To my friend with benefits: We’ve been hooking up for about six months. But now you want a relationship. When you broke the news to me that you wanted something more than a fuck, I was thrilled because I felt the same way. Then when I brought this to your attention, you rejected me. I thought you were seeing someone else, but you’re not. So why not me?
“You don’t have your shit together” you told me! So apparently since you have a career and I’m having financial issues at the moment, I was only good for a FWB. You superficial bitch! Money isn’t everything. What about personality? We got along perfectly, in and out of the bed. Just because I’m having financial trouble right now, does not mean I’m going to be like this forever. I’m currently working minimum wage now, but that will change. I guess money is too important for you. Go off and find your rich career dude! I’m movin’ on! —The Guy Who Wants More
This article appears in Jan 17-23, 2013.
Bitches be crazy
“Don’t let the door hit you on the ass on the way out” comes to mind. Let her walk.
Superficiality is running rampant these days, with people believing there’s value only in what is visible or tangible, and measuring everything based on their ridiculous standards.
Count yourself lucky, OB.
Oh Captain… the more I read your posts, the more I *swoon*
A/S/L? teehee ;P
You may have a dodged a bullet there OB, someday she may have struggles then she may learn not to be such a hag.
I do what I can, PK… I do what I can
>;D
“A/S/L?” The Captain doesn’t understand this. American Sign language? Automatic Sound Levelizer? Architecture Simulation Laboratory? ….. I’m beginning to sound like Troodon :S
Actually money is a huge thing. Not everything but a huge % of it. If you do not get with someone that is financially compatible with you and what you want out of life then there is not much point in getting together with them because you will not be happy as you are not getting everything you want.
lol, age; sex; location… I think I’m dating myself here, but, it’s a mid-late 90s internet chat room thing. I forgot you’re a youngin’ and probably never even used ICQ! :O
LOL (Laugh Out Loud), Cap
A/S/L is: Age Sex Location.
PK might be showing her age a bit there. That little gem dates back to the “Chat Rooms”.
Oh, haha. That makes a lot more sense!
Yeah, I didn’t even have internet until after 9/11… everything changed on that day.
“A/S/L? 24/yes please/Halifax (did I do that right?) – That’s for all you single ladies out there that want to join the growing crowd of women who love to ignore the Captain. It’s the new cool thing to do! So sign up!”
Okay, next question… what’s ICQ?
I’m LOL’ing at this thread. Is the next one ATM there PK?
ATM = At The Moment! Got that one, woo!
I’m on a roll!
And thanks, hrmet, but the cave that I live in isn’t THAT deep. I DO know a few things… DBEYR
seewhatIdidthere?
Captain, wasn’t that ATM I was pointing towards. First she wants ASL, next she’ll be looking for an ATM buddy.
…..okay, the Captain’s lost again.
Does she need cash? Am I now selling myself?
I guess in your case No Mon/No more fun! O well, that’s the depth of Friends With Benefits I guess. There are no committments made and you can walk whenever you want to. So she’s walking. For someone who has more income than you do. Good for her. Why settle for someone with no money when she can get someone with coin? Are you serious. All you guys had was an arrangement, nothing more and that can and does break up when the next best thing comes along. That’s one of the unwritten rules of friends with benefits from what I can understand.
I still don’t get the FWB thing,I’m too old school, I guess.
ATM = ass to mouth.
You just got dumped so she can be available for valentines day, so some guy with money can take her out and spend it on her, while you sit at home all broke ass and crying. Bet she comes crawling back on Feb 16th.
Harper- I clicked “Like” again for you, and I will never stop. God bless you.
Screaming Fields of Sonic Love
Steve you sound irritable today. I hope your day gets better. 🙂
Hmmm…maybe it’s not that she’s looking for a rich dude, but it’s because she’s worried she’ll have to support your ass. Who says you’re not always going to have financial trouble, or that you’ll start making more than min wage? Maybe you’ll never ask for her assistance, but who knows for sure? Obviously, she doesn’t want to take that chance. I don’t blame her.
I’ve heard a few horror stories about financially independent people dating broke ass individuals, and dating those people cost them an arm and a leg.
Boru, he’s always irritable. I wish his life would get better.
Lmao SHITD… You silver-tongued little devil, you : P
Steve was “ATM=ass to mouth” remark for me?
I’m with OB’s ex-FWB. Right on, sister! And also what Milk n’ Juice said.
Hey, OB, remember this mantra: boys play with toys, scholars play with dollars. Now shut up while I make this Garfield origami with c-note.
As per usual in the relationship bitches, there’s a glaring contradiction. OP’s FWB wanted a relationship but when OP brought up that he felt the same way, she ended the relationship. This is an odd psychology of some women, they’re interested in a relationship as long as they think their quarry isn’t. I remember many moons ago having a relationship with a lady where she kept hinting about seeing each other more often and maybe even living together. When I brought up the fact that I might feel similarly, I was histoire! Nope, we better back off and go our own ways. Almost like she never mentioned those “couple” things. Very odd.
She said you do not have your shit together so why did she talk about a relationship to begin with. Very odd.
We have something in common Captain. I didnt know ASL either but for the opposite reason. It was after my time. As well, I got the internet after 9-11.
Hi Troodon…I think he meant that his FWB was ready for a relationship…just not with him. That’s the impression I got, but I could be mistaken.
It’s usually the guy who wants the benefits without the relationship.Or that’s what I’ve learned anyway,from the little experience I’ve had;or haven’t had.
So big fucking deal. See this is what happens when you get into FWB garbage. Sooner or later someone will want more and the other won’t want it. Hell you may be a good fuck but it takes more than that to have a relationship and financials is one of those things whether you like it or not.
Finger waves at Nurse.
I don’t think attracting a partner has as much to do with money as some of you think. The Captain is a veritable millionaire, but he’s as single as you can get.
Captain ‘Lone Wolf’
Troodon – Didn’t it feel good to get the internet way back then? Even if we were almost a decade behind some people, and the speed was painfully slow (26kbps, anyone?)
What is this place? Looney Hearts Club?
<----- Winks at Timothy ;)
World of, me, myself and I, remember.
how do you know it’s about money? Did she tell you this? Because if not, seems to me the only person who has openly said it was about money? Is you.
How do you KNOW she’s not seeing someone else? How do you know that when she said “I want something more than this” that she meant “with you”?
You’ve made a lot of assumptions about how this woman is thinking and feeling. Maybe that ran her off..