My friend started talking to this guy online. Eventually, they agreed to meet up at a pub for some drinks. She was nervous meeting him in person the first time, so she asked me to come along. She told me her date had a single friend of his own for me to meet. So I didn’t have to be the third wheel.
We met up with the two men. Her date was a gentleman—handsome, treated her with respect, made her laugh and bought her meal/drinks—they got along famously.
My date was good-looking too, but a total douche! He hardly spoke to me, definitely didn’t offer to buy me anything (not that I expected/demanded him to, but it would have been more classy on his part). He continued to stare at all the other women in the pub, rather than the one in front of him he was supposed to be on a date with! Then he got up and started talking to this other woman, brought her back to our table and got her to pull a chair over and chatted her ear off!
Meanwhile, my friend and her date got up and started dancing, leaving me and the dickwad with his new flame. I got up, went to the dance floor and told my friend I was leaving and bitched her out for leaving me there and asked if she even noticed what had happened to me! She seemed oblivious.
I went home, totally disgusted. And now I have a new name for this “friend”: inconsiderate twatflap! —No More Blind Dates For This Chicky
This article appears in Oct 4-10, 2012.
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That sounds pretty rough. Who does that?
With guys like that out there, it’s not hard to be one of the good ones.
That sucks but you should have left at the first sign of doucheyness after realizing your friend was comfortable. They were hitting it off, of course she wasn’t paying attention to you, you were there on her behalf not the other way around. Sorry the guy was an asshole you didn’t deserve to be treated like shit but you didn’t have to stay and could have told the guy he was being a jackass. it seems like you expected your friend to bail on her awesome date because yours crashed and burned, that doesn’t seem fair to me, ovary up ma’am and next time you find yourself in an awkward position bail but don’t blame others for your lack of judgement.
You must not have been buddy’s type at all, since he was checking out every woman there but you. Regardless, it was a bullet dodged. He’s a piece of shit and you unlocked the main reason why he’s single.
you can’t be hanging out at c.n.i.b. o.p., they told you before. and as to going by feel, well feel this in your ass.
What an arrogant shit pump (You like that Avast? lol))! Even if you weren’t his type, there is such a thing as being a gentleman. It’s not like you were trying to marry the guy, gee! That was pretty insensitive of your friend though…She should have told her date that his friend was being a douche, and taken a rain check on the date.
That’d be the last time I helped out that friend. And as far as the male blind date she hooked you up with he was a real specimen. Like someone in another post said, men are pigs. He sure proved that to be true.
eh.. you get what you put into things. I always say good people are hard to find. Doesn’t shock me that some friend of a guy your friend met online wasn’t a prize catch. This is why I never get set up with anyone or go on blind dates. I handle my own biz. I had a couple similar experiences.
I can’t say I know a lot about dating…I haven’t been on one in more than 25 years.
OP I can see why you were pissed at your friend but to be fair to your friend I think you could have showed her you were happy that she was enjoying herself.Ask yourself if the table was turned and it was you who was treated like gold and her like shit,would you have left?
Most likely not..In the mean time you have some growing up to do.If ,there is a next time?
i’ll always be here for you boru.
Maybe he wasn’t crazy about his blind date either and decided to do something about it.
They met on the internet then when he met her in person he wasn’t intrested.
Sounds to me they’re both pretty shallow ,immature.
While I feel for you, that you got stuck with the jerk, I have to wonder…how old are you and your friend?
This sounds like something teenagers do.
Backup on a date should consist of telling a friend where you’re going and when, and a pre-determined call or text to make sure the friend on the date feels safe, or to give an “out” if necessary.
Her mistake was not having the cojones to go on the date herself, your mistake was agreeing to be the chaperone.
OP, I feel bad for you, but, if there is a next time, just leave, politely, if you find yourself treated less than politely. Do not behave in a snobby or pissy manner, unless you WANT to be viewed as immature and/or allow douche to feel vindicated in his douchbaggery. Don’t rag on your friend, she probably asked you to help her out because she knows you can take care of yourself and are a good friend. And it sounds like your friend genuinely didn’t realize that you were put in such an awful position. I have a very low tolerance for rude and/or mean behaviour, so I mean it when I say I feel bad for you; but the world–especially friendships {relationships of any kind, really} IS NOT black&white, neat&tidy. As a smart and true friend of mine would say, ‘don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater’. Try talking to your friend about how you feel. Anger and resentment are heavy loads to carry, and life may be short, but it is also long. Life itself will deal you enough ‘heavy loads’ that you cannot avoid/ignore/work out–you shouldn’t pick stuff up that you don’t need (like the needless bad energy that comes with anger, however properly placed or righteous). You have a right to feel the way you do about how you were treated, but that doesnt mean you can’t allow yourself to be happy that things worked out for your friend, especially since that seems to have been the common goal. If you talk to your friend, I bet she will be empathetic…I bet she will want to talk to you….You guys are friends–that means you work shit out. Sometimes you will compromise, sometimes you will agree to disagree, sometimes you will connect perfectly and it will be awesome, sometimes you’ll need to stop hanging out so much for a while; but you should ALWAYS REMEMBER that YOU ARE FRIENDS. Friends are never perfect, but WE CHOOSE each of them to be in our lives for a reason. Sit down, talk, work your shit out. You will both feel happier…..and don’t fret about douche, leave his crap energy with him:)
I think your bitch is totally justified OP. That’s a terrible way to treat a friend. You were doing her a favour and she left you with Mr. Congeniality. Lesson learned I guess.
The red flag would have gone up after the word “online”.
I’d say your friend is the biggest douche in this situation, seeing as she was the one that dragged you there to help her out. She saw the situation that you were in but decided to dith you for some guy she just met.
Just callin’ it as I see it.
You CUNT! How is yoúr poor date your friends fault? CUNT FACE!
What ever happened to be a wing WOMAN? Your friend was the one who was nervous about meeting the guy who cares if your date is a douche, what ever happened to being there for your girl and sucking it up, one day she will owe you a favor
OP you went as a favour to your friend. He went as a favour to his friend. He had absolutely no interest in you.
You’re acting like a commitment was in order. But he had no obligations to you. YOUR obligation was to your friend. He didn’t see it as a date. You did. Very simply.
quite frankly all i’m hearing here is that you’re pissed that out of everyone at the table, you’re the only one who left alone.
thanks blondie…
same applies to a menage-a-trois, right? right.
Be there for your girl and suck it up….
Sometimes conversation just doesn’t click. Conflicting vibes or just both being embarrassed at the same time followed by an awkward silence. I’ve had girls throw themselves at me and others stand with their backs turned after two sentences. I has nothing to do with anything you should take personally OP. Sounds to me he brought that girl over in the hopes of getting an extra vibe in there to get things going and maybe even to look good to you. I and most men are aware that conversing naturally with other women usually impresses all women. You’re looking at this the worst possible way you could.
While the guy was no winner, I don’t think you’ve as much right to be mad as you think you do.
The guy sucked, agreed: he sounds like an idiot who couldn’t even play along for the sake of a nice but nothing-special night. If it were me, the moment I saw y friend hitting it off and notice nothing was going to come of me and the other guy, I would’ve found my friend, excused myself and left. She asked you to come along for her, I doubt she truly expected you to hit it off with the guy, I think she did her part to try and make you feel comfortable so you’d go to help her (nice of her!), it isn’t her fault he was trash. Her aim was to meet the other guy, you aim should’ve been to make her feel comfortable whether she did or didn’t like that guy. You both did your part: you had no other responsibility, if she was okay, you should’ve left the moment you wanted to.