind OB?

  2. Jesus…
    if it’s that important to her then it’s not just looks that are lacking
    but also some serious personality.

  3. IS SOLIPSISM INEVITABLE?

    “Yes, I get it, people typically choose mates of relatively equal levels of physical attractiveness and I understand you want someone on par with you in looks, but you are not nearly as pretty as you think you are. You’re not ugly, but you’re not good looking either just AVERAGE!” Your Blunt Reality Check

    Whether she realizes it or not “Blunt Reality Check” is making an epistemological claim to the effect that one is precluded, in principle, from having objective knowledge about one’s own appearance. As Robbie Burns long ago maintained, “To see ourselves as others see us/ It would from many a blunder free us.” Burns maintained that the ability to see ourselves as others see us could only come from God but the source of Blunt Reality Check’s claim would appear to be that of philosophical solipsism, the view that since all knowledge, including that of our looks, is necessarily from the first-person perspective, objective knowledge of the world, including that of our looks, is impossible. But is Blunt Reality Check right? Is solipsism inevitable?

    There can be no question that all knowledge requires a conceptual framework within which that knowledge is situated. This is true even of so-called objective scientific knowledge which is “paradigm dependent,” that is framed in terms of the prevailing paradigm. For example, the Copernican heliocentric astronomical paradigm replaced the Ptolemaic geocentric paradigm with the consequence that all astronomical knowledge claims about our solar system are framed in terms of the former and not the latter,

    Things become more difficult when the realm of matter-in-motion is transcended and we engage, in the present context, matters of beauty. What constitutes beauty? What are the criteria of being good looking? Indeed, are there criteria is any “objective” sense or is beauty relative to the eye of the beholder? “I don’t know much about art,” the relativist refrain goes, “but I know what I like.” However, philosophical realists maintain that this is not the case, that something – a musical score, a painting, a sculpture, and so on – possesses objective qualities which mark them off as beautiful or not regardless of the view of the spectator. So the question aesthetic beauty is vexed.

    But what about solipsism? The difficulty for the solipsist like Blunt Reality Check is that she is precluded from making the claim she does. She cannot, without self-contradiction, make a universal claim in respect to the possession (or not) of beauty since such a claim transcends the solipsism to which she subscribes. In other words, in claiming objective knowledge about what is or is not good looking, she has violated those principles she claims to endorse.

    A pleasure as always.

    Cheerio!

  4. We live in a very vane world. That’s why that awful ‘selfie’ song exists. If the only thing you are concerned about is the way a person looks, you’re going to have a bad time.

  5. For one to find true happiness, one has to go far beyond looks alone. The old adage stands…..beauty fades with age. One needs a deep connection with a person who has the same goals and ideals in life. Mutual respect and trust are essential to have a satisfying and lasting relationship with someone.

  6. Ob , I’m with you … a 5 at best, she’d be a 8 if her tits were nicer /bigger.
    ~;p
    ;
    ;
    let the flaming begin

  7. An old Tommy Cooper joke “I was checked into a rooming house and the landlady asked if I was good at remembering faces, I said yes, she said, that’s good because there’s no mirror in the bathroom”

  8. hahahahahahaha I don’t need a mirror because I remember what I looked like at 30 and that hideous hag in mirrors is NOT ME!

  9. Age is the great equalizer when it comes to one’s outside appearance.

    36 and single – this girl has the best possible scenario and she’s bleating for completion by a man – so fucking sad that women still think like this.

    As for mirrors, I embrace every line, wrinkle and grey hair. I hated my looks as a young person, now I think I look fucking rockin’!

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